Happy New Years Ladies! 2013 is here and I will be in Maui Hawaii next year for our 15th Anni...
so today i found out my brother is having a baby in december, they knew they just didnt tell anyone at first...But wit that good news came bad news...they found out today that the baby will be born with spina bifidia. For those who dont kno what it is, its theres a defect somewhere between the brain and spinal cord where either the bones of the spinal colum dont fully develope and no nerves are affected or when thespinal cord doesnt completely form and nerves are affect, then a part of the spinal cord and the sac that surrounds it and protects it protrudes out from the back..theres different severities of how much is exposed to the outer part of the body and depending on this depends how sugery outcome is which also depends on whether or not u will ever be able to walk. For us this was sad news, poor unborn baby girl has a really tough life ahead of her...theres different causes and risk factors of spinal bifidia like the age of the mother the moms nutritional health ( poor nutrition is a risk, poor folic acid intake and genetics...we dont know the case here as of yet...
we plan to have a baby a year from the wedding, and I being a pediatric/ neonatal nurse know the importants of taking care of myself now to lower health risk of my future unborn..they say a year in advance to getting pregnant is when u should start taking pre natal vitamins and folic aci if over weight start loosing weight before u get pregnant ( obesity leads to major fetal health risk and risk for gestational diabetes.
i know somethings is not in our hands but whatever is ima do whatever it takes to help lower risk...ive lost weight, im not drinking alcohol im increasing my foli acid intake, eating better, excersing and more all to prepare myself for pregnancy llol...i know healthly babies are born everyday without the extreme measures im taking but if u were a pediatric/ neonatal nurse you would see how many kids are born unhealthly because of the mothers lifestyle...anyways this unfortunate situation which my unborn niece has got me upset...what will her life be like? will she be able to ever walk? will she be like some past patients of mines who had the worse case scenarios? was it cuz my brothers gf didnt take care of herself prior to pregnancy or was it genetics?
which leads me to my question? would u and ur fh ( or husband) get genetic testing done to see what genetic stuff u could pass on to ur unborns. Or would u leave it to the hands of GOD and gamble that nothing would get passed down? we have been talking about getting genetic testing done just to know whats in are genes, could spina bifidia be in mines? im not sure if i can though cuz what if theres things we have that could get passed down? u know sometimes for sum dieases and deformities if one parent is a carrier of a disease but if the other parent isnt you have nothing to worry about, but if they are two i s a for sure your child will get it. being a peds/ neo nurse ive seen so many kids wit genetic diseases and deformities that id never want to put a child through...so would u do it? im confused i want to but im scared
but in the same sense if we have nothing to pass on ill be at ease and feel better about making lots of babies.
p.s this is my brothers 4th child on its way