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to boudoir or not to boudoir?

My FH isn't particularly interested in sexy underwear and the like - I bought some early on in our relationship and he didn't even notice. When I pointed it out to him he said that it didn't really do anything for him. He actually prefers me looking less made-up and more natural. In general I'm OK with this because it's money I don't have to spend :)

Now that our wedding day is approaching I think it would be a lot of fun to do a boudoir shoot and show him pictures of me like he's never seen before. The catch is, of course, these things aren't free, and I don't know if he would even like them. Don't get me wrong, he finds me all kinds of sexy, I am just afraid that he wouldn't like them or worse, be embarrassed by them - afraid his family would find them or something.

What do you guys think? Should I show him samples of this type of photoshoot and see if it's something he would like to see? Or is the element of surprise a big part of it? I just don't want to spend hundreds of dollars only to find out that it's not appealing to him.
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ayala88's Purple wedding
ayala88
 |  Champaign, IL, USA  |  07/10/2011  | 
I think the element of surprise does play a big part into this.  Plus, if you ask him directly, he may say "no" based on his lack of enthusiasm w/ you in lingerie that you mentioned.  But, I still think it could be a good idea!  But just be careful-- if you think he would be taken aback or embarrassed by *very* racy photos, I wouldn't.  

If you do choose to do the photoshoot, I would probably avoid anything too racy (plus, there's another concern-- what if those photos end up public online on the photographer's website?)  Try making it less racy/overtly sexy and more pretty/glamorous/tasteful.  And they don't have to be in lingerie.  You could wear a pretty cami, beauty shots from upper chest and up, etc.  Or maybe some shots like this: http://images04.olx.ca/ui/4/33/76/63802776_1-Pictures-of-Boudoir-Photography-by-Crystal-Lane-Boudoir.jpg .  Tasteful, intimate but not necessarily inappropriate :)
iceangel2011's Blue wedding
iceangel2011
 |  Saint john's, NL, Canada  |  07/11/2011  | 
I completely agree with Ayala88!  You can certainly still do a shoot, and keep it nice and tasteful.  Check out some photographer's wedding blogs, and even some wedding blogs that feature boudoir.  There are loads of ways to make it a real nice gift for him and not risk making anyone feel awkward. ;)
Most importantly; have fun!!!
futuremrslilley's Pink wedding
futuremrslilley
 |  London, ON, Canada  |  07/11/2011  | 
I did a boudoir shoot and it was a blast. But If your FH prefers natural and doesn't really care for lingerie then save the money!
glamdivabride's Purple wedding
glamdivabride
 |  Atlanta, GA, USA  |  07/11/2011  | 
I think you would definitely want to surprise him with it if you decide to do it. My FH is like yours too. I was thinking about doing this as 1 year anniversary present or a birthday present. I would be worried about giving it to him on our wedding day too, and his friends may see them or even his family. If you decide to give it to him for the wedding make sure it's personal...where it's only you and him. I don't think the only time you can do it is for the wedding.  Save the money (if you need too) and do it for him later. Definitely make sure it's tasteful, you want it to look sexy...not slutty lol.
meicamouse's wedding
meicamouse
 |  Chico, CA, USA  |  07/11/2011  | 
I think a budoir shoot would be a lot of fun. Your FH may not be in to lingerie, but EVERY guy has something that he loves to see his lady in. If he perfers you more natural, maybe you should do something like wearing one of his favorite t-shirts or a jersey from his favorite sport's team.
jadeashley25's Purple wedding
jadeashley25
 |  Kansas city, MO, USA  |  07/11/2011  | 
do it!!! so worth it and so much fun!!! i did some and me and 5 girlfriends did a boudoir photo party and we all had a blast!! not to mention our men loved them!!! we gave them as xmas gifts plus its such a confidence booster to do them and our pics turned out amazing!! go to http://boudoir-photographer-international.com/boudoir-photographer/boudoir-international/ you can search your state and find a photographer who specializes in boudoir!! have fun and good luck girl!!!
penguinsinlove's Purple wedding
penguinsinlove
 |  Glendale heights, IL, USA  |  07/11/2011  | 
Wow, thank you all for the great feedback! I like the idea of doing them for our first anniversary...and that way I can definitely give them to him in private. I know he would be so embarrassed if his friends or family ever saw them and we aren't going to get a lot of alone time before the wedding.

Wearing one of his shirts is a great idea! I know he thinks it's sexy when I wear his clothes. :) I am so happy I asked y'all for advice because I feel a lot better now. Thanks!!!
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