misslexy03's Blue wedding

You should tell your mother that this is your day and she should try to get along for you. Even though she may not love him any more he is still your biological father. He has just as much right to be there as she does.

I agree totaly agree. You need to give her a couple days to cool off and then explain to her what this means to you, and how much she is hurting you by behaving this way. If that is where you want your father to sit, why should she deny you of that?  I'll bet she will come around if you just give her a couple days, and a good heart to heart.

Put some space between them. siblings or grandparents maybe?

Ugh, that sounds like my mother in law. :)  I just told her that we were inviting Brandon's real dad and that we would place them at separate tables for the reception, but for the ceremony he could sit up front if he wanted or somewhere else and we were sorry that this upset her (she actually didn't even want us to invite him at all). But it is still your mommy, so you don't want her sitting in the back! Is it mean or would he be hurt to sit in the second row?

Hey and thanks for the advice about target! I had no idea they had those policies! I am definitely going to ask about it and cause a fit if that is that rule is the same here! Take back only 2 items a year? now that is just stupid. I knew they had problems with people getting duplicates, but I always just thought I'd take them back! lol.

If it were me I'd tell my mother that if that's how she's going to be then sit in the back...don't let her ruin it. It's your day!!!

I would definitely have him sit up in the front, but DEFINITELY have no less than three people in between him and your mom. You don't need any unnecessary drama on your big day and your mom will understand and respect that and not start any... You dad loves you and it would mean a LOT to him, I'm sure.

Calmly tell you mother how you feel.  Tell her what is important to you....That it is your day and you will be doing things your way.  If she wants to pout and sit inthe back then tell her that is a choice she has to make.  
My maid or honor and my father don't get along either.  But you better believe that they will be civil to one another on MY BIG DAY! Lol.  Neither of them would ever do anything to start anything...but they will just have to ignore one another!

And they say us kids are the inmature ones. I agree with the others though --- yotu need to explain why it is impportant to you and let her know you will seat people in between them. How does your stepdad feel about him being there. If he really doesn't care then I would maybe talk to him about talking to her.