10/31/2010
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HELP!!!!!!!!WHAT DO I DO.

I do not know what to do and I need the help or advice from my WBC sisters. As you all know I am planning my wedding for Septemebr 24, 2011 in which I am paying for solely on my own no help from parents. Ok so me and my FH well correction my husband juts got into a huge argument over the wedding. Sometimes I do overreact but I need some level headed advice for this one. Ok we are already married we got married July 12th 2010. We lost our baby in Feb of this year and it has been a traumatic devastating experience for both of us and so I decided in order to honor our son Gabriel we would get married on his anticipated due date of July 12th and we did. We did it in the park and it was great because he wanted a courthouse wedding. I understand and said ok but then I thought hey he got what he wanted now I need to get what I want. I told him now we can have my wedding I AM only getting married ONCE so who doesnt want a wedding I have always dreamed of this. He was fine with it and now since he sees how much it is going to cost he starts saying why cant we take that money and have a fabulous honeymoon We spending all this money o one day and no one will remember this ten years from now but YOU hey It's my day and its my wedding so I am the one who should remember it but Ladies I am the one who is paying for this wedding so why is he fussing. I have bought everything so far even my dress Am I wrong for being upset, am I overreacting, am I just being emptional What should I do ladies???????????? I am absolutely crushed right now I do not know what to do. I envisioned the wedding of my dreams not letting anyone mess this up fo rme or getting me upset. It is no where near the wedding and this already Do you ladies think he is right, should I not have a wedding since technically we are already married. HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP
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prncss173
 |  Reno, NV, USA  |  10/31/2010  | 
That is hard because I find that many people lose meaning of the actual day, which is to share the love and commitment you are making to one another with all of your family and friends.  Just because you are already married doesn't mean that you aren't able to share in that commitment.  I think since it is something that is soooooo important to you and something that you are paying for you husband should understand.  I get the honeymoon thing for sure that is why we waited until we could afford the dream wedding and honeymoon.  But that takes compromise it all does.  He needs to understand it is important to you and stop making you feel bad.
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pinkybride2b
 |  Birmingham, AL, USA  |  11/01/2010  | 
Thanks so much prncss173 But the thing about the honeymoon is that we got two (2) all inclusive paid vacations to anywhere we want to go so the honeymoon thhing is really not a biggy that is what I did not understand. Since I am paying for it solely my biggest fear is that I will not have enough money at the very end.
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ladydivanna
 |  Wyandanch, NY, USA  |  11/05/2010  | 
Go For it. I am also married. Me and my husband got married in court and we are planning to renew our vows in church in Aug. 2011. I say talk it over with him. Let him understand the reason why you would like to have a wedding. If it be because family/ or close friends did not have the chance to celebrate your reunion. But he needs to be onboard with the idea.  As far as you footing the bill, remember it is no longer I it is us. As far as cost do your research you would be surprized with how much money you can save if you put the time in it. Don't put your life savings on the line. the important factor is the two of you celebrating your reunion. Don't get caught up in the hype of impressing your friends/family.
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westkar
 |  USA  |  12/11/2010  | 
I do understand your point. Maybe sit down and talk to your husband and try to explain to him how important having a wedding is to you. He will understand but don't be pushy, give it to him in a calm tone. Another thing that you must understand, you keep saying that you are paying for the wedding yourself but now that you are married it's not only your money that is paying for the wedding (unless you had premarital assets that were specified in a pre nup) it's both of your money that should be shared jointly in the household.
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