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05/01/2008
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Does anyone else feel "burned out" sometimes?

We got engaged last July and never really made much of an effort to start planning- we had some ideas, and kept an eye out for things we liked but we weren't really too worried about it all.

Fast forward to January and we realized we had 21 months to get everything in order and sorted out- especially seeing as I want everything I can, finalized at least a month beforehand so I can spend the last month enjoying myself and looking forward to the wedding instead of stressing out that this or that hasn't been done yet.

The past few months have been filled with finding venues, changing themes & color schemes, arguing with my mother, cutting down the guest list, planning invitations & save the dates (since we're making them ourselves and almost our entire guest list is from out of town and overseas so I need to get the STD's out sometime this summer to give folks time to save up) figuring out the bridal party, budgeting, cakes, and occasionally looking at dresses.

I love the fact that we're getting married. I love everything about it- even the planning. But I'm finding that this past week I just haven't been able to get myself very excited about anything. Perhaps its the fact that my sleep schedule is terrible at the moment and i tend to be running on 2-4 hours of sleep, but it still makes me miserable that I just can't seem to be happy about it all. Even when I went to lunch with my BM's yesterday who just wanted to talk about the wedding I found myself shying away from questions and changing the subject. I think I've burned myself out. Especially with the DIY stuff.

We're going to look at a venue tomorrow that I was super excited about when i found it. Now I'm just blah... i don't really care. I want someone else to find me a venue that I fall in love with. I don't want to have to do the dirty work of negotiating deals and sorting out contracts. I think I was mostly excited about the fact that I'd be going "home"- the hall is only minutes away from where I grew up and even though its only the other side of town, I never go over there these days. Then I found out its a teacher work day for my old HS so my favourite teachers won't be there & I can't stop in and say hello to them.

At this point, eloping sounds like a wonderful plan.

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timsgirl
 |  Niagara falls, ON, Canada  |  05/01/2008
Oh i'm feeling ya, don't you wish sometimes you had just eloped
copswife
 |  Aberdeen, SD, United states  |  05/01/2008
There are days that I feel like that so I take a few days to a week off and then all the sudden all the excitement comes back.  My hubby and I eloped and now 4  years later we are renewing our vows because I didnt want our kids to wonder why we didnt have wedding pictures.  I do know of people who have eloped and then came back and had a reception party.  We thought of that too but I really wanted to wear a dress, and have my special moment.  I hope you feel better!!!!:)
alybrand
 |  Olympia, WA, United states  |  05/01/2008
Oh man I am the queen of this! I just got over my recent case of the wedding blues these last few weeks and that was not a good time because my wedding is this July! yikes, but now I am back in the game and ready to kick some wedding butt. I think sometimes we do burn ourselves out, especially if we keep running into dead ends, can't make the family happy and so on... I think it is good to take a break once in awhile to keep ourselves balanced! Relax and take a break or maybe start delegating tedious work to BM, family or your mom so you can take a break. Like, have your mom call a few venues for you, but write out a list of questions you want her to ask. That way you still make the decision but your not having to do everything! Hang in there!
fabulousmrsklein
 |  Aurora, IL, United states  |  05/01/2008
Today I very much dislike weddings lol... I am always back and forth in reality I know the money SHOULD be spent elsewhere... but yet I am planning this wedding... I feel bad about my parents paying for it... Ahhhh I go through phases...

You know I hope its not like prom (I know a wedding is a more important day obviously)... I did not want to go to prom (I went to HS in Florida) and I wanted to go to a concert in New Orleans that weekend... but everyone said "You will regret it, you need to go so you don't look back and wish you had"..

You know what? I don't even really remember prom...
katuska
 |  London, England  |  05/02/2008
It happens and this is when you need to take a step back and do something else. Just to clear your head.
I never wanted a long engagement (also, we've been together for 5 years), because I knew I would drive myself up the wall with all the planning. I am 2 months away from the wedding and thank God everything is done, sorted, purchased, arranged. And it was done in all of 4 months. I personally think that the earlier you start your planning the more you'll stress and the easier you burn out. So just take it easy. Sometimes it makes things better if you stay away from this site for a few days. Then you can come back again and enjoy the new ideas and the general wedding chat.
jeffandcarissa
 |  Kitchener, ON, Canada  |  05/02/2008
I know what you mean, lately its been so hard for me to do anything. With lack of sleep, work, my daughter and planning her 2nd birthday it is sometimes hard to find time for wedding or even myself.
bekah301
 |  Pompano beach, FL, United states  |  05/02/2008
Yes it definitely comes in waves. I'm planning a wedding in Dallas, from south Florida. This year we've already gone to Dallas twice, not entirely for wedding stuff but we did a lot while we were there. We have to go back in June for our engagement party and I really want to get the tastings and everything possible done then even though we'll still have 11 months at that point, I love going home but these damn plane tickets are adding up. After June I'm aiming to stay in Florida until Thanksgiving. Then after that I only want to go MAYBE once before we go for the wedding.
dd977chic
 |  (null), United states  |  05/02/2008
i think the planning is fun for the first 2 weeks, then you get sick of the little details and you start not to care about stuff. Like me, I dont care about the flowers that much, I am not having a ring pillow, stuff like that I really dont care.

Just pretty much the dress, photos, cake (if it tastes good) and food, most of all whether my guests are having fun and dancing all night. everything else could go shitty i wouldnt care
debbiev
 |  San diego, CA, United states  |  05/02/2008
My wedding was Sat April26, and I still feel residual burnt outness!!
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