07/07/2012
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Wedding Budget
Don't think I want to do this anymore...

Okay so this is more of a rant than anything....

We're only in the beginning stages of planning and i'm already pulling my hair out and wondering do I really want this type of wedding???

We have a budget of 20 grand and the more I talk to vendors, tour venues and plan, I'm starting to wonder if this is even worth it?!

I'm getting so frustrated and disenchanted with the whole big fairy tale wedding scene. FH originally wanted to go to Hawaii to get married but I really want my parents, grandparents and siblings there and that's at least 10 people. Plus I have 12 aunts and uncles who unbelievable I am close to and have had a major impact on my life.

We're planning a wedding for 140 guests and now I think that is just too much!

I've already started looking at alternatives to maybe just have a super small wedding at a bed and breakfast somewhere, or even go to Canada and get married with just a few people.

I really don't know what to do but I think I know that I no longer want to spend 20 grand on this anymore......

It won't put us in financial ruin but the more and more I think about it and all the hard work I have to do (by myself) I just don't know!
Plus I have a 3 month old and a 15 month old so that makes me busy alone lol.

Plus we're paying for all of our bridal party's attire and accessories for the day. That's 22 people if you include my father and our mothers! And our budget doesn't include our honeymoon either, which is a big expense by itself.

Maybe I'm just over thinking everything? I mean I was the one who said I wanted this huge wedding but now idk! Anyone else ever felt this way?
wedding, budget, anxiety, regret, planning
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flrjohnson's Red wedding
flrjohnson
 |  Atlanta, GA, USA  |  07/07/2012  | 
I'm sorry you're already feeling the stress, hun. It's good you are thinking about this carefully right now though. You are doing the right thing. Definitely think long and hard about what you really want. Talk with your FH and see what he wants to do too. You said he wanted to do a smaller thing in Hawaii. Maybe you can do something smaller with just your closest family and friends. It can still be decadent, but without the hassle of a huge wedding.

I am working with a VERY small budget, one that I'm doing all on my own and it's amazing the stress I'm going through with this! I can only imagine what it must be like working with a bigger budget and having to take care of everyone's attire and stuff.

So you should definitely pace yourself. Think it through carefully and talk to your FH. Now is the best time to do so before you get really deep in it.
tkbooker's Purple wedding
tkbooker
 |  Sterling heights, MI, USA  |  07/07/2012  | 
I say talk with FH about this....planning a wedding all by yourself can be VERY STRESSFUL!!!

Good Luck with your decision!!!
mrsantonio13's Purple wedding
mrsantonio13
 |  Chicago, IL, USA  |  07/07/2012  | 
Thanks you guys,  we just talked and as usual he says what ever I want is fine and I think at this point I want something smaller. Not exactly sure what it could be but I know I just cannot pull off this massive production by myself. The money we've already spent are things that we can still use, i'm glad I waited to hand over my check for the venue!
divadan80's Blue wedding
divadan80
 |  Houston, TX, USA  |  07/08/2012  | 
Oh Baby!  I just want to let you know that you can have a nice wedding for under 20k, yes you can!  I am sorry that you feel that way about it, sounds like you are overwhelmed but you may need to re-vamp the wedding style.  Starting with making the bridal partty pay for themselves and reducing it some, if you can.  This will be your day, not their day? why do you need to pay for others? you dont have to, you will pay for them to eat and drink and thats about it?  I thought I was going to do the same thing when I got married go to Hawaii and get married without family and my family had a fit when i told them that, so i changed it, we did honeymoon there, and it was really nice, just the two of us....just think about it more and decide what you really want to do for your wedding day....
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