Bridesmaids

Should I be upset???????

That sounds really frustrating. I would be upset too. I had one bridesmaid who didn't come to my shower because she got called into work. I thought that was a legit reason. It sounds like you need to talk to them. Tell them how you feel and that it is expected for them to participate in all the activities. You only get one stag, one shower, and one wedding.

If it helps, focus on the girls that are there for you. Not everyone will be and some might be there for you but in different ways.

Okay well sometimes people get more than one shower...but you get my point :).

Yes! I know its our special day not anyone eles but omg you think out of all pppl your friends the one you have asked to be part of your special day would actually be happy and want to share in your excitement along withother important things, i know ppl have other things in thier lives going on, but u only marry once if u're lucky lol! and only havve these events once so why not be ther for you, trust me i know the feeling , thank God for my MOH cause she the only one who been ther for me and shares in my excitment the other 3 well i should say 1 in particular are not to intrested to ask how things are going, or even show up to my birthday, shes been to one bridal show and that was it , she acted happy and excicted but i highly starting to believe she is , she has had a lot of drama in her life with da man shes with and seems not to be able to move on and find sumthing better , so one of BMs comment on that and said mayb thats the reason why she like that mayb she a bit jealous. Well weather or not she is  she didnt have to agree to be part of my wedding no one force her, these are friends i have known since highschool the ones who intoduced me to my Dh and actually mean something to me and now thier(her) attitude is making rethink our friendship, her being in the wedding. I have yet to see all the girls at one event togetehr with me its seems its always something and that to me concerns me if you cant make it to certain things how can i be sure you will be there for all the important things I dunno, I try it not get to me but its hard so I undstand where you are comming from, mayb you should try getting them together on da phone , online someway so thers so excuses and talk to them, i feel sometimes ppl dont get how importnat these things in life are you think you know your friends and then you get a huge awaking , ppl are not wrong when they say weddings & special events bring out all sort of things out of ppl, hope your girls get it together and just try enjoying your planning.

Absolutely. It is disappointing that people, especially your bridesmaids, cannot come. You start realizing who are your REAL true friends.
I went through something like this too - where people would make excuses not to come. But I chose not dwell on the negativity and focus more on the positive. It definitely makes the day so much better! And weddings are supposed to be about happiness!

But as macbride says, focus on the people who ARE coming for you. They are the people who care about you and want to make you a priority. That, in itself, is definitely a big UPPER in the mood!!! :D