porcelainbride's Green wedding

Perhaps I'm under some misconception, but I've always known grooms cakes to be picked either by the groom himself or by the grooms family because the bride gets so much say in the rest of the wedding (including the wedding cake). The grooms cake is also traditionally paid for by the groom's family- either parents or grandparents.

I mean, I understand that some brides get them as a surprise for their grooms and that's fair enough. But if you both know that you're getting one, then why does she have any say in it? for example- I picked our wedding cake. I ran it past Chris to make sure it was something he could agree to as well, but ultimately, the decision was mine. I don't have a single say in his grooms cake. He's decided he wants his to be 2 or 3 tier with a mossy oak pattern across it with bull riding, hunting, monster/lifted trucks and some fire dept stuff on his. It sounds tacky, but I'm sure it'll be brilliant because its something he wants, that reflects him.

So, why am I seeing so many brides saying "I've picked this for the grooms cake." when that kind of defeats the traditional purpose of a grooms cake?

Are you picking your grooms cake for your boy, or is he?