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I'll apologize in advance for the long post........ But I really need help.
Here we go again. You all know I have had some bridesmaid regrets. But I thought that was past me, and everything was good. Little back story if you don't remember my previous post.
FSIL is the only bridesmaid out of state. I asked everyone to send me some dresses they liked so we could go try them on. She sent me some, but tried pushing that I just use one color and let them all choose own style. I said no, because ALL ALONG it has been very important to me to have a uniform look. So she told me that no matter what the other girls chose, she would just go along with it, that she would wear whatever I wanted her to. So the girls chose a dress they all loved. I sent it to her, and she didn't like it. Then went to try it on and said it wouldn't work and she hated how she looked in it. I thought it was a self image issue, so asked her to try on some dresses and let me know what she liked. So she did. She is the biggest in the bridal party, so I wanted her to be comfortable in a dress.
So I had to take some angry bridesmaids BACK to the bridal store to choose another gown, even though they all loved the one. I just wanted everyone to be comfortable and happy. So the girls chose one of the dresses she liked, but I could tell with some regret because they really loved the first one.
This was a month ago. The girls ordered and have received their dresses now. FSIL had some issues getting pregnant and took fertility route. Now she's pregnant, but only like a month. I"m soooooo happy for her. Then she found out it was twins. I talked to Philly about the possibility of her not being able to travel here for the wedding because of high risk, we decided we would see what happens since she will only be 4 months along at time of wedding.
She text me the other night asking if she could start looking at maternity dresses. WHAT?!?!?!?! The dress has already been chosen and is a very flowy dress. She had ordered hers big anyway hoping to be pregnant. Once again, I want a UNIFORM look. I don't want her having a different dress and I'll be damned if I'm going to have the other girls change theirs......NOT an option. So I asked her if she couldn't get a bigger size or add panels depending on how big she was, and alot of people don't even show at 4 months, and if they do, they sure haven't "popped" yet. She's mad. I'm mad. Where do we go from here?
These girls changed their dress FOR her. And now she wants to wear something different? I really think the dress will work just fine. And what if she doesn't even end up coming? Her husband is in the wedding too, so I'm sure she won't let him come if she doesn't.
Am I being selfish? Anything I say is going to come across that I'm not happy for her, and that's the farthest thing from the truth. I'm ecstatic for her!!! I think what made me the most angry is that she sent me a text saying it's not like she knew she was going to get pregnant. WTH did she think was going to happen taking fertility treatments?? A stork would show up?? And that text made it sound like she had to defend herself, which was NEVER an issue. I still want her to stand up, I just want her to wear THAT dress.
My family and Philly agree with me. But I had to find out what you ladies think. Any of you have kids that you know what 4 month pregnancy is about? PLEASE please just be honest, I can take it. I'm just SOOOO confused as to what to do, and how to have my vision and not turn the waters with future in laws. Thanks if you made it to the end of this, haha.