Hello ladies!!!! This will more than likely be my last post on here!!! I just wanted to share wit...
I know this is a wedding planning "club" but I want to turn some attention to marriage planning.
D and I live together already, we already split the bills and already make a lot of decisisions together. I'm sure those of you who have children share that responsibility also.
I would love to hear from everyone...what are you doing to prepare for living together and most importantly being married. Also the girls who are married are there any tips to share?
Dwayne and I already live together... here are my trials and tribulations and tips that we found helpful.
One of the hardest things for us was scheduling. Scheduling times for others, for families, for friends. When we first moved in together it was what we argued about the most. The thing that helped us was to make a schedule. How much time we spend with friends, with family and most importantly with each other. We set date nights and it was exciting waiting for that date!
Another problem was FOOD. Yes FOOD. We're very different eaters. When we go out to eat its not a problem because there's so many selections each of us can pick whatever we want. But trying to save some money in this downspil of a economy we try to cook at home. While he's steak, porkchops, fried chicken, french fries and burger kind of guy, I'm more of a salad, salmon, whole wheat eating kind of gal. It was hard cooking a meal that he would eat and that wouldn't make me want to curl up and sleep. We try to plan our meals in advance. I'll throw some ideas and we'll come up with a "menu" that suits both of us, even though it sometimes doesn't go together.
Once we're married and decide to have children that will be another challenge but we're trying to discuss things like schooling, rewarding, spending time with kids now and share what we grew up with and how we should handle things together.
My last point, Dwayne and I come from different backgrounds. and I don't know anyone who's married whose families were exactly the same. I appreciate what both of us have to bring to the table but there is also a lot of compromise in how we do things. In my family we never ate in front of the TV. We sat down at a table and ate, Dwayne likes to eat in front of the TV. We compromise, if I cook a nice meal we will sit down and eat, but we plan this. If I know North Carolina is playing I'm not going to dig my heels in and insist on eating at the table. We grab our trays, pull up the coffee table and eat together while watching the Tar Heels.
I've never compromised more in my life than when D and I moved in together. Definitely communication is the key.