12/04/2008
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Anyone else's future hubby slacking???

This week has been a pretty much blah week for me. I feel FAT, tired and not really in the mood for planning a wedding but I know that things still need to get done so I make the calls and the arrangements to meet with people. BUT my FH on the other hand seems to not get that our wedding is 4.5 months away...& things need to move forward. The only task I had asked him to really do is PICK his groomsman...and I am still waiting for him to select his final one. they need to get thier Tux's picked out...and a meeting so that we can discuss thier role in our wedding but he keeps procrastinating. Usually I am the QUEEN of procrastination but when it comes to this wedding he takes the thrown. lol. He says he just hates asking people for stuff which I understand but ppl would be honored to help out. I keep saying "well I am not going to do anything more until you do what I asked" but then he says "okay okay I will" but everyday I bug about it and everyday he pushes it to another day. Even the Pastor thing...Come on the pastor is his dad and he still hasnt talked to his dad about marrying us. It should be a given but he is waiting for the "PERFECT" time I guess ugh...I am just frustrated with his unwillingness to help.
Thanks for letting me vent
Anyone else going through something similar???
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rodrhonda4ever's Blue wedding
rodrhonda4ever
 |  Sacramento, CA, USA  |  12/04/2008  | 
Men don't get excited like we do? Women are completely different than our other halves....for some reason, their last minute people.  If it was up to my hubby, he'd plan the whole wedding in a week! NO WAY!  They don't care about all the little things...and get fitted for Tuxes...they think that, Oh,we have plenty of time and she's just naggin....I mentioned to honey that we have less than 150 days to get the invites together, programs and he just looked at me and said that's so far away...We have plenty of time? Yea...but to us? A 100 days is close...isn't it ladies?
im2babyblue4u's Blue wedding
im2babyblue4u
 |  Mobile, AL, USA  |  12/04/2008  | 
My fiance is the exact same way!!  The only thing that he knows for a fact is who his best man is gonna be lol!!  But he still needs to choose 3 more guys...and then when it comes to everything else like if I ask his opinion on something he just always says "Whatever you want dear and whatever makes you happy cause it's YOUR wedding!!"....HELLO I thought this was supposed to be OUR wedding lol!!!  So he's no help to me whatsoever but I know he's excited about getting married cause we've already been engaged for 5 1/2 YEARS by now!!  So it's not like he doesn't want to get married and of course he's excited about it...but just not all the little details that are involved in making it all actually happen!!  He's completely satisfied with letting me have 100% control over everything...which is fine I guess but at times it would still be nice to have a little bit of input and some help!!!
jmathews's Blue wedding
jmathews
 |  San jose, CA, USA  |  12/04/2008  | 
I have been married once before and am getting married again. Obviously I don't have all the answers but some advice....don't expect much from men in terms of the wedding. Unfortunately in our day and age men have become lazy and pretend not to know how to do anything because we ladies are too capable. So. Keep the harmony. Deal with this issue with a counselor after the wedding is over. For now, call his dad and make arrangements. Tell him the groomsmen will be x, y, and z. If he disagrees with your decisions he should tell you. It is kind of like not asking a child what he wants to wear but having him choose between the blue and the red outfit.

Maybe he isn't interested in picking out the tuxes. Ask him. If he says he doesn't really care as long as it looks nice, pick it out for him.

Here's the important part.  Don't have a baby with him until he starts to pick up more slack (if you do plan on having children). Otherwise you'll be quite angry 95% of your existence.

Hang in there girl. Remember, if we wanted a partner to do half the work we's marry our best girlfriend. Until then we have to accept the differences.
mauibride's Black wedding
mauibride
 |  Honolulu, HI, USA  |  12/04/2008  | 
jmathews  is soo right. I had the same problem as you. Now I tell him do you like this or this? If he says "i dont care its up to you" then i choose,  I dont get upset anymore ( I use to feel like I was in this by myself and that he didn't care about the wedding)  I talked to some of my male friends and now know its not that they dont care about the wedding, They just dont care the little things. They asked you , you said yes, you live happy ever after.... thats all that matters in there eyes... I'm not saying all men are like this there are a few on here that are very lucky.
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