This is mrsasquared's Blue Wedding!

Maybe not the cutest Etsy find of the century, but it is right up.

They are a Grooms gift, a pair of socks, that says in case you get cold feet! How cute is that! These have probably been around for forever and Im being over excited but I think they are the cutest idea ever! And I am definitely going to buy a pair!

They are made by user ErinBorges, and run at 30$ US

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=25226166&show_panel=true

Her shop has tons of cute little socks for all of the bridal party!
Im sure that if I had the time I could make a pair myself for half the price but honestly I dont know where time goes these days.
-A

One of my extremely close friends Karen, karen182013 on wbc, is getting married in September and asked me to write a speech... the MOH speech.. & Im not sure about the priorities or guidelines or anything for these sorts of things.
Ask me to write a short story or poem sure but speeches stump me so I was hoping for a little help from WBC Brides... and friends a like.

I've known Karen since middle school. I moved to town and she was on my bus and I asked to sit beside her. I was very hyper and bouncy and Im sure she'd say obnoxious ahaha. I was all "HI IM AMY!" Anyways, it turns out that she lived about a block from me and we went to the same church for a while so we became insanely good friends. I would say almost like sisters but from different misters as she just said in a message on facebook ahha! Any who I found some example speeches and I think I understand the general idea of it but any ideas?

(PS I loved this movie!)

-A

Thanks for the responses <3
I feel a lot better knowing that it isnt a self-centered thing because I started to think that perhaps I was being too into the situation, you know what I mean?

Well the update is that I went to the commencement this past friday and she was very upset with me and the fact I was taking so many pictures. And then she got mad and took her camera from her husband and started deleting them all because she looked bad. The whole time I am thinking wow, this isnt about you its about your son! In the end I managed to hide my camera so we have my pictures - but she practically deleted all of the ones of her family. She had me retaking them over and over again and then got upset and said that I would show people and she had orange hair and her hair wasnt orange. And because of her deleting spree they have barely any pictures. My poor FFIL started getting extremely frustrated but being the way he is withheld it because he didnt want to make his son uncomfortable. My FH felt really bad about the whole scenario even more because he didnt get any pictures with just his dad because his mother kept wanting group pictures and pictures of her with him and then deleted them... I managed to get a good shot though of the two of them so we are going to have it printed and framed for Fathers day and tell him it is for his office!

In recent news! My FMIL pulled me aside and apologized for her recent behavior (something I was not expecting). She said she was a little uncomfortable thinking about her son in that way but she didnt mean to explode on me about getting a bloody nose. And she also added in that I take very good pictures but she just didnt think she looked good (which I told her she did but she didnt listen). Either way though it was good to hear. Atleast I know she wants me around enough to come and talk to me to make sure I dont go.

Alex, my FH, told me that she came downstairs and the two of them sat down and talked. Apparently she started the conversation by joking about being pregnant, which is kind of a big thing because my FH was suppose to be 1 of 7 apparently but she miscarried many times. (which could explain her attachment a bit, but its also impossible because my FILs are fixed for lack of a better term). So the conversation went off on a good note and they talked about how we sleep in the same bed and what not and she said that she doesnt mind the fact we sleep in the same bed she just doesnt want to hear about it because she doesnt want to think about her son having seal relations. Which I can understand because I dont talk to my father about that because it would be awkward - so I can understand it from that point of view.

Never the less - it has been decided that we are moving out into our own place around July, and we are looking now and slowly packing. I think she probably came and sat down and had the long discussion because she doesnt want us to move out but my FH and I have made up our minds and he apparently discussed with both of his parents that it is time for us to move into a new direction and step.

So fingers crossed that all goes well!!
The sooner I get out of here the better in my opinion.
& I read the little tid bit about having my FH make the slight move on me in front of her - touching my hand etc. - and he has been doing it and things have been going ok so far.... we shall see.
Thanks again all! <3

My FH and I have been together a little over a year now and my FMIL seems to take this to heart a fair bit and lately its been getting to me.

Before I get into this there is some stuff you may or may not want to know:
-->My FILs were on a blind double date. She was with one guy and he was with the other girl when they met and three months later they were married.
-->My FH & I are currently living in a basement suite in the same house where my FILs rent the upstairs.
-->We have planned and are planning our wedding but haven't told everyone; we are planning that this summer

Anyways, recently my FMIL has become very sheltered with what she does and does not want to see or hear. When we are upstairs, or even out and about with them we can barely touch. We can't kiss or hold hands or even look at each other romantically or anything or else she will start yelling 'I dont want to know' or 'Dont do that I dont need to know.'
Its gotten so bad that when she comes down stairs and knocks on the door we have to separate so that she will feel comfortable. I guess seeing her only child in a relationship that has been going on this long is a bit unsettling for her because she feels that she is losing him perhaps?
Which is why my FH and I do the little separating and not touching upstairs incase it makes her feel uncomfortable in her house - well unfortunately we cant even do it in our little old basement which has started to get to me. Its our little home - why cant we act like ourselves.
And then when we go upstairs we cant even talk about sleeping or cuddling or anything along those lines. We were upstairs for dinner last week - and I casually mentioned that Alex and I were watching a movie and he rolled over, elbowed my nose and gave me a bloody nose. I thought it was hilarious. My mom and family thought it was hilarious. But she immediately started going off about how talking like that made her uncomfortable and we knew that and she didnt want to know and didnt appreciate it. And I just felt silly - generally I know and avoid situations like that but all we were doing was watching a movie.

The my FH officially graduated and she didnt want to come or take pictures. My FFIL, and FH's friends took pictures. And she seemed excited when I went to show her but as soon as she saw them she started going off 'I dont want to see that.' We were touching noses - I was looking up at him and he was looking down at me. There were some funny ones of him oggling me which she walked out of the room before I clicked to them... its a good thing they were at the end. (My mother found them hilarious)

I've brought this up with my FH a few times and the first few times he was all 'Well shes afraid of losing me" etc. And I understood that. But her son is graduated, and taking a year off and it seems like as soon as moving out of that house, or becoming closer is mentioned everything hits the fan. And after the first time I brought it up he started to notice it more.
My FH just got a promotion at work and is working towards a higher one at the moment. He was just giving the job as resident technician and now he is half way towards manager. Which I think is great but his mother has other plans for him - she wants us to stay in their basement, him to become a software programmer like his dad, and maybe consider marriage in 5-10 years. Alex is not like that though and it is starting to get to him - he absolutely flipped and has told me that we are going to get our own place away from his parents in July - rather than the fall like we were planning. In fact, at the moment we are at my grandparents place.

(They live int he same area and went on a 2-3 week cruise and asked me to stay here. I offered to check up on it every now and then rather than staying here so that I could look after my little suite but then Alex and his parents got into this rift about his future and so he decided it would be best to take the offer of staying here so here we are. I cant complain I like being able to cuddle and not worry about my FMIL.)

Her being uncomfortable with us getting close was another reason to push the date back a wee bit. Not the engagement but the wedding date. My FH still wants us to tell everyone and come out officially this summer but I cant help but wonder how my FMIL will react. Shes always saying we could move out when we were engaged... so who knows...

I want to talk to her about this, in case part of her uneasyness is due to me but I dont know how to go about it. I keep thinking that maybe if I tell her I want to talk and reassure her that I love her son and all my intentions are pure that maybe she will be a bit my comfortable with us. But then I think she will walk away screaming half way through....
Im just so lost at this point.
She has no faith in us thinking that we do stuff like rabbits which is definitely not the case.
I just dont want her to walk out on my FH or not come to the wedding. Two years is a bit of time to cool down so that may not even be the issue. However, at the same time I don't think that our day should be held off for 5-10 years because she wants it to. She had her day three months after her relationship and she was in her twenties, so why the hell cant we. Its our day not hers.

For the record - my mother knows that I am planning to get married in two years and she is fine with it - she was married to my father (her first marriage) when she was 20 and she is pleased that Im going to have a long engagement. She really likes my FH and is comfortable with us but maybe the difference is that I am really close with my mom and I am one of 4 kids. My moms husband, my second dad, just wants me to have grandkids already aha.
And my Father is excited but I cant blame him. I am my father's only daughter so I think he is just hoping to be around for the day. (he isnt in his best health) But then the other day he was talking about passing knowledge down to Alex and Mine's kids so then again who knows.

-My FH's Dad is also okay with us being together and doesn't mind at all if we hold hands or kiss or what have you. Alex says that I am the first of his girlfriends to actually want to go out with his parents and go to family functions and he thinks his dad likes that. Actually when Alex and I first started hanging out before we were dating, I met his dad and he told Alex to hurray up and pick me up before some other guy did aha!

Anyways - I feel much better getting this all off my chest.
And I look forward to all the responses... if any aha - Do you ever notice that people read these things but then do not comment.. whats with that?

Talk to you soon!
-A

Im not a Damask bride but I found this and couldnt resist sharing!!

Its the cutest little damask ring bearer pillow!!
And only 20$
Its on Etsy, on Tyrabelledesigns

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=13756179&ref=sr_gallery_3&&ga_search_query=engagement+rings&ga_search_type=all&ga_page=7&order=price_asc&includes[]=tags&includes[]=title

And the shop has other cute little pillows too!!
They are a must check out!
If I didnt already have my quaint little set I would invest.

Well its not really green...
ECO-FRIENDLY!

I was browsing you tube and stumbled across a video for this book called the Green Bride. The author is an ecologist and had an Eco friendly wedding herself. She talked about how you can save almost half your flower budget for going green and having local flowers, and maybe even fake flowers.
Not to mention buying the dress used... how much money that saved!

So I rushed out to the book store and picked up a copy, it was about 11 bucks and I've started to read it and what an idea. So I talked it over and we are going green!! The less waste the better.

AND I actually started before I even realized it.
My Dress is Eco friendly.

The book talks about how if you shop around and find your dress and then find it online then it not only saves money but reuses the dress that would have only been used once.

My dress.. was also my grad dress.
I did that purposely to evenly place out money and so I could use it twice. When I used it for grad I cut the train off (professionally) and made it poofier. I still have the five foot train and it will be reattached for the big day, not to mention it still fits! And if it still fits a few years after my grad, then we can only hope. Not to mention I searched online for the exact one, then found it on a clearance rack. So I get to use my dress twice and it only cost 900$, cant argue with that!

We are already on our way to being green!

So my FH and I have spent a fair portion of the last while fighting about past issues and we've decided to push the wedding back a year so we can work on strengthening our relationship while planning.
Its a good thing we haven't sent anything out or really promoted getting married yet.
Our venue that we had decided on was booked and so was the reception site, so I said we could switch the date.
And he said would that work.
The general consensus was unanimous and it was changed to 4/13/2011. Which is realistically the same date.. just a different year.

The Good News?
That is going to be my year off. Im currently working on a two year diploma program and I just completed my first year. This program also counts as my first half of my Bachelors and I decided I would complete the program and then take a year off. So the good thing about it being during my year off is that I can focus more on School during my second year, and then plan once I've graduated. Which means less stress!
And, my FH will have been on his salary position for almost a year (this is something he brought up) which means we shall have a slightly looser budget.

The Bad News?
Just waiting really. I love him, and he loves me and waiting that extra year will really only strengthen our relationship as friends and partners.

All in all, I think this will work out for the best.
And Ill still be posting - just because the dates changed doesnt mean I cant work towards it still!

Best Wishes!

So like I posted previously I found my perfect guestbook set, amazing price and everything but then I had ups call me and I have to pay another 50.00 for duty and stuff.

So what started out as an amazing deal, guestbook pen and pillow for 24.00, is now 100$ plus taxes!!

So my question is, especially for canadian brides, where are you ordering supplies from if you are ordering?? A lot of things are going to be DIY so that should help but I cant help but be put back at the thought of all the shipping taxes on things from out of the country. I would love to DIY everything but there are somethings I just dont have the time or patience for.

What are ye thoughts my fellow bloggers??

<3

So as I have posted in the past,

Every time I bring up getting married my mother shows a little emotion toward it.
Its not that she doesn't want me to get married, she just wants me to be older.

Lets just face the facts.
Im going to be twenty when I get married.

I keep looking on sites like TheKnot and thinking to myself how come no one ever takes the plunge sooner? Or maybe they did and it didn't work out, or maybe they just hadn't found their someone yet.

I'm not having any doubts, I am getting married next year and that is that, but at the same time I cannot help but feel out of place.

I was looking up things on the internet about marriage and age and I found a few things that made my day today.

One was a show on MTV called Engaged and Underaged, which I thought was cute. And the people getting married in each episode have the same sort of force against them that I am finding against me. They havent really updated the Canadian site in awhile so I havent seen any new episodes yet.

The second is an article I found about two 20 year olds getting married and the advice person who was answering the question about "are they too young" said these amazing warm-fuzzy thoughts about getting married young:

1. Marrying young means you grow up together. You are not fully formed when you marry. You discover life together. You enjoy becoming fully-fledged adults as a shared experience. This adds to the magic and aura of married life. It also means that you are not as set in your ways when you marry, and are therefore more open to sharing and compromise.

2. Marrying young means avoiding the ten or so years that most people waste dating. Dating has become an end in itself, and it is very harmful to singles. They check each other out as if they were buying salami from the supermarket. The process is degrading and designed to heighten insecurity. One feels constantly judged and manipulated. One learns not to open one’s heart to the opposite sex, but to close it. And then we wonder why, by the time these messed-up singles get married, divorce is so common.

3. Marrying young means avoiding the multiple sexual partners that most singles have. Having a lot of sexual partners means becoming desensitized to the human body in general, and to the sexual act in particular. Most singles today have sex with the same intensity with which they ride a bicycle. It really is no big deal. The human body and sex are objective to them; they have lost their ability to be subjectively attracted to the opposite sex because they have become experts in an area where they are meant to retain their innocence.

4. Marrying young means avoiding loneliness. Almost every single person I know is lonely. Granted, many are not honest enough to admit it, or they cover over their loneliness with TV, movies, friends, or empty, casual relationships. But their loneliness becomes ingrained, they learn to be emotionally independent, and later, when they want to fall in love and lean on someone else, they wonder why they can’t.

5. Marrying young means having children earlier, and not becoming a parent when you should already be a grand-parent. There is nothing like having kids early. It solidifies a marriage, it gives a husband and wife the ultimate shared experience, and it brings indescribable joy. Because I became a father young, I was a "big kid" myself when my kids were born. I did not lose my playfulness, and I could connect with them so much more authentically.
(http://www.beliefnet.com/Love-Family/Relationships/2006/12/Too-Young-To-Marry.aspx)

Now do not get me wrong, I don't feel your ever too wise to get married. If two people in their 80's got married it would be one of the cutest weddings ever heard of. Its just nice to know that I'm not alone.

After all - Juliet married Romeo at 13. <3

My FH and I decided that we will be having the time honored favorite tradition of disposable cameras on the tables. My Aunt had them at her wedding and I remember having so much fun taking pictures.

They wouldnt need to be any fancy colour, the cheaper they are the better in my opinion but my FH says that he doesnt want to goo too cheap just in case they are cheap cheap.

I think he is probably right but what do you think?? Can we go with cheaper disposable cameras?

I dont mind an ugly yellow colour or anything, I can always DIY a fancy design on them or paint them silver or something to match the theme.

And then the other thing is where can you buy them in bulk.
We are trying to cut down to 200 guests max. and if we do five *guests* to a table give or take thats about 40 tables, and one on each so forty cameras. Ive been looking around online and I have found a fair few number of sites with cameras on them but they all seem to be like 20$ per camera which I think is ridiculous.

Should I just go to a local dollar store?
What do you ladies think?