07/12/2009
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Premarital Counseling
I'm a little nervous

Later today the FH and I have our first premarital counseling session with the pastor who will be officiating our wedding and I have to say that I am a little nervous. Why? you might ask, well because we don't see everything eye to eye(which i know is normal), in fact we are complete opposites. Im more liberal and hes more conservative (how that happened i dont know), i know that divorce is a real thing and happens to people all over the world, and i know that sometimes its whats best for some couples. He on the other hand does not and will not see it as an option. Plus, we have gone to couseling before and it didn't go well for reasons such as the couselor wasn't the greatest for us, it was REALLY REALLY expensive so we couldn't put as much money into as it took to make any real break and that at the time i had a lot of hurt feeling about various things (many of those things I've let go of now that i have a better understanding and not dealing with post partum emotions). I know I shouldn't worry about it because we love each other very much, and he makes me happy plus the pastor seems pretty chill about the whole thing as well. I guess we will have to see what the first session is like before i continue to freak out.

UPDATE:
everything went well, our pastor is so relaxed and chill that I (we) didn't feel any pressure. We went through our pre-pre marital inventories and it turns out that we actually have a pretty good balance in our relationship. just need to work on a couple of things but nothing major- i forget that after four years, we really have put a lot of work into it and that we really have worked on things makes us stronger.
deneanrae's Blue wedding
 |  Red deer, AB, Canada  |  07/12/2009  | 
Better to fight about it now then fight when it matters and you have to make real decisions. I am not doing pre maritual counselling.. we are not getting married in a church so its not required. We also have an open relationship and feel living together for 3 years and talking about the future etc is counseling enough ahha
mrsbeer's Green wedding
 |  Kamloops, BC, Canada  |  07/12/2009  | 
I was worried about our counseling too but it was actually ok and we did benefit from it. We communicate better, and it also helped with my husband's relationship with my family (they didn't get along too well before). It is nerve racking but you can do it! :)
pumehanaokalani's Purple wedding
 |  Hagatna, 00, Guam  |  07/12/2009  | 
I'm nervous about out sessions as well, but don't have to take them just yet. My Future SIL is going through hers now and so far it's been pretty okay according to her.
Hope everything goes well with yours.
hassman459's  wedding
 |  Jaipur, 24, India  |  10/25/2012  | 
Thank you. Some outstanding information there that I wish I had known before the end of some relationships came. Sometimes communication is the problem. When one of the two does not want to understand the other’s point of view. Things get stopped before they are shared.

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