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Is the Necessary to invite all OOT guests to the rehearsal dinner?

Is it necessary to invite all out - of- towners to the rehearsal dinner? We have so many that I'm afraid that it might become as large as the wedding. What are you all doing?
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tiffbride's Blue wedding
tiffbride
 |  Danville, CA, USA  |  06/05/2008  | 
Well as far as i knew, normally its the wedding party  and the parents of the  bride and groom. .... so I will have about 26 people coming to ours...
charlie813's Chocolate wedding
charlie813
 |  Huntsville, AL, USA  |  06/05/2008  | 
No, we too will probably have quite a few out of town guests and it would be crazy to have them all at the rehearsal dinner.  We'll probably send them nice baskets with fruit and snacks and restaurant/entertainment info and things like that.
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southcarolinabride
 |  Corona, CA, USA  |  06/05/2008  | 
Traditionally its for all wedding attendants and their spouses or partners, the couple's immediate families, clergyperson and his or her spouse. However, we are having our OOT guests attend since we are having it at a restaurant
marta12's Blue wedding
marta12
 |  Chicago, IL, USA  |  06/05/2008  | 
People typically include their out of town guests out of courtesy since the guests are already shelling out to come to the wedding. Etiquette rules include the bridal party and their spouses or fiances (they don't include boyfriends/girlfriends) parents, grandparents, and parents of the flower girl and ring bearer if the flower girl and rind bearer are invited as well.

HTH.
2009winterbride's Red wedding
2009winterbride
 |  Grande prairie, AB, Canada  |  06/05/2008  | 
I would just have the wedding party and parents of the bride and groom......

But if you end up having tons and tons of people...have a home barbeque....that should cut down on cost
sweetp's Pink wedding
sweetp
 |  Little rock, AR, USA  |  06/06/2008  | 
I am having alot of OOT guest also and they will be invited to the rehersal dinner as a courtesy. My rehersal dinner is going to be a casual catered BBQ where everyone can mingle and get to know each other.
lnporter's Yellow wedding
lnporter
 |  USA  |  06/06/2008  | 
I thought about having the OOT guests come to the rehearsal dinner, but my FH's family will be taking us all out to a restaurant and paying for it, so we decided (since we have a big wedding party anyway) to stick with the key people. We don't want it to cost too much for his parents. It really depends on what you plan on doing for the dinner...
scheri's Chocolate wedding
scheri
 |  Edmonton, AB, Canada  |  06/06/2008  | 
I would invite wedding party and their guest (spouse).
Officiant, Minister
Parents
Brother and Sisters
Out of town immediate family

Other out of town guests just send a nice note and samll gift to them at hotel.
soon2bmrsc's Chocolate wedding
soon2bmrsc
 |  Austin, TX, USA  |  06/06/2008  | 
While the point of a rehearsal dinner is for the wedding party, others participating in the wedding and immediate family, I chose to invite OOT guests.  I felt that I really wanted to spend as much time with them as I could since they thought enough of us to travel so far.  Because of this, it was a nice but informal setting.
sthrnzeta's Black wedding
sthrnzeta
 |  Augusta, GA, USA  |  07/18/2008  | 
I'm facing the same problem and I'm still unsure how to handle it.  We haven't decided how we're going to do the rehearsal dinner and that may dictate who we invite.  A large, more casual thing would allow more OOT guests to come - and it is proper etiquette to invite them - but it's almost like a destination wedding since none of us live in Athens so everyone would be an OOT guest.  If we do the restaurant thing, then we'll do nice baskets in their hotel room and direct them to good eats for the night.  I'm sure they'll understand.  What I have to keep reminding myself, and you should do the same - it's YOUR wedding, not anyone elses.  Do what YOU want to do, not what you think you should do.
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