This is mekana's Blue Wedding!

We're definitely 2 peas in a pod because we are almost exactly the same. Same taste in music, same taste in movies, same hobbies and interests, same personality and sense of humor, we think and speak the same, have the same wants and goals in life, our birthdays are in the same month, we're both Asian and Latino, we even dress the same (ok that sounds weird. But my clothing consists of jeans and t-shirts, so its not that weird). I'm always telling people if you know Tommy then you know me because I'm basically just a female version of him. We do of course have a few differences, but for the most part we're the same.

For us, it could have been better. He said I gave him a lot of attitude and he was a jerkto me (we were 6). Our families go back years before we were born so that may not even be the first time we met. But based on what we remember, we hated each other for years because of it. It still surprises us that we're together now. But I think it's a fun story to tell.

An Unmanageable Mom
"I've played 'wedding planner' to several of my friends' weddings, and one of the worst things I've seen happen was when the mother of one of my friends didn't want the marriage to take place. At the wedding, she 'fell' going up the stairs to the chapel and made a scene, saying that she 'wouldn't be able to walk down the aisle now.' Throughout the ceremony, she sighed every minute or so, loudly enough that the officiant asked if she were okay.

"Once the dancing started at the reception, she was just fine, but then she decided to throw the bouquet herself and cut a piece of cake before the bride and groom!

"Needless to say, she was none too happy about the room she got locked in for the rest of the night."

Wedding Dress Doppelganger
"I found my perfect wedding dress in a magazine, located it at a store in a nearby city, and tried it on. It was perfect. I showed my younger cousin (she was going to be a bridesmaid) a picture of the dress, and she loved it too — in fact, she loved it so much that she had the exact same dress made to wear to her high school graduation!"

Overeager for Involvement
"Right after my fiancé and I got engaged, our whole family was so excited to be part of our planning … too excited. My future sister-in-law decided her sons should be in the wedding party. When we told her we didn't want any children in the wedding party or at the reception, she threw a fit. She called anyone who would listen to tell them how terrible we were being, and she told her sons we didn't love them because we didn't want them there. (Totally not true.) She even went so far to say that she and her husband weren't coming! She successfully made our engagement about her."

Inappropriate Guest Requests
"I had a family member who thought that I shouldn't have a traditional wedding with all the trimmings the second time around. When discussing the wedding, she told me that it was an inconvenience to take the day off, she didn't like the time of year we chose, we shouldn't be having it in a church, and she'd prefer to wear jeans since that's what she's most comfortable in!"

Unnecessary Fittings
"My maid of honor actually tried on wedding dresses for her while the rest of the bridesmaids were trying on bridesmaid dresses."

Misleading Guest List
"My future mother-in-law gave me at least five wrong addresses (that I know of … there may be more) for our invitations. Even my fiancé's sister's address was incorrect. She obviously did this on purpose. I've had to resend these invitations by doing my own research to find their addresses. Along with the added postage, my humiliation has skyrocketed."

Mom's Time to Shine
"My mom said that she was going to wear her old wedding dress to my wedding because I couldn't outdo her!"

1. Men who kiss their wives in the morning live five years longer than those who don't.

2. People are more likely to tilt their heads to the right when kissing instead of the left (65 percent of people go to the right!)

3. When it comes to doing the deed early in the relationship, 78 percent of women would decline an intimate rendezvous if they had not shaved their legs or underarms.

4. Feminist women are more likely than other females to be in a romantic relationship.

5. Two-thirds of people report that they fall in love with someone they've known for some time vs. someone that they just met.

6. There's a reason why office romances occur: The single biggest predictor of love is proximity.

7. Falling in love can induce a calming effect on the body and mind and raises levels of nerve growth factor for about a year, which helps to restore the nervous system and improves the lover's memory.

8. Love can also exert the same stress on your body as deep fear. You see the same physiological responses — pupil dilation, sweaty palms, and increased heart rate.

9. Brain scans show that people who view photos of a beloved experience an activation of the caudate — the part of the brain involving cravings.

10. The women of the Tiwi tribe in the South Pacific are married at birth.

11. The "Love Detector" service from Korean cell phone operator KTF uses technology that is supposed to analyze voice patterns to see if a lover is speaking honestly and with affection. Users later receive an analysis of the conversation delivered through text message that breaks down the amount of affection, surprise, concentration and honesty of the other speaker.

12. Eleven percent of women have gone online and done research on a person they were dating or were about to meet, versus seven percent of men.

13. Couples' personalities converge over time to make partners more and more similar.

14. The oldest known love song was written 4,000 years ago and comes from an area between the Tigris and Euphrates Rivers.

15. The tradition of the diamond engagement ring comes from Archduke Maximillian of Austria who, in the 15th century, gave a diamond ring to his fiancée, Mary of Burgundy.

16. Forty-three percent of women prefer their partners never sign "love" to a card unless they are ready for commitment.

17. People who are newly in love produce decreased levels of the hormone serotonin — as low as levels seen in people with obsessive-compulsive disorder. Perhaps that's why it's so easy to feel obsessed when you're smitten.

18. Philadelphia International Airport finished as the No. 1 best airport for making a love connection, according to an online survey.

19. According to mathematical theory, we should date a dozen people before choosing a long-term partner; that provides the best chance that you'll make a love match.

20. A man's beard grows fastest when he anticipates sex.

21. Every Valentine's Day, Verona, the Italian city where Shakespeare's play Romeo and Juliet took place, receives around 1,000 letters addressed to Juliet.

21. When we get dumped, for a period of time we love the person who rejected us even more, says Dr. Helen Fisher of Rutgers University and author of Why We Love. The brain regions that lit up when we were in a happy union continue to be active.

22. People telling the story of how they fell in love overwhelmingly believe the process is out of their control.

23. Familiarity breeds comfort and closeness … and romance.

24. One in five long-term love relationships began with one or both partners being involved with others.

25. OK, this one may not surprise you, but we had to share it: Having a romantic relationship makes both genders happier. The stronger the commitment, the greater the happiness!

I'm not sending them out just yet, it's been on my mind for a while and thought I should just ask. Plus, it doesn't hurt to have it for future reference.


Just to add, we're not having a caterer so we really can't go by that =)

We were going to have a slide show, but decided against it (didn’t want to deal with the equipment and didn’t know when to have it since our wedding will be outdoors and would have to consider the lighting). So now I’m trying to find another way to display the photos we would have had in the slide show. Any ideas?

The plan was for us to go out to eat. We invited some people, 2 of which said yes they’re coming (my cousin and her boyfriend who she met through us since he's our friend) and everyone else was a maybe since we told them last minute. Then I find out my parents were coming. Ok great, this could be a nice sized group. So I get home today and call my mom to find out when she plans leaving for the restaurant since we were all supposed to go together. She tells me “Oh I guess we’re not going!” with this I don’t care attitude (she didn't even tell my dad that she changed her mind about going). I asked why, she said “because I’m not home” I was like wtf. It wasn’t even a “maybe” we’ll go when she first told me they were coming with us, it was a “yeah we’re going” with you guys out to eat. So I was pretty irritated with that. Then I find out my cousin and our friend/her boyfriend aren’t going either. He (her boyfriend since we're closer to him than my cousin) didn’t even have the decency to give a reason. No “something came up”, “family emergency” “I forgot I had something to do” “I don’t feel well”, nothing, just “Oh, we’re not going”. I WAS PISSED. I absolutely HATE flakes, and to top it all off I’m pmsing. He probably wouldn’t have even told us they weren’t going if we didn’t ask. He did something like that to us earlier this month so it really isn’t surprising but nonetheless bothersome. What made me even more angry about those two flaking was, a few months ago for their 2 MONTH anniversary we went with them out to eat to celebrate. But they couldn’t bother coming with us for our 4-YEAR ANNIVERSARY? SERIOUSLY?! I get that its not as important to them as it is to us, but still. All of that just ruined it for us. But thankfully, we were still able to go celebrate it. We ended up going out to eat with my fiancé’s aunt and uncle who’s 35th wedding anniversary is today, and his father. His father treated all of us, which was really nice. So at least we were able to do something regardless of people flaking on us. I know it's not the end of the world, but it doesn't make it any less disappointing.

My fiancé and I were talking about weddings today and the mention of how the bride is the only one who should wear white came up. He told me this story about a wedding he had gone to where one of the guests showed up in a white dress and a hat with a veil. He over heard how she did that all because the bride (who apparently was supposed to be a friend) didn’t invite her new boyfriend. So out of spite she decided to make herself look like an idiot. Anyways, I’m not sure if the bride had the bridesmaids do this or if it was all on their own, but when that woman left they all beat the crap out of her, ripped up her dress and everything. I think what really pushed them over the edge was her reason for why she did it. But either way it was a bit much over her immaturity.


When I heard this I knew I wanted to post it.

But to answer my own question, I'd do nothing. I wouldn't need to. I'm sure everyone there wouldn't mistake the other person for the bride. And I wouldn't be the one looking like a fool.

Originally my fiancé and I were supposed to have a destination wedding this month in Hawaii. Something came up so we decided to not do it. We didn't buy our tickets so it wasn't that big of a deal for us cost wise, we just need to redo our planning. Anyways, my best friend/maid of honor and her boyfriend were the only 2 people who bought their tickets. Since we had the change in plans we of course were going to pay them back for their tickets since they were only going for us (which was specifically said by her). Right away I emailed her about our situation about why we're changing the location, and that we will be paying her back. She and I talked about it and came to the agreement that my fiancé and I were going to pay the difference for them to take the trip at a later time (which was about half of their original ticket). Turns out they went to Hawaii at the time they first bought the tickets for. I'm obviously going to have to discuss this with her once again but now what are my obligations for what we pay back? Are they the same? I'm not trying to get out of paying her back, it's just she disregarded our first arrangement without discussing it or even just letting me know. I didn't know she left for Hawaii, I didn't know she came back. I knew nothing of this trip until I saw her pictures on myspace right now. Not sure if any of this makes a difference, that's why I'm asking.


UPDATE!

Turns out she felt bad for putting an extra burden on me by "making" me pay her back while paying for a wedding (her words, not mine) and decided to just go on the trip anyways. She didn't want to tell me about it before because she thought it would be weird and make me unhappy knowing she was basically on my honeymoon. I stressed out for nothing, but thats nothing new when it comes to me. I'm just glad it didn't turn into something ugly.

If you're not having a weekday wedding, if you've ever attended one what time was it at?

We don't have much of one. We're only 6 days apart, he's older.

Example: A siblings spouse, sibling, parent, etc


For my fiancé and I, it's his brother's wife. She's "nice" to your face but has this "I'm better than you" attitude. And because of that (I guess it's a good thing, just rude) she's never at any of their family gatherings and always has some lame excuse. So the good thing about her never showing up, we hope she won't actually show up to our wedding! Extremely rude but it's better than wasting money and a seat on her. At some point we were even considered just not inviting her. Some background on my relationship with her and her family. My family has known her family longer than her husband has even known her. Before I was even born (she's about 13 years older than me) her family used to rent out an apartment that was owned by my grandparents. And even more than just that, her family was "friends" with my family. So, when they got married SHE only invited my grandmother and not my grandfather JUST because he didn't have the same beliefs as her. How rude is that? Maybe it just bothers me because it's my family, but either way I do not like her. Actually, no one really does.

These weren't my first choice because originally I wanted them to look like boarding passes. But, I was going to make those myself and now I really don't want to put that much effort into just save the dates. So I decided to go with vistaprint.com like so many of you because they're cheap and I know I like the way their products come out. I just don't know which design I like the most. There are a few that I like but don't like the colors so I don't know which to go with.

I like # 5 but I don't care for the colors.
And # 7 is my favorite but I don't know about the shot.

I ran out of things to post for now so I thought I'd start asking more questions =)


For me it would also have to be celebrating with friends and family, and seeing how all my hard work and planning turns out.

First, we pushed back our wedding date from this August to next spring because a lot of our guests were unable to attend our DW (understandable). So we decided to have it in our home state and with the wedding date approaching we pushed it back to give us more time to re-plan everything. We want them there so it’s a sacrifice we’re willing to make, we just don’t want to keep waiting to FINALLY be married. Having to wait is what killed me.

Second, my fiancé lost his job because some guy decided to lie and say he was stealing money from the company. He’s fired but there is no real proof of him doing anything wrong.

Third, my fiancé’s father convinces his mother that I’m a bad person so she decides she doesn’t want to pay for the wedding anymore. Now don’t get me wrong, we were planning on paying for the wedding ourselves and never expected her to pay for anything. BUT, she’s the one who insisted on paying for it and didn’t want us to worry about it, which is what we were doing.

Fourth, 2 groomsmen dropped out so now we need to find 2 more. One just didn’t want to be in it, the other pretty much dropped off the face of the earth (the best man, some “friend” huh?). I know we can have an uneven wedding party but I have a thing with numbers (apart of my OCD).

Fifth, today I find out, with no known reason, my fiancé’s mother decides to cancel her Hula class. They were supposed to dance for us at our LUAU reception. I’m extremely annoyed with this because she would nag the dancers to be at practice and if they want to dance they need to be devoted to it. AND they just ordered new costumes a couple of months ago that they only used once. Then all of a sudden she cancels the class. I guess I'm bugged by this because her class is what brought my fiancé and I together in the first place.

Sixth, my fiancé’s father doesn't want him to marry me because I'm a "bad person" and is always talking about me behind my back. I've never given him ANY reason for him to not like me but he just thinks things and convinces himself its true. At least my fiancé stands up for me. This ruins something I wanted to include in the wedding ceremony which was a "Lei Exchange" with our parents. Its a symbol of accepting the person in the family. How can I do that to someone who doesn't even want me as apart of his family?


There are more, this is just what I have right now. I’m really annoyed and stressed out about everything. I know it’s not the end of the world and things could be so much worse and I probably shouldn't even be complaining, but still! Wedding planning is stressful in itself. Plus, I stress out really easily. I don't know, I'm probably just over reacting.

We are both American and we are both of mixed ethnicity. I'm Japanese and Mexican and my fiancé is Puerto Rican and Filipino. Neither of us is really in touch with our heritage, but we would still like to show that we value our ethnic backgrounds. Originally we had planned on adding traditional customs to our wedding, but we didn't really like anything specific. Instead we've decided to just add cultural tones into our wedding. For my Japanese side I was thinking something with origami, but for my Mexican side I'm still lost. For his Puerto Rican side we were thinking of doing a Salsa dance as a part of our first dance, but unsure about what to do for the Filipino side. I'm still trying to find things that we might like to add. Any ideas or suggestions?

I should also add that we're having a few Japanese and Filipino dishes in the buffet but would like something to include other than food.

And, I know adding that many different cultures may look out of place so we're not looking for anything elaborate. Simple is good, just to include that small touch of each particular culture.


I'm loving the ideas though. So thank you!

First thing I did right after he proposed was set up our wedding site. I used ewedding.com and I love how everything turned out. It was so simple to make. I'm still very excited about it, even (exactly) 7 months later.

I really love the idea of a wedding site and I love looking at other people's wedding sites.


www.MeganWedsTommy.com

Yesterday I went to a High School Graduation for one person but then realized that someone else I knew was graduating with him too. Anyways, that second person is the daughter of one of my mom’s friends, who just got married this past May. I was joking with my fiancé while we were at the graduation saying can you imagine being her husband (22) and someone asks “So what does your wife do for a living?’ “Nothing yet. She’s still in high school.” Or “What are you doing tonight?” “I’m going to my wife’s high school graduation.” Even though he probably wouldn’t mention the high school part but you get the point.

I only know one other person who was married while being in high school (but that was over 30 years ago when she did it) so this was just a bit of a shock.

Yeah thats true about people doing it years ago, but things are so different now.

Just to clarify, I'm not talking about getting engaged in high school or at a young age, I knew a lot of people who did that. But actually getting married while still in high school. I'm not saying it won't work because I have no way of knowing that.

Pix 1: A lei making station. I went to a Luau in Hawaii when I was 10 and this is one of the things I really remembered. We'll be already giving leis to our guests, but I thought the kids would have fun making some.

Pix 2: Foam Magnet Craft kit

Pix 3: Foam Surfboards to decorate how they want

Pix 4: Magic Color Rainbow scratcher

Pix 5: Bubbles

Pix 6: Stickers to create their own "Aquarium"

Everything will be packaged in brightly colored bags with their individual names.


1 found at www.alohafriends.com
2 thru 7 found at www.orientaltrading.com


We're expecting around 15 kids

After the ceremony, while we're having our photos taken, we wanted to have a few things available to our guests so they don't get bored.

-Photo booth (maybe)
-Guest book (not just one where you sign your names)
-Slide show of pictures of when we were kids and of us together

I still have no idea how to decorate the reception!

Best Man
Kevin- Tommy's Best Friend

Groomsmen
Micheal- Our Friend
Paul - Our Friend (He's too difficult to get a picture of!)
Rigo- Our Friend
Brandon- Our Friend
Herman- Our Friend

Maid of Honor
Marissa- My Best Friend since the 4th grade

Bridesmaids
Corinne- My Closest Cousin
Vanessa- Tommy's Sister
Roslyn- Our Friend
Eunice - Our Friend
Andrina- My school Friend since Kindergarten

I love these. I'd rather use these than regular stamps but we'll see. I might not care when it comes time to needing them.

I came across these pictures while looking for things for my wedding and saved them so I can show my photographer.

Pix 4: I would also like one with the groomsmen carrying me.

Pix 6: I thought this one was cute because it reminds me of how when we kiss my cousin and one of our friends always make a big deal out of it.

Pix 7 and 8: Aren't that clear because I had to take a picture of the computer screen because they were on a photographers website.

Pix 8: I thought would be nice since our wedding location has arches just like it.

Pix 9: Rather than saying "Thank You" it's going to say "Mahalo" and we'll be doing the hang loose hand sign

Their names will be in English and in Hawaiian like the 3rd picture.


Mekana (Megan)
Kome (Tommy)

We’ve decided to have a candy buffet. No one we know (about 10 couples in the past 3 years alone have gotten married) has had one so even though they’re very popular right now, it’ll be new to all of our guests. I also really want to give “Lauhala Boxes” to go with our theme. So we’re having both.

As for the kids, I was hoping to get them “Lilo and Stitch” Coloring books but I can’t seem to find any. So instead I’ll make them one by printing coloring pages I've found online. Then of course crayons to color with. And also a stuffed animal Honu (turtle).