porkchop's Purple wedding

Ok so here's my problem. I have an older sister who got married about 5 years ago. During this time, my mom was invovled in eveything my sister did or wanted for her wedding.

My mom's relationship with my groom was not a good as the one she has with my sister's husband.

So here's my troubles, we it comes to my wedding she really blah about everything. She doesn't give an input about anything. I asked her about the flowers, she would say something like it's up to you.
I asked about the centerpieces same results. I am the point to where I don't want to invite her.

Am I over reacting, are my emtions getting the best of me. I know my mom wants the best for the wedding, but her action say other wise.

I am 30 years old and have been on my owne since I was 18. So I am not a "young" bride.

Please ladies I need your help..... I want her to be there with me.

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