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STRIPERS!!!!!!!!!!!LAP DANCE WTF

Welllllll...lol me personally, I expect my FH to have strippers. As a matter of fact...*I* plan to have strippers or be at some type of strip club. So I cant fault him if he does. It's a bachelor party and if strippers are involved *That's What They DO*! They want to make the man's last single night somewhat memorable. I would only flip if lips were placed anywhere or hands were groping thangs...then I'd have a reason to be upset. But hun, if I were you, I wouldn't be upset over a lap dance. Matter of fact...give him a better one! lol Just Woo Saah and make sure your bachelorette party is off the CHAIN if you have one! I've been to a couple with bachelorettes and they were no where near shy about enjoying the strippers and entertainment lol Just my opinion!

From my understanding he was rubbing back and such, thinking about it makes me sick. i understand that most of guys have strippers and such but i think im more pissed about the lab dance some girl all up over him!! and then when i had my bachelorette he was all like dont be dancing with no guys dont be going to no strip bars!!!
then i found out he goes and does it then on top of that gets a lap dance!!!

I  told my guy that if he wants to act single he can be single! lol So they're going on a camping trip for his bachlor party.

I'm sorry your upset, thats why communicated to my guy that I'm NOT ok with that crap.

If it makes you feel better, it was some trashy piece of meat and No guy has respect for them really. He Loves you and is Marrying YOU. So just have fun on your bachlorette party and do the same ;)

I think you are over reacting.  I expect for him to have strippers at his Bachelor Party., I'm cool because at the end of the day who is he marrying. The strippers are just for entertaining purposes only, nothing more. I would want him to have a good time on his last night, before we get married. I wouldn't be boiling over no lap dance as long as it don't go far as getting happy endings, touching and other things. On your wedding night dance for him and make it special that he would never forget.

Yea i kinda wish we talked about this before he went out!, and i had my bachlorette the weekend before his and he was telling me not to be dancing with guys and such so did dance with anyone but my girls for him i thought he would of did the same for me but i guess not!

I know i love him and i know he loves me, just makes me made thinking about some girl all up over him!

The good thing about this is that bachelor parties only happen once (hopefully). And if he goes to a bachelor party for someone else, the attention is only on the bachelor, the main focus person of the party. Yes that was backwards for him to tell you not to go, but do it himself. To my understanding, the bachelors don't plan their parties though. Im not sure if he planned to go to a strip club, usually that's the job of the best man and groomsmen and they will make SURE  the bachelor gets all the attention from the females. It's a guy thing. And at the same time, females make sure their bachelorette is taken care of too. It's done and over with, but lesson learned to openly communicate what you want and dont want, like and dont like, will and will not tolerate in the marriage :-) it's a learning situation, so hopefully he will respect it in the future. No stresses and no worries babe!

Babygirl calm down, it's all good. It's you he is marrying and there is no need to worry about a stripper because thats her job and it is purly for entertainment.

dont' start off your future worrying about the what if's you'll be asking that forever if you do. Trust and understand that it was purly entertainment and it doesn't deminish the love your FH has for you one bit, if anything it makes it stronger. She is working you are who he chose!

This is really personal, and it's a tough one, but yeah, something that should have been discussed before he went. Now that it's done, you have two options - hold onto it or let it go. For your own sanity, I would let it go. It does only happen once, and while I really do empathize cuz it would suck to think about, I would probably try to let it go...

I do not think you're wrong though for being mad - for two reasons.
1) Why do you know details about him rubbing back? Not that I want you in the dark, but that kinda detail is wholly unnecessary and serves no purpose except to p*ss you off. Truthfully, I dunno what Mark's guys are gonna make him do, but I don't really wanna know... I'm ok with ignorance especially cuz I really trust Mark to know his limits. I know he won't do something dumb so I don't need details. You know?
2) he told you not to do what he went and did. I can't stand the double standard. That's what I would be most pissed about. Clearly he doesn't think it's cool for you to do, or you wouldn't have been issued that warning..

BUT at the end of the day, what's done is done. I would talk to himand air out how frustrated the situation made you, but then I would try and let it go.

I wouldn't say you're overacting because if thats how you feel about strippers thats how you are entitled to feel.

I don't know if it makes you feel any better but to the stripper it's just business and most times to the men it's just mindless fun.

I used to bartend at a strip place in college and i can tell you that most of the strippers could care less about the men it was just a job and they were working. And for most men it was just a quick party.

As long as he's not a regular at the place and he  didn't have intercourse I can assure you have nothing to worry about.

LOL...girl don't stress that. To me, it seems like good clean fun. It's expected for your FH's friends to throw something extreme like this. Most of the time, its really for your FH's friends enjoyment because your FH probably doesnt want to partake in the festivites because he knows he has a good thing for him at home (you). I wouldnt' sweat it! Matter of fact, I probably would have never asked the details of his bach party, for reasons like this.

I can’t stand the boys will be boys attitude, so just let them be, kind of crap!!! I’m so content that my FH shares my views on this and is going to a white water rafting center with his boys! He refuses to let the “only once scenario” be a pass at seeing another woman (someone’s mother, daughter, sister) naked. I don’t want some dude flailing his jimmy around in my face!!! No thank you!!! not my idea of fun! You have every right to be upset. However, what’s done is done I don’t think if you didn’t have an open dialogue about it, that you should hold a grudge. I hope you Feel better! but yes you are validated in my book!

I don't think your over reacting. I already told my FH that to me if he needs to do that I'm not enough for him. I don't give into the whole "It's a guy thing" BS. I reversed the idea and said would you like some guy with 6 pack abs rolling is package in my face and blah blah blah. I see where your coming from and I know a lot of people don't have issues with it (which it's whatever they want)  but I usally do when it comes to that. I don't google over guys, I keep my eyes on my one and only man and I want the same respect back. :)

I dont know... I personally am very confident and trusting of my fiance so some stripper isnt going to burst my bubble,,,, heck, I actually think its the right of passage almost lol and to be expected for a bachelor party. I guess if he lied about it that be one thing... but if he is ocmming home to you in the end then i wouldn worry...but thats me personally

I told him also, go be single if you want to act like that! Luckily he's not big on that kind of thing anyway. I think it's disgusting and piggish and they aren't SINGLE- they're ENGAGED. world of difference, to me. It's not "just entertainment" or an okay "guy thing" in my opinion, you can control your behavior...guy or not. Sorry you're dealing with all that :(