When I first got engaged everyone asked me how many people I wanted in my wedding- my wish list for bridesmaids was 8. I looked at my fiance and he could only come up with three guys he wanted in the wedding tops. My heart sank. What was I suppose to do..who was I suppose to cut out ?
My maid of honor was easy...my sister, Erin. If she wouldn't do something I asked she would have my mom do it. haha.
Next, was my fiance's sister. Meg was a must.
Next, one of my best friends from our old neighborhood. I was just in her wedding and she lives so close, she will be here for me through absolutely every step of the planning process. Danielle.
Now for the rest:
Krystle: Krystle is the reason Matt and I are even together! She's my thug. Hello. How could she not be in it ? But...she lives in Mississippi, I can't ask her to pay for her plane ticket, time off, and dress. She's still in school.
Stephanie: My bestie from before I can even remember. Problem- she lives all the way across the country.
Ellen: Another bff. Problem- she too lives across the country.
Julia: Julia is one of my newest friends from college, we get together to double date and have girls nights.
Lindsay: Lindsay is another new friend from college, we get together at least once a month for dinner and drinks. She is doing my invitations so she will be involved in a lot of my wedding planning too.
So what did I do?
I was straight forward with all of them. I explained to them my fiance was lame and didn't have any friends (joking). No, but seriously I explained to them that I truly did want each of them to be apart of my special day so I decided to invite each them as my VIP guests.
My VIP still taking professional pictures with the group and possibly joining the bridal party in the party bus (we still have to work out those details)
Once I started thinking about the bridal party and what it truly meant I realized I wouldn't really mind not having those people in it as long as I would be able to have photographs to capture the moments of all us together. Because really how much time do you really spend with the bridal party ? Each of these friends will definitely still be an important party of my whole wedding experience they just might not all be called "a bridesmaid"
So I hope this helps anyone else in the same situation that I was in..if they're your true friends they'll understand.
