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ALL MY MARRIED LADIES....SOOOO SPILL THE BEANS HOW MUCH MONEY DID YOU COLLECT AT THE WEDDING?

about 200 bucks. More than half of our guests showed up and ate a catered meal prepared by a professional chef and drank like fish and didn't even give us a card. We felt insulted.

Wow mrsward, when did your getting married be about getting stuff??? yes gifts are a nice side line/ by product but its the day and marriage that counts...

I AGREE WITH 3RDTIMEBRIDE.... WAITE THIS IS UR 3RD TIME I CAN EVEN THINK OF DOING IT MOR THEN ONCE....GOOD LUCK 3RD TIMES A CHARM RIGHT. LOL JK HAVE A GOOD ONE

I havent got married yet, but I will admit, since we are doing so much extra for our out of town guests, I kind of hope most people who give us something, give us money. We have everything we need!

From the money dance we made about $270 and then we ended up getting about $5200 and then about $300 in gift cards in addition to all of the other gifts we got.

Haha.. I just posted this today.

We made out with about $550. That includes gift cards.

We also got about $100 in gifts sent to us. :)

I'm going to have to side with MrsWard on this one. I would feel insulted too. I had some younger coworkers that came and didn't even bring us a card, but I knew the reason WHY they weren't able to (however, they DID decorate our car! lol).

I wouldn't even think of going to a wedding without bringing SOMETHING with me.. even if it's just an empty card with a nice sentiment hand-written inside.

I would at least like to receive a card from my guests

wow.... ummm we got a lot more then expected, but we didnt have a shower as we lived together for 3 years prior to getting married so i felt it was unnecessary to have a wedding shower since i already had what i needed. We got enough to cover our honeymoon and pay part of the wedding off.

first of it is proper wedding etiquette to at least give the bride and the groom money to cover the dinner plate, usually people give $25-50 a plate.

second you have to realize who your guest will be and how much they can afford. we had a few friends who didnt come(but rsvp-ed) bc they didnt have money to give us.... we went into this knowing that some of our guest could not afford to give us anything... we just wanted them there to share the moment with us.

i do hate when people ask how much you got/didnt get. like someone said its not about the money. its about the joy the two people share and you want your family and friends to come.

if your planning a wedding based on how much you get back, word of advice you will be in more debt then you think!

Yes I understand what your saying but some people have the day after brunches where people from out of town or where ever come and watch you open yuor gifts, so asking how much you go is (to me) almost the same thing, it is one of the best parts of the wedding.....you have people all over who are always bugged about something  .....people complianing about open bar, people complaining about food, people complaining about gifts....if you dont like the question, its simple dont respond to it......yes it is about to people getting married and being in love, but your guest need to show proper etiquette also. Ive been on here for more than a year now, an im am comfortable asking questions like this because most of the ladies know that there is no harm intended....I loved everysingle second of my wedding from the proposal right up to opening up all our cards.................geeshhhhh

This a great post...just interesting to see what others get b/c it really all depends on your friends and family, location, etc...b/c people do things differently.

We had about $3500 in cash/checks as gifts and also dollar dance but then with things we returned b/c of getting multiples we had almost $900 to Target.

We ended up with a little over a $1000 in checks and cash and about $1000 in gift cards.  We asked for gift cards because we were moving in the middle of the wedding.

We had so much fun opening the cards and gifts the next day! I want to do it again haha

We had 13 people not show and then another 10 people not give us even a card.

Most of the gifts we got where cash and gift cards as I had two showers and got most of registry gifts :)

In the end we got $7200 is cash and cheques, and $450 in gift cards.

Much more then we where expecting and it allowed us to buy our new bedroom suite, pay off a bill and we are now going to finish two of our bathrooms with the remaining funds :)