05/21/2009
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Confessions
of a chubby bride

Let me start by saying..I have another account on here and I think the world of all you ladies. You are all so great and helpful. Everyone has amazing ideas and you're all willing to share them with everyone else here..even your secret plans for your big day! Its like we're a BIG family!

But heres the thing...I'm a chubby bride. No let me rephrase that..I'm going to be a chubby bride if I don't kick my butt in gear! Weight is something that I've never been open to discussing (hence why there is another account not to be traced back to me..hopefully) But I figured this is a way I can get your feedback (because there are soo many girls here that have tried so many different diets and work out plans and such so you all have soo many opinions to offer) and maybe this will keep me motivated..and maybe it will hit home with someone else out there! If I have a place to be held responsible, to admit when I do bad or be congratulated when I do good I think it will keep me motivated.

A little background on me. For the past year I stopped "caring" I guess you would say about my weight. I didn't exercise..I didn't watch what or how much I was eating. But lately I've been...umm..disgusted I guess is the word..with myself. And upset that the people around me feel the need to point my weight gain out to me...don't you think I notice!!?? I need to do something. I come from a family where we are all bigger. My mom was smaller when she was younger but when she got older, had kids..the weight started coming and now she can't get it off. Thats what I fear right now. I've always been the smaller of the family and I fear that what happened to my mom is enividibly going to happen to me. I don't want that. So lets just say "its in my genes" to be chubby. But I'm willing to put up the fight!

I decided to start by admitting where I know I'm going wrong so here it is..
I eat when FH eats
I eat what FH eats
Fh eats junk
FH does manual labor all day and burns the junk off
I don't
(see the problem?)
Heres another one I'm going to admit..*deep breath* I'm one of those secret eaters :( I have gone threw the fast food drive thru gotten something to eat and then thrown the evidence away before someone saw it so no one knew I was eating it. But I was never one of those kids that did that. I barely ate as a kid. Maybe its all catching up to me now..in my ass!

So heres the deal. I joined a gym and am forcing myself to go atleast 4-5 times a week. On the days I don't go FH and I are going for atleast a 30 minute bike ride. Also a girl from work has offered to join me..maybe that will be encouragment to keep going too. Having someone else depending on me to be going!

First week at the gym....
Tuesday I did weights and 15 minutes on the elipticle. And then FH and I went on a 30 minute bike ride later that night.

Today I did 10 minutes on the elipticle then weights then another 20 minutes on the elipticle.

Start weight: 195
Goal weight: 150..for now
I figure start at a reasonable small goal first. I'm also going to set smaller goals "lose 5 lbs this week" and then do it again the next week

I use to be 150 and felt great!! But at my 5'4" height thats still considered "overweight"..but I figure I felt great so be it..plus I think I pulled 150 off pretty good!

I've also decided to stop cooking the crap that FH likes and we're going to eat healthier...together!

Wish me luck!
gorgeous6's Pink wedding
 |  Houston, TX, USA  |  05/21/2009  | 
I am in the same boatgirl... Maybe we can motivate each other!
mrsnovotny's Blue wedding
 |  El dorado hills, CA, USA  |  05/21/2009  | 
I am the same height as you are and weight 159.  It has taken me 4 months to loose 10lbs.  I haven't really hit it that hard.  My FH has lost 35lbs!! He does manual labor too and he only eats one big meal a day, dinner, which is a foot long chicken subway sandwich.  He is down to 190 and catching up to me fast!!  I bought my first work out video on Monday have yet to open it up.  I am considered over weight because of my height too.  My goal is get to 150 by my wedding date.  I really hope to get my but in gear.  My aunt did jenny craig and has lost 60lbs in 5 months but I just can't afford that.  I think that best way you and me to loose weight is to count our calories and exercise.  I really hope we can do this!
vintagebabe's Green wedding
 |  Saranac lake, NY, USA  |  05/21/2009  | 
I'm rooting for you sweetie. I gained nearly 40 pounds since my husband and I got together before our wedding. I am so ashamed of myself. I want to get to a size 12 and I am starting to walk again and cutting out a lot of junk. My husband is also obese just like me. It is very hard to motivate him because his job is so stressful and he is in college too. And to tell you the truth, I think he's wonderful and he's been a big man for many years and it doesn't bother me at all. And he seems to be pretty comfortable and happy with my body, but I'm not happy with my body. When we first got together I was able to get into a size 14, and I felt great.

If you like white mushrooms.. not sure if you do... but studies show that people who eat mushrooms have a higher metabolism than people who don't. If you eat salads or something... toss some mushrooms in.

You may feel overwhelmed at first excercising, but as someone who once lost 60 pounds in about 3 months the healthy way... I can tell you that the first 2 weeks excercising were hell.. and then after that.. it became so normal that I seriously felt out of sorts if I didn't get my daily excercise. I got into better shape so fast and it just got easier and easier and I started to understand why healthy people have a hard time understanding why non healthy people can't get motivated. After I pushed passed my barrier... I felt great and I wanted to get everyone else to feel great. So... I know it can be done, because I did it! :)
jhardx89's Black wedding
 |  Tampa, FL, USA  |  05/21/2009  | 
I know what you mean. I have been trying to lose weight for awhile now. Whenever I met my fiance, I gained 15 pounds. 'Love pounds' as my soon to be father-in-law calls it. I am 161 right now. My start weight was 167, so I have recently lost 6 pounds. My goal weight is 135 though. It is hard to eat right whenever your FH is not eating right. Believe me, I know. Especially when he gets those late night urges to go to DQ and he asks if I want my favorite *midnight truffle blizzard* lol. It is so hard to say no. I have been working out with one of my best friends 4 nights a week. We do hip-hop abs, and tae-bo. These are both very good work out videos that you can do in the comfort of your home. Also, it isn't healthy to lose more than 2 pounds a week. And you have to allow yourself at least one free day a week to treat yourself to something *not so healthy* ; this has really been helping me. make sure you drink plenty of water! It flushes out fat cells. And take vitamins as well. Hope this helps!
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wedding obsessed
 |  Kenora, ON, Canada  |  05/21/2009  | 
Start by figuring what volume of food you eat. By sitting down to one large meal, you consume more then if you were to split the meal into two meals. What happens is that when we eat, our stomachs have a delayed reaction to say "Im full" if you put a pause between your meal (such as an hour) your body will have  a chance to say "Im full" prior to the completion of the entire meal. Also add more water to your diet. Drinking Juice, Milk, Coffee and other liquified foods, take less energy to burn since they are already broken down for you. Therefore its like a green light to go straight to the hips, instead of facing road bumps to slow it down and reducing the amount retained. Cold (and I mean colder the better) water takes more body energy to warm it up and it doesn't add to the hips. Instead it can help to flush the fat. Especially since it will cause urination more frequently (if you drink more then normal) which will cause the food products to leave your body faster. Also the more water you drink, the fuller you will feel, so the less you will consume. Another thing to avoid is white cabohydrates. They should have "WARNING SUGAR" written on the bags since they are also products that are quickly consumed in the body making our blood sugar levels peek and then quickly colapse. This causes a sooner sense of hunger, and they really act like an addicition. Think of white carbohydrates as white crack, to help you stay away from it. Stick to the whole grains, you will feel fuller, healthier and have happier bowel movements. Some examples of the white carbohydrates are: white bread, rice, potatoes, white flower and ect.
Another way to help you lose weight is everytime you are about to sit down to watch tv, do 30 sit ups (or work up to it). TV is true evil ( It should have the devils horns sticking out). When you watch tv, its a good sign that your bored. Therefore try to find a different activitiy. With watching tv, normally comes the snacking cravings which lead to even more problems. An easy thing you can do is hide the remote. By simply making yourself have to physically get up to change the channel it will add the extra physical activity you need. Plus by having to physically flip through the channels you will lose interest faster and most likely reduce the amount of time spent with the box. An additional easy way to increase your physical activity is by parking your vehicle far away from where you need to go (example park your car a block away from your house). By adding up the 2 mins of exercise to get to and from your vehicle you will continue to burn weight, plus your less likely to get dings in your vehicle from people parking beside you.

I hope this helps somewhat. I totally understand where you are coming from and have repeatedly gotten on and off the fitness bandwagon. Write a note to yourself about why you feel you need to lose the weight and what you hope will open up to you when do lose the weight. It's easier to maintain weight loss if you remember what your life use to be like. Because it is so easy to lose sight and start to fluxuate and gain it all back.
pb2myj's Green wedding
 |  San diego, CA, USA  |  05/21/2009  | 
I'm sorry you feel you need to hide from the other brides your true identity.... but alas we are all here to get ourselves motivated and to help each other.  I've been pretty much overweight my entire life... but when I got our engagement pictures back, it hit hard.  Instead of being ashamed and mad at yourself realize that you fell off the wagon and now you've gotta get back on it.  I've tried all the diets and failed miserably.  I lost 20+ pounds being on a strict diet and couldn't tolerate it after awhile.  Like the other brides said... allow yourself a treat once in awhile.. just don't go overboard.  What I've found to help me get on track is writing down everything I eat or drink.  Sometimes it just helps when you look and go, ok I've had enough today.  I completely understand how frustrating it is that your FH can eat nothing but junk, but since he works hard labor he burns it all off.  I'm glad your FH and a friend have decided to help keep you motivated!  My FH weighs around 145 and can eat anything he wants without gaining a pound(although he wishes he could).  I on the other hand am nearly twice his weight.  It hurts me to even say that, but it's the truth and I hope this helps you realize you aren't alone and others know how it is to want to lose that weight.  I wish the best for you! :0)
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Nocturnius
 |  Merritt island, FL, USA  |  05/21/2009  | 
Something that might help you, I write a fitness blog. It's still just starting up, but I post a lot of exercises and product reviews.

You can read that at http://fittobeeyed.livejournal.com/

You should not lose more two pounds a week. It is actually quite unhealthy. What a lot of people fail to realize is fat is essential for your body, and suddenly dropping large amounts of it can cause problems... your brain requires fat to function!

Worry less about how MUCH fat and think more about getting GOOD fat (omega-3s are a source of "good fat" you can get from fish, ot flaxseed if you're vegetarian/vegan. You can cook food in flaxseed oil instead of vegetable oils.) Omega-6s are also an essential type of fat, but most people get plenty of omega-6s (they are found in meat products and most processed food).

Another thing... try to replace the elliptical machine. Recumbent bikes and walking on a treadmill with an incline will burn more calories than the elliptical and are better for your natural range of motion. Cardio, ideally, should be done in the morning before you eat anything. If you can't do this, ALWAYS do cardio first. Doing cardio after weightlifitng is a big, big workout mistake. Cardio should be used to put your body in fat-burning mode, not as the fat-burner.
futuremrsogan's Black wedding
 |  Baltimore, MD, USA  |  05/21/2009  | 
Give up sodas!! It will help instantly... three days of drinking 2 liters of water for me, I dropped 1lb, now I've dropped 3lbs and I've been doing it for a week (and cheating on the weekend). It's a huge help. Sugars stick babe!!
majorqueen's Yellow wedding
 |  San diego, CA, USA  |  05/21/2009  | 
I know how you feel.  I need to get my work out on too.  Lately I just been finding excuses because I am so busy but its important to take time for myself and do it! Good luck with it!
abyarlay's Black wedding
 |  Salina, KS, USA  |  05/21/2009  | 
So, I'll be the first one to say that I am on phentermine.
About a year and a half ago I was close to 220 lbs at 5' 6" ft tall, aka obese. I weighed more than I ever had before and was depressed. So, I stopped drinking pop and portioned my food, one item per meal (sandwich for lunch, chicken breast for dinner). That got me down to 185-190ish in 4-5 months. After that I had been on a plateau the rest of the time.
A month after I got engaged I decided that I wanted to be able to choose any style of wedding dress, which meant to me that I had to loose weight because big girls don't always look good in any dress.
I've been on phentermine for a month now. I started at 184.6 lbs and am now to 170.8 lbs.
I am not here to tell you to start popping pills.
I workout with my fiance A LOT! He too is wanting to loose weight for our big day, so that helps. There are nights where I don't want to go to the gym, but he goes to the door to leave and I want to be with him. I love being with him all the time.
I think you have the right idea. Work out together. Defiantly drink LOTS of water. Portion your foods and make sure they work with your body. Have a date night. That could be your guilt free rewarding night. You can choose one meal to treat yourself and enjoy it with your future hubby.
Thank you for writing this blog because the comments these ladies wrote are inspiring. Thank you to you all!
futuremrscarrejola's Purple wedding
 |  Brampton, ON, Canada  |  05/21/2009  | 
i am right there with you! i have struggled with my weight since i was 18 and it's always been a battle. in the last few months i decided for the wedding to kick it into high gear I go to the gym 5 days now and do weight training as well as running on the eliptical 45mins every day.  plus i have been watching what i eat. it has worked and i have lost 13lbs!  At first I was so discouraged because the first week went by and I didn't lose weight but i stuck to it and as time went on I could start noticing a difference in my clothes and before I knew I was 13lbs lighter.  If I can do it you can do it too :) Good luck and you will do amazing I just know it!!!
savbride2be's Black wedding
 |  Guyton, GA, USA  |  05/21/2009  | 
MY LIL SECRET!!!!  i HAVE LOST 32 POUNDS IN 2 MONTHS!!!  I went to my dr (who also has a weight loss program) I started the program ($145 for the first visit since insurance doesnt cover this) then its $65 every month... but heres the secret...PHENTERMINE... i totally cut my eating since its a surpresent and it gives me the energy i need thru the day....no crashes at night or anything.. I eat what i want when i want it (not like sit a nd eat a bag of candy or anything) but it Iwant choclate I get a bar and usually a bit or 2 and im good!!! It totally works!!  I havent been this small since I was like 10!!! I feel great!!! I hope this  helps!!! and GOOD LUCK!!!
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JoyfulSong
 |  Saint john's, NL, Canada  |  05/21/2009  | 
Nocturnus said:

"your brain requires fat to function!"

This is not true.  She probably meant to say "sugar" instead of "fat".  I studied Kinesiology in university, and I'm here with my MOH, who is a biochem major.  Your brain can ONLY run on simple sugars (unless in emergency situations, and the fat is converted into ketones for survival).

"The brain gets its energy from ketone bodies when insufficient glucose is available (e.g., when fasting). In the event of low blood glucose, most other tissues have additional energy sources besides ketone bodies (such as fatty acids), but the brain does not."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ketone_bodies

"Acetyl CoA produces dissolved nutrients (Ketone bodies), which can be detected in urine and are used by the brain as a source of energy.

In terms of insulin resistance, starvation conditions makes more glucose available to the brain."
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Starvation
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Just a technicality, but I thought it was important.
Good luck, honey.  If your FH is on board, you guys are a team! You eat healthy, and your body will thank you for it!
hunnny's Green wedding
 |  Scranton, PA, USA  |  05/21/2009  | 
read the book "Eat To Live" by Dr Joel Fuhrman
sema84's Black wedding
 |  Mugla, Lezhe, Turkey  |  05/21/2009  | 
First of all you are incredibly brave for posting this (I put a post on my page but wasnt as open as you so well done)

I am also overweight and i have 16 months until my wedding so the game plan is on!

I think that we should have a little section for people wanting to lose weight where we can go and get advice and support etc (and somewhere to moan when we are sick of the diet lol )

Good Luck! And keep us posted!
sumblack's Yellow wedding
 |  Phoenix, AZ, USA  |  05/22/2009  | 
Good luck. The most important thing to remember is that this is not a diet, this is a lifestye change. I am sure that you and your FH will live a happy and healthy life together. Keep us posted on your progress.
chellie's Blue wedding
 |  Dayton, OH, USA  |  05/22/2009  | 
I think that we should. I've been doing the Jillian Michaels 30 day shred. Kicks my butt, but I've noticed a huge change in my body structure (I'm way more toned) but no change in weight. I'm alright with that, but it is disappointing. I wanna be an 8 again!

I might just start keeping a journal on here. Anyone with me??
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Mollie
 |  Wichita, KS, USA  |  06/12/2009  | 
Best thing I have ever done www.myfitnesspal.com you log what you eat and how much you exercise.  It leaves no more questions about why you weigh what you weigh.  It forces you to think before you eat and make better decisions.  Might I recommend some favorite foods--chicken or salmon spinach salad with low fat vinnegarette dressing, Sugar free Jello pudding (helps with chocolate cravings) 100 cal Klondike bars (amaing) 90 cal quaker granola bars.  I have lost 5 lbs in 2 weeks.
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