This is nursekc909's Black Wedding!

Hello ladies, I miss you all! Its been 25 days since our wedding, and I must say I am soooo bored outta my mind with out wedding planning lol. We have to put off buying a house for a bit due to financial reasons. I really miss planning and this site. I occasionally come on here and still comment but its just not the same anymore now that the wedding is over =( Does anyone know of any good addicting newly weds site other than thenest.com? I need something that will fill the hole of WBC lol. I do plan to still come on here now and then to see the progress of my fav brides and their wedding pics, but til then I have nothing to blog about lol. So how is everyone, how are all thw weddings coming along?

ok ladies, I know in the end your going to do wht you want for your wedding ha ha hey we all gotta live and learn our own way right ha ha? but heres my do's and dont's for a wedding

Do:

if budget ables you to, do get a venue that has coordinators and helpers for your wedding day...I would have been so lost on what to do, when to do it, and coordinating the day of the wedding myself. Having people there who do it as a living every weekend really made the day go smoother and less stressful!!

if budget allows ( or at least try and fit it into your budget) do an open bar for at least 1 hr if not all night or on a pre paid tab...The open bar really made the night much more fun. People came to party and have fun and Im sorry but free drinks makes it more fun and easier to celebrate lol...i know it can be costly but we saved $1000 and put if on a pre tab, we had our bridal partu spread te word prior to the wedding that open bar would be a pre tab and may run out so ppl knew to bring cash for when it did. Suprisingly people knowing it was a pre paid tab drank sparingly to make it last and it almost lasted the whole night =)..if u do, do a cash bar it would be a kind gesture to have your bridal party inform your guest word of mouth prior so they come prepared

If you do, do an open bar, do skip out on buying champage for the toast. Not only does it save money but most of my guest liked this better because they got to toast with the drink of their choice rather than a drink we chose for them. We had the DJ announce for the guest to get a drink because the toast was coming it was not tacky and still was classy. and everyone loved it.

Do get some uplightening! even if its only christmas lights. We got a swag over the dance floor that lit up, and our venue provided free of charge red upilghts, firefly back drop and light up sweetheart table. It really did make so much difference in setting the mood. Cant afford uplights? get at least 2-3 put one behind the cake table, and behind the head table thats all you need and it still looks great!!

do get a sweetheart table...we had our sweet heart table then the head tables next to us but far eough away where we had alone time. The night is going to be crazy and go fast, believe it or not you might night get to enjoy as much with your significant other as you'd like, the sweetheart table is a great way for you two to sit down for a few minutes and enjoy your first moments as husband and wife. Many ppl will come up all night talking to you and taking pictures but it is still nice to have those few moments together alone.

Do skip out on chair covers if our having budget problems and need areas to cut $. We decided to not include chair covers in order to save money, at first I was a little sad and thought it would look tacky, but not very many people noticed or even cared because everything else was so beautiful they didnt even notice.

Do get little favors for the kids even if its from the dollar store, to keep the kids occupied..the minute they start getting bored the will rn around every where, although you want them too to have fun its not cool having kids running all over the venue, our venues owner was real mad about this at first until i brought out a few games for them to play with and they still had fun.

do, do a candy bar...i know most of you want to skip out because it so cliche' these days but our guest had never seen one, appreciate it, and thought it was the most coolest thing ever =) especially the kids lol

do have your bridal party wear something different and unque. we got soooo many compliments on how cute our bridal partys hats were..groomsmen wore top hats, bridemaids mini top hats.

do try and get an all in one venue. It was so great to have our chapel, cocktall area and reception in one location. The were not all in one room but on the same premises. It wa so convienent to not have to go anywhere and our guest appreciate not having to drive from location to location and got to eat right away =)

DO pack all you wedding decorations in boxes with lables. When we went to decorate I was a mess and having the boxes with labels on what was in them made the process in finding things and decorating so much easier, especially for those helping me, they didnt have tgo ask much just looked at the box labels

DO take the time to have a good time and have fun

do get your nails and toes done two days before, makes things less stressful and they still look good

DO pack the car you taking to whever your getting ready at the day before, your not as stressed the day before as you are the day of which makes it easier to remember what your suppose to take

DO ask you cater/venue if extra people show up if you can pay for the extra plates the day of the wedding. If they say yes do minus10 guest from YES rsvps ( and guest ou know tend to flake) because some people may not end up showing after all, things happen like they get sick or child get sicks or they lost a job and got a new one and cant get ur wedding day off Its better to have to pay for extras the day of the wedding, then to have paid for guest who didnt show and loose out on the money, Our venue had us do this and it worked out so perfectly.

DONT'S

dont have your bridesmaids do your hair and makeup to save money. If you have a non bm friend that is fine but dont have you bm do it....my BM had all day to get ready I arrived at my designated time for them to do my hair and makeup ( they both are professional artist) and they both werent ready. My hair and makeup took 1 hr and 1/2 so by the time i was done we were suppose to be at the venue already and they werent ready they ended up showing up late and the ceremony started late and we missed the sunset.

DON'T worry about all the small details,. Put them last on your list of things to do, because chances are if they are small you may forget to take them, i forgot so many small things but forgeting them didnt make the wedding any less beautiful ( i know so cliche but true)

DONT DIY flowers unless you 100% know you have help. I DIY bouquets and boutineers, but everyone who was suppose to help me didnt get a chance so me and my MOH did them alone, stood up til 0300 am the night before the wedding..i was so tired but luckily I had late wedding so it was too bad....trying to save $ this isnt the area to do it.

DONT, i repeat DONT have a big wedding party. I know you want everyone you lo love as a bridesmiad but the bigger the wedding party the more stressful!! ialthough having them can be helpful the day of when they are running around for you getting things done they can also be a head ache getting together. If you want to include more friends and family have them wear a dress color that matches your wedding colors, give them a rose or flower to honor then with reserve seating and call it the day, the less you have the less stress.

This is like the flowers dont...DONT DIY unless you have help, it can get very over welming, there are just some thiings worth paying someone else to do.

DONT stress what beyond your control....Some things may not go your way or as planned but if you dont stress it and go with the flow you will have a better night. My bridal paarty showed up late so by the time the ceremony ended it was dark already when we were suppose to have sunset pictures, me and my groom stayed calmed about it because it ws beyond our control and just went with it...we might end up taking some pics again during they day to make up for it, but not stressing over it didnt ruin the night...

DONT skip out on a great professional photographer, pictures are the only thing you will have affter the wedding. A good photographer can make any situation a pleasant one and when things dont go as planned they know how to improvise and still run things smoothly.

DONT skip out on feeding your vendors. Our Photographers and DJ really appreciated us feeding them and offering them drinks. Have you MOH or Best Man offer them through out the night something to drink or even water, you never know when the are thirsty.

DONT start on favors or centerpieces until your finally guestlist is in with RSVPs. I planned for way more people and ended up wasting money on extra vases and CD favors because I had done it waaaaaay before my RVSPs were in.

DONT reveal too much about your wedding because people will have their opinions and it may bring down, the details should remain between you, your hubby and those actually helping you with the wedding. If the parents or inlaws arent helping or pitching in $ they need not know what your planning...luckily mine did help but had no problem in all we did =)

DONT announce your engagement to the whole world on facebook or any network lolololol, because everyone loves going to weddings and will want to go to yours, this will help eliminate the stress of cutting your guestlist or feeling obligated to invite people. Most people will understand but you will not help but to feel bad for not inviting them...keep your engagment as low profile as possible because the guestlist gets outta control real fast and is the most expensive part of the wedding

well this is my list if I think of any more I will let you know ha ha ha...happy planning ladies =)

Im baaack ladies. First off thank you all for your wishes in my last post, its very much appreciated =D. Well the day came and passed. Everything was perfect!! beyond what I could ever imagine, better than I expeced. Few things went wrong but they were so mild it didnt matter, I forgot several things but it was ok, I was the only one who noticed lol For the most part the day went perfectly and smoothly. The only complaint I have is that my bridal party showed up late ( usually its the bride lol) so the ceremony started late so the sun had gone down already when we were suppose to have time for sunset pictures =( but its ok, me and my love like to be different so we took pictrues in the night and just rode wit it, the photographers were great. The night went so fast that I didnt get in as many pictures at the reception with my family as I would like =(

What went right; the pastor was so incrediby awesome, he kept my groom so calm and focused and did a wonderful ceremony, My wonderful venue threw in a few free things that really made the night for us. The day before was the a food tasing, during food tasting they decorate like a wedding, and well since a few uplights were already out, a fire fly back drop, and light up sweetheart table they just kept it there for our wedding free of charge =) it really made the reception so much more beautiful. A few extra kids showed up but the venue did not charge us for the extra plates ) We put down $1000 for open bar, I was almost sure it would be gone in an hour, and to our suprise it last the night up until the last 30 minutes,,,,.My venue was so wonderful to us the coordinators did such an awesome job and making sure the night ran smoothly so we didnt have to stress anything. Everyone was on the dance floor and enjoyed the night. We had such a great time the groom and I we regret absolutely nothing!

It was a dream come true. I didnt get to decorate as alice in wonderly as I wanted but its ok the wedding was goregous, so many complinments, and many said it was the best wedding they have ever been too....Ima write another blog soon with advice for new brides in planning )

these are the only pics I have so far...as I get more I will be posting more for all to see =) oh and these are non professional, just from ppl at the wedding, i just edited them myself lol

10/7/11 best day of my life
Mrs. Trujillo

so ladies, if some of you read in a few post down about my top hat you would have read it had never arrived. After opening up a non delivery report with the vendor ( which puts them at risk of loosing their etsy shop) she had made me anoth4er one and sent it out priority. It didnt arrive the day she said ( last friday) but finally came today...So I was happy, only thing is...its the wrong shade of white When i ordered white I expected the standard white not a shade of white ( like off white or anything)..Just regular white. nowhere in the description did it say shades of white or color mary vary from picture. So now when I put it against my dress you can totally tell its not the same color =( which wouldnt have been a problem only the bird cage completely doesnt match ( very noticeable!!!) I took the hat to a bridal store and held it against a ivory bird cage veil and it match perfectly, so its obvisiously not white!!! I emailed the vendor and she said its not ivory its white, and there are different shades of white, ok I understand there are different shades but you didnt say it would be a shade of white you said it would be white. Am I being unreasonable and picky? Or just plain a bridezilla? I very not pleased with the top hat but with the wedding only 11 days away I do not have time to get another hat or the money =( So ima have to either not wear it and just wear my bird cage veil or suck it up, get over it and wear it with it not matching/ What do you ladies think? Am I just being stubborn and picky? be truthful please

omg ladies everytime a day passes I get more and more nervous of the day getting closer!!! im such a mix of emotions right now!, I feel so anxious that i cant sleep..I just cant believe this day is finally almost here!! its coming whether Im ready or not!! I dont know how to control my emotions, it just feels so unreal...how can i calm my nerves!! my heart is pounding so fast everytime i think of the countdown..almost 2 weeks to go, then itll be one week, then 4 days, then 2 days, then the big day!!!! I know I already posted another blog similar at the one month mark lol, but now IM 20 times more nervous..help!!

p/s on a lighter note I just found out today we were approved for a house loan! yaaay after the wedding we will looking into buying a house, super exciting time for us

so we kept changing our minds as to what to do for our honeymoon, well more like I kept changing my mind lol. We went from wanting to stay at an all inclusive resort in mayan riviera, then change our minds and wanted to go to walt disney world for a few days and take a 3-4 day cruise to bahamas after visiting WDW. Now we finally decided on something and this is for suuuuure what we want, and we finally booked!! Honey really wants to take a cruise, but he wants to go somewhere where we can visit caves and the mayan ruins. So we are taking a 7 day cruise to the following destinations:

Cozumel, mexico
Belize city, Belize
Roatan, Honduras
And Georgetown, grand Cayman islands.

We are super excited about this =) We are more of adventurous people and want to do adventurous excursion with some relaxation on our honeymoon so on our agenda for each island is as followed:

Cozumel Mexico- we will visit the Xplor adventure park, where we will ATV through the jungle, zipline throught the jungle and through caves, do some cave snorkeling and cave exploring and of course relax by the beach ( if time permits lol

Belize- we plan on visiting the mayan ruins, do some cave river tubing and relax by the beach

Honduras, shark diving, zip lining and relax by the beach

Grand Cayman islands, visit the sting ray sand bar to swim with sting rays out in the ocean, and do their snorkel tour, and relx by the beaches.

Sounds like alot, and I cant not wait =D we arent going until Jan. but thats ok it gives us time to save money to splurge while we our there =D cant wait!! where is everyone going for their honeymoon?

ladies im so upset! my bridal top hat never came in the mail! When I emailed the vendor she said she would take care of it and would have to talk to her husband about it because he handles the shipping, that was a week ago and she has not got back to me. I keep emailing her but get no response =( I don't know what to do! I had asked her for a tracking number but never got it. She has had good reviews always 100%, so I dont know what to think. Should I try and buy another one from another vendor who can ship right away? Most of these hats are custom made and not ready to ship, so it takes time to make them and I only have less than 3 weeks to go now. I was looking so foward to my bridal top hat, I dont wanna where a regular veil because its not me, I like to stand out and be different, =( IDK what to do, but I might have to end up wearing a veil or at least a fasinator. so sad, i hoping she gets back to me and all this can be fixed

So for ladies who have been following know im kind of doing something a lil different with my wedding. It has always been in my nature to be bold, different, unique, and sho off my personality without fear lol...So im opting out of a veil and going for a bridal top hat! When I ordered it I was already told it would take 4 weeks to make it. Now I am so excited that it has been shipped!!! I am so excited for it to come, I can not wait for my guet expression when they see me walk down the aisle with a top hat instead of a veil ha ha =D I am also excited that my bolero is on its way as well! I am excited for my victorian looking style =D I hope I look good though but even if I dont I dont care because this was the look I was going for =D Happy planning ladies! 34 days to go for me

p.s thats the exact hat im getting in the picture

So ladies I am almost 1 month away ( in 7 days)!!! and I am totally having all kinds of mixed emotions!! so nervous, anxious, scared, excited all in one!! anyone else feeling this whose wedding is about 1 month away?? I feel like I have sooooo much to do. I was just telling hubby the other day that THIS IS IT!!! this is our last month to finish everything, finalize details, save up that last bit of money etc. Reading the bridal magazine timelines I am now in the last month of that time line...I am trying to just relax not stress but I cant help it...One year went by sooo fast, tomarrow will be the day one year ago my honey purposed in hawaii and it just seems weird that a whole year passed already since the day I said YES! and here we are!! Ill be happy when its over, happy too see all my hard worked wedding things come together, but sad that its done and over. Wish me luck this last month ladies for the ultmate countdown begins!!! THIS IS IT, theres no turning back ha ha =D