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My BM is preggers!

I would ask her more about it.  It does sound like she's waiting to make a big announcement at your wedding...I'm with you on it's your special day, not hers!  That's like the other stories of people getting engaged at someone else's wedding.  They can have their time in the spotlight, it just shouldn't be done where it takes away from your & your FH's time in the spotlight!

Hey!  That is GREAT news...

Here's my guess...  she's waiting for the first trimester to be over before telling anyone.  Many first time moms, especially those who have had issues getting or staying pregnant, wait till those first tenuous 12 weeks are over.  I doubt it has anything to do with stealing your wedding thunder, and more with the fact that she is scared she might lose the baby....  

If she does want to share the good news on your day...  maybe you can ask permission to tell everyone yourself!  Make a special toast to her during the reception in congratulations and celebration?  Believe me, people have more than enough energy and attention to go around!  Something like this could only ADD joy to your day, not take away!

Good luck!
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hecallsmehisdarlin: Thanks for your advice. I agree that is so bad when people propose at someone else's wedding!
camyam73: I never thought about it like that. I really like your idea of giving a special toast to congratulate them. Thank you for your advice.

i love camyam73's idea! i would ask her and see if it's alright that you share the news by congratulating them! i think it's perfect!!

i agree with everyone else. Maybe she didn't realize what she said. i think you should ask and see what happens.

LOVE Camyam's idea. I think then it's a way to share the news, and to honor her. :) PS, this picture ALWAYS gets me teary eyed! What a fabulous thing giving birth is :) Well, after all the actual giving birth part :)

I agree with camyam73...I think that would be a great idea, then atleast its you bringing up the good news!
I just found out my sister is having a baby, she's 4 months already, so she'll be almost 5 by the time of my wedding....shes MOH too!!!!  
She's already told everyone, but its because she's already so far along, but I agree with camyam, she's probably waiting until she hits 3 months before she tells everyone.....

I have a pregnant bridesmaid too but she'll be delivering this September (8 months before our wedding).  I can see where you'd not want her to say anything at the wedding.  Are you having a brunch the next day?  If so, suggest that she break the news there instead.  Chances are all your family will be there.  You can propose the idea to her by playing it off that you want her to have all the attention and at your wedding there will be a lot going on so maybe she'd want to wait until afterwards.  If she thinks she'll get more attention at a different time then maybe she'll wait.  or if they must know before the wedding, maybe the rehearsal dinner??? Just a few ideas!  Good luck!

It's my first time being pregnant and although we haven't had any problems gettting pregnant, we waited to announce our pregnancy to anyone outside of our immediate family until between our 8 and 13 weeks.  I've known a lot of people who wait to tell because the risk of miscarriage is very high in the first 12 weeks.

With that being said, I don't understand why she is waiting for YOUR wedding.  Did she say after your wedding?  I would defnitely ask her--I don't think it's right for her to announce it at your wedding.  Not the time or place.  I didn't even feel right about telling an old friend of mine (we recently reconnected) at her bridal shower I was pregnant because I didn't want to take anything away from her.   Camyam had a great way to announce it if that is how it will happen.  No matter what, I don't think it will take away from you.  :-)

ladydamm: I think so too!
rachaeljustice2010: Yup I agree
amandasoontobemoury: I love this pic too! Yes the after part is definitely the best :).
jennyfur: That's fantastic news about your sister!
lampebride: That's a good idea about brunch the next day.
tiggre99: Ya I'm not sure why either. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Congratulations! I wish I was.

dreamingofpurple: I hope that you get pregnant soon!