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05/09/2008
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The bride and groom meeting before the wedding ceremony?
On Monday my FH and I met with several photographers for our wedding. We are trying to get the best deal. Nevertheless most of the photographers asked the question if we wanted to take pre ceremony pictures. I immediately said "No". They stated that this is common these days for the groom to see the bride before the actually wedding ceremony to take pictures.

Well I'm traditional and I don't think that I should see my groom before the ceremony on the day of the wedding, but my FH thinks that I'm just being superstitious, What are you ladies doing? Are you going see your groom before the ceremony for pre pictures or stick to tradition? I like idea to have pre pictures of us getting ready but not together.

Suggestions and/or thoughts?
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joyfulsong
 |  Ottawa, ON, Canada  |  05/09/2008
I will NOT be seeing my FH prior to the ceremony.  

However, I have found a way around the stickey section of photographers.  

We are having two photographers (a main one, and an assistant).  One photographer will be going to the girls' getting-ready location, and one to the guys' location.  

In addition to the regular "getting ready" photos, the photographers will do the photos that are not with bride and groom together.

For instance, the bride and mother(s), bride and bridesmaids (individually and as a group); Groom and Best Man, Groom and Groomsmen, etc.

That leaves only the pictures of the two of you together, with and without family and bridal party to be done afterward.

I really hope this makes sense.
joyfulsong
 |  Ottawa, ON, Canada  |  05/09/2008
I have one other point.  We won't be seeing each other, not because we believe that it's bad luck, but because I want to "Wow" him as I walk up the aisle to meet him.

I want him to feel like the most special person in the world.  (I'm not much of a 'girley girl' - I hate makeup and dressing up and such, but he LOVES it when I dress up for him.)

That's why we're not seeing each other prior to the ceremony.
highlyfavoredbride
 |  Atlanta, GA, United states  |  05/09/2008
We are taking pictures but only of us getting really definitely not together. I want him to be excited and speechless with I walk down the aisle.
fabulousmrsklein
 |  Chicago, IL, United states  |  05/09/2008
I am going to see him before, we are getting married outdoors at sunset so I really want to get some shots of us and the wedding party outside while its light out! Marriage did not always have the same tradtions, they have changed and developed over time so I think its cool that things keep evolving. Of course as always do what you feel comfortable with :)
sweetp
 |  Pine bluff, AR, United states  |  05/09/2008
Definitely NOT!!!
We will get pre wedding pics taken of us but not together. My FH wont see me until I walk down the aisle.
marta12
 |  Chicago, IL, United states  |  05/09/2008
I'm not seeing my FI until he sees walking down the aisle. Will have 2.5 hours for pictures between ceremony and reception which my photog said is more than enough.
debbiev
 |  San diego, CA, United states  |  05/09/2008
My hubby and I didn't see, talk, or text eachother AT ALL the day of the wedding. Anytime I need to communicate with him, my Best Girl did it for me!! It was so fun and exciting, I was dying to see him and hear him when I saw him at the end of the aisle!!!
futuremrsmayes
 |  -, -  |  05/09/2008
to add to what joyfulsong said, you could also allow sometime inbetween the wedding a reception, like 45 min. so that you can take you bride and groom pics and wedding party pics. Then you will not have your guests waiting too long at the reception for you.

My sister-inlaw had the guest waiting for an hour!! i think some of them left!! (but she also started the wedding an hour late!)
misslexy03
 |  Suring, WI, United states  |  05/09/2008
I am waiting till after the ceremony to take pictures. I want it to be a complete suprise when I walk down to my fiance'!!!
thirty3thirty
 |  Atlanta, GA, United states  |  05/09/2008
NO...definitely not. We will have enough time to take pictures of us together are after the ceremony!!!
scheri
 |  Vancouver, BC, Canada  |  05/09/2008
I will be meeting with my FI prior to us going to take bridal party pictures before our wedding ceremony.  

BUT I have a second dress that I change into after the pictures and ceremony so when I return I have another entrance in another gown.
timsgirl
 |  Stoney creek, ON, Canada  |  05/09/2008
Nope we won't see each other until our wedding
dd977chic
 |  Sanford, FL, United states  |  05/09/2008
i think its more the suspense and the excitement of not seeing him until you walk down the aisle. I hope I can do this as well.
sabreena
 |  Belleville, ON, Canada  |  05/09/2008
I will NOT see him ! not because im supersticiouse but for the element of surprise the idea is to have him see me coming down the aisle looking so good he wont be able to say no! Also the idea is to have pre- marriage pictures of you seperatly before you are joined together we will have a second photographer just a family friend take the before pictures of the guys!
diaphanous999
 |  Phoenix, AZ, United states  |  05/18/2008
Don't let your photographer pressure you into doing something you really don't want to do. There will be plenty of subjects for him to capture in the time leading up to the ceremony without you and the groom seeing each other first.

Some brides and grooms do see each other prior for photos, and for pre-ceremony religious rituals (like signing the katubah). But if this isn't part of your tradition, don't worry about it! I can't imagine a more emotional moment than you and your groom seeing each other for the first time as you are walking down the aisle.
jessicahonigford
 |  New york, NY, United states  |  05/28/2008
I agree with a lot of you...I'm not seeing my FH cuz I'm superstitious but rather want to complete shock and awe him...plus that just makes the day even longer cuz everyone has to be ready sooner and ready at the same time.  The time between the ceremony and the reception is already spent...it will be there wheather it's filled or not...so we may as well fill it with pictures
elle2wed
 |  Los angeles, CA, United states  |  06/15/2008
No not an option
sthrnzeta
 |  Martinez, GA, United states  |  07/18/2008
I'm going for the wow factor too, not so much for superstition.  I like the idea of him being surprised when I walk down the aisle.  But I have heard of a pic you can take together without him seeing you that is super cute - it's basically the two of you touching hands around a corner so in the pic you see both of you but neither of you can see each other.  I really like that idea and may add that to my list of must-have shots.  But I think we'll have a cocktail hour in which time me and the hubby will take pics with family - and drive downtown really quick to have pics taken at the famous UGA arch.
pinkbarbiedoll
 |  Lawrenceville, GA, United states  |  07/23/2008
No way!!!!!!!  my husband to be will not see me before the wedding. bc I don't want him to see my dress. as a matter of fact no one even knows the color of my dress but my mother. now my wedding party will take their pictures before the wedding and I will take sum too. but as far as me and him we will not take any pictures together until after the ceremony. that way we will be the last to take pics because everyone else will be done took their pics and they might have a few to take with us together.
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