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02/18/2009
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Ugh...I accidently deleted my question.... NWR but does anyone here suffer from anxiety?
I have really severe anxiety which causes me to have anxiety attacks daily, and panic attacks pretty frequently, not no mention other things that makes daily life a real struggle. I was talking to a friend of mine who already has this "I know everything" attitude because of what she's going to school for and its gotten to the point that I don't even know why I tell her anything anymore. Anyways what she was telling me kind of made me mad because it was like she was making it seem like its not that big of a deal and can be easily fixed. She works in a lab and does volunteer work doing studies on people so she "knows" about this stuff, and because she's taken classes on it, blah blah blah. She was telling me that I should go see a therapist and take medication because basically it will get rid of the problem. And since she is "so knowledgeable" in this area with people and disorders, she says that it's one of the easiest to treat. I don't know how true the last part is but it all made me mad.
Am I being overly sensitive about this or am I within reason for my feelings? Btw, I'm not saying medication and therapy can't work, or that I'm against it because I know they could help you live life more normally, and that it varies from person to person because we're all different.. My issue is just how she seems to think therapy and meds WILL make the problem go away and that it's not a big deal. And if I were able to, I would see a doctor but right now I can't. |
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01/23/2009
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NWR: Photographer
Well its slightly wedding related
While searching for a wedding photographer I came across one who caught my attention because of a project she's doing that she calls “Project Blended”. She began this project because she has always been interested in the issues of interracial people and couples. And so as a way of celebrating the growth of interculturalism in our society, she photographs mixed race couples and individuals. Anyone interested can email her and schedule a shoot. So I did since my fiancé and I are both mixed, he’s Puerto Rican/Filipino and I’m Japanese/Mexican. She messaged me back giving me a little more info on it and it sounds great. All we have to do is sign a release form so she can publish the pictures (she hopes to turn this project into a book), we get about an hour, and she’ll give us pictures on a disc. Best of all its free! And since my fiancé and I are both mixed she’ll be taking photographs of us individually and together as a couple. I've also been referring a lot of our friends and family since most are either mixed themselves, in a interracial relationship, or both. I’m really excited about this! I’m even considering hiring her as our wedding photographer because not only do I like her work, she’s within our price range, but I think she’ll enjoy seeing all of the different races we’ll have.
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01/22/2009
 generalized-anxiety-disorder (which is what I have) |
Venting
Last week my FMIL put a deposit down on our reception site to make sure we got the date we wanted. Everything else can wait because we wanted, or at least I thought we wanted this place on this particular date. This site has been the one thing that has stayed the same throughout the entire wedding planning process. Right now I find out she’s STILL looking at reception sites, and even requesting information on them. I don’t understand why she’s doing that. And, she and my fiancé are discussing these places as possibilities THEN talking to me about it. My fiancé was telling me that it’s cheaper and that he likes the payment plan. Ok that’s all fine but the problem with that is the price to rent the place including food is “only” $1,500 which comes out to less than $7 a person, or so I was told. That price would be great, but not possible. The website says differently so obviously I was told something wrong. AND, one of the things I really liked about our original location is we can bring in our own food which is what I was looking for because we wanted Hawaiian food. Our original location is beautiful, outdoors (which is what I wanted, I can’t say we anymore), wouldn’t need that many decorations, and is already booked but apparently she can get the money back. This new place is nothing special; it would be a last resort if anything. it’s indoors, and very dull which obviously would require more decorations than the original place.
I know I tend to over react with certain situations and I’ll probably feel like an idiot later but this is really bothering me, plus I have severe panic and anxiety, so I feel like a total bridezilla right now because I really freaked out over this. I actually feel sick right now. I hate getting so worked up over something like this, meaning not life and death. I'm so happy that my FMIL is excited about this wedding and wanted to be included in the planning and is helping to pay for it, but this isn't the first time she's gotten too involved, which is probably part of the reason I'm getting so worked up over it. She actually used to schedule times to get together to plan and everything but I'd be the last person to know, or not even be told!. My future sister-in-law and fiancé have even told her she needs to back off, but here it is happening again. This is even causing me to have a panic attack, for those of you who gets those you understand.... |
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01/15/2009
 confused-monkey |
Small vent, Only semi wedding related
Slight issue with MOH
I posted something about this a couple months ago but accidentally deleted it and it happened again. So I'm just venting again.
Anyways, whenever I come up with something for my wedding or life in general there are at least 4 people I mention it to. My Best Friend/MOH being one of those people, almost always dislikes any of my ideas with no reason or suggestion on how to better it. The others are much more supportive but would give the needed constructed criticism if it calls for it. I understand that we have different personalities and our interests have changed over the years but still. It's like she's not supportive of anything I want/like. I know she's happy for me that I'm getting married so I don't think its that. Although, when my fiance and I first got together she actually told me she was bitter about it because she wasn't in a relationship. Then after she got a boyfriend her attitude changed. She was always the type of girl who had (or had to have) a boyfriend, I didn't, so I honestly feel that she thought she would get married first because of that. And, since we live in 2 different states our only form of communication is through phone or email, whenever I text her she basically only responds when she has something negative to say. A few Examples -We're having a Hawaiian wedding. So naturally with the Hawaiian inspiration we're going to wear leis. She was against the idea. No reason, just against it. Everyone else was all for it. -The wedding dress I wanted, didn't like the style for me (mermaid). Everyone else loved it. -Most recent, I've decided to start my own at home business (something I've been doing since I was about 14 but just now making it an official business) and after coming up with the name I text everyone what it was because I was very proud and excited about it. They all loved it with shown enthusiasm. She didn't like it, thought it was weird. there are more examples.... My fiance calls her a negative Nancy, lol. My mom asked why I don't talk to her about it. I normally would be the confrontational type wanting to know what their problem is, but I really do not want to get into an arrangement which I know will happen no matter how I approach it. So I'm choosing to keep quiet and try to ignore it. I just don't get why she can't be supportive. Even if its not something she would personally do, my ideas are so ME, it makes sense that I would choose to do them. Am I looking too much into this? Or do I have actual reason to be slightly annoyed? |
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12/23/2008
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NWR: I'm going to be an auntie! Sort of
I just found out that my future sister-in-law is going to have a baby! I'm so excited! We're not sure when she's due but she just recently found out so she's probably not very far a long. I also realized it'll probably be around the time of our wedding so we need to figure something out since she is supposed to be a bridesmaid, but I'm not concerned about that. I don't care if she's ready to pop I still want her in it if she's willing/able to. I think it would be really cool to have the baby born around our anniversary. I'm already thinking of so much to do, such as throwing her a shower if possible. I love kids and since I have no siblings any nephews or nieces that I get are from his siblings. I'm just really excited and can't stop smiling :)
UPDATE! Just found out she's a little father along than I thought, just a little. She's due August 20th which works out better wedding wise since she's a bridesmaids. I'm so excited! We need a baby in the family! Whats even more exciting is the baby is coming around our anniversary :) |
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12/10/2008
 This is what the front of his business card looks like, with the actual info obviously :) this is the back of the card    |
I'm so happy and excited!
NWR: My FH started his own business!
He is what’s called an “Auto Decor Specialist”. I’ve never even heard of this job title until he started apprenticing with a family friend (which owns his own business as well, He helped Tommy with everything in order for him to start this one up). It’s a mobile business, so he will be going to auto body shops and car dealers to do certain jobs whenever they need him for pin striping, wheel welling, using blackout tape, applying decals, and even selling supplies to those who do these things themselves. I will also be working with him as the “book keeper” since I’m good with money and keeping records.
This business seems to have a lot of potential with customers and expansion. Out of the entire LA County area, Frank the man who helped this happen, only has 3% of the auto body shops and car dealers as customers. The rest are basically up for grabs since apparently this line of work is not common. We of course needed business cards and ordered them from vistaprint, which I’m really excited about. We even started a website from there as well. I’ve always wanted to own by own business, now my fiancé has one. Hopefully if this goes well it’ll allow me to open the businesses I’ve wanted which are mainly a spa and a restaurant. :) |
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12/04/2008
 Yes, I am a cat lover :) |
Our First Dance Song
My FH actually has some input!
Normally he just tells me to do what I want because he trusts me to make a good choice and because he has no idea what to do (typical guy). But today he surprised me by texting me a song he thought would be good for our first dance. As he put it, "Its pretty much our story in a song." I'm very excited. The fact that he did it on his own really makes me happy, It made my day :). I don't mind planning this on my own but since the wedding is about the both of us I really would have liked him to be a part of it. But whenever he does have some input it always has a meaning behind it, like this song, which I think is sweet.
So here it is: "Cross the Line" by John Legend |
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11/24/2008
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Themes
Why we chose ours
Before I joined WBC I used to be in the wedding section of yahoo answers. Like The Knot those women were awful. They criticized anything. Everything was stupid or tacky because someone was either jealous, bitter, or just didn’t have the same taste. I stopped using it because it made me so mad how everything was completely negative and everyone was so freakin angry. It’s one thing to not like something, but there is no need to be rude about it. Anyways, one of the oh so many “controversial” topics on there were wedding themes. More often than not people had a problem with them, “wedding should be the theme for a wedding”, or “themes make weddings look childish”, and so on. I remember seeing an answer often being used that you can have a themed party anytime, but if you had a party with a wedding theme you would look like an idiot. Even if that’s true, I always wondered why we all “had” to have that cookie cutter wedding if it wasn’t what WE really wanted.
We didn’t decided to have a theme just for the sake of having a theme. It was a way to include something important to the both of us not only individually, but as a couple. What better way could we do that? And even though you guys are nothing like those women, here are our reasons. I don’t feel the need to explain myself, I just want to (I had the urge to do another post but had nothing new to blog about :]). Some reasons are just coincidental, but either way, there always seems to be some Hawaiian connection within our lives: -My future-in-laws met in Hawaii -I have family from Hawaii (I’m so “Americanized” that one set of my great grandparents were even born there. Thats important because ignorant people seem to think that since I'm Japaneses and Mexican that I don't belong here.) -For as long as we can remember we have been interested in the culture -His (only) niece has a Hawaiian name -My FMIL teaches her own Hula/Tahitian class. And not only are other members of his family in it but mine as well. They even make their own costumes. -Many times a year we do something or go somewhere that has to do with the Hawaiian culture (we go to hula competitions, they are apart of an annual dance show and even are sometimes hired to dance) -Even though my fiancé and I have known each other literally forever, it was because of his mom’s class that we became friends (it was taught at my house) -I was in Hawaii when my fiancé asked me out |
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11/22/2008
 Mochi! 1122082051 1122082107    |
A new addition to the family
A kitty! Obviously has nothing to do with weddings :)
She and I instantly grew attached to each other. We decided to name her Mochi.
The pictures aren't very good because they were taken with a camera phone. Oh well. And she looks bigger then she really is. |
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11/05/2008
 OppositesAttract |
Just for fun
Are you and your fiancé 2 peas in a pod, or did opposites attract?
We're definitely 2 peas in a pod because we are almost exactly the same. Same taste in music, same taste in movies, same hobbies and interests, same personality and sense of humor, we think and speak the same, have the same wants and goals in life, our birthdays are in the same month, we're both Asian and Latino, we even dress the same (ok that sounds weird. But my clothing consists of jeans and t-shirts, so its not that weird). I'm always telling people if you know Tommy then you know me because I'm basically just a female version of him. We do of course have a few differences, but for the most part we're the same.
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mekana
| 3 | years since wedding |
Megan
Tommy
Aug 25, 2010
Walnut,
California,
United States
Toyo Miyatake Studio
Blue
We're having a Hawaiian style/theme/inspired wedding. I'm marrying my best friend and can't wait to finally become his wife!
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