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How do I handle this!? Is MY FLOWER GIRL DRESS UGLY?

the dress is beautiful and she should be honored that her daughter is being included in YOUR day...i say, she wears the dress you intended her to or she does not participate! Seems like SIL needs to get off her pedestal and maybe you are just the person to give her a push ;)

I know right!

Well what I have decided to do is  STAY AWAY!

She needs to realize that she's not Gods gift to this planet, and she cannot have it her way ALL the time.

IT IS MINE AND HIS WEDDING SO WE MAKE THE DECISIONS NOT HER!

Wow this is serious SIL-zilla!!
Well for starters if anyone asked my child to be in a wedding i'd be like go for it!
Her daughter is not out to win a prize for best dressed flowergirl! If you want her to wear a bright pink and green fluro dress made out of pom poms then thats what she wears!
Yes it may be her brothers wedding also but we all know men! Talk to FH and get him to see reason with your SIL.

Is you SIL married?? If she isn't that explains it!

Yes, she is a grown adult (29)
she had 4 kids and a husband to worry about dunno why she likes to cause such drama!

I wouldn't worry about it too much. If she doesn't show up wearing the right dress then I wouldn't include her. Maybe have your FH tell his sister this. It seems like she is just trying to have some power over the wedding which is definitely not her place.

The dress is really cute! She shouldnt be making a big deal. Is your wedding and you should be able to pick what you want the girls to wear, ofcourse is her girl but come on. There is a style and you picked the color.

Talk to her, call her and suggest that if she doesnt like that one she should had called you and offer to go look for another dress before returning this one.

My sister made the same thing to me, lol. I told her to go find a dress my niece and she just never had the time. Told me to find one that I would like, since is my wedding. I got it and now she things is just to much. LOL

Wow why is there always family drama when planning a wedding.. Ive got it too..  
I think the dress is beautiful and it is not up to her what you pick out for your wedding! Its your day, not hers.
I agree with Sharisosweet.. Either she wears the dress our you dont have a flower girl!
 We are not even going to have a flower girl or ring boy. There are too many kids and its not fair to choose then someone else gets mad that you didnt pick their kid.. Not to mention right away my FH family automatically starts saying " oh well you could have this person and this person as your FG  and RB" well no for one cause we aren't having them, and for two, what if I had young kids on my side of the family! It doesnt have to be his side of the family..
So we just squashed that idea right away.. NO KIDS... not even at the wedding at all.. adults only!!

I think that dress is just too cute!!  I don't know what she's got stuck up her BUTT these days, but she should've told you herself she didn't like the dress style and could you both please pick out another style...together!!!  BUT IN THE SAME COLOR...so now she's trying to control what colors you have for your wedding too??!!!  I don't see why she wouldn't like this dress, but if she really thinks it's that ugly, maybe you could've compromised since she's paying for it and picked out something still similar but with YOUR COLORS that you both liked!!!  BUT now she's trying to change the colors you have in your wedding too??!!!  That's just crazy!!!  Hopefully you can get everything all straightened out with her, but if not then tell her that you can always find another flower girl if you have to!!!  

Here's the dress I picked out: http://www.mygirldress.com/sabowordesa.html...and I thought it was pretty darn cheap , but my hubby's 2 older sisters said they couldn't even afford $45 (each) for these dresses for our 2 youngest nieces to wear, so one of his sisters ended up making the dresses for both of them and it came to like $10 or $15 each LOL!!  But they were still absolutely adorable dresses, so I couldn't complain everything turned out ok and they got off REALLY easy by not having to spend that much money...so they should be thankful that I wasn't all bridezilla about it lol!!!!  Anyways, maybe you could find a dress both of you like on that website (mygirldress.com) cause everything on there is really cute and cheap too!!

I love that dress, i can undertand if it is not the right color. That is a very expensive dress and i would love my girls to have it!

First of all it is YOUR wedding! She had her day and she is lucky that you can include her daughter in the wedding. And second of all the dress is BEAUTIFUL! Dont sweat it girl, just stand your ground.  Maybe just give her call and tell her how you feel

Oh hell no!!! Girl, its your wedding and you're the one that gets to decide. It's a privledge and honor to be in a wedding and they should understand that. Helloooooooo...
Good Luck. I'm on your side : )

By the way... The dress is ADORABLE!!!

I wish punching people was acceptable. She would be first on my list if it was... *sigh* Does she really think this is ok?

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR COMMENTS!
I'm feeling a little better about this!

I asked FH what he would do if FSIL's daughter showed up in a purple dress. He said he would not let her participate and would be very mad so i'm glad he's not being a push over

I wish punching was acceptable too .. i would have a few ppl on that list!!

wow, people you know, it is YOUR wedding, why are people like this #%$&^* makes me mad, but then again, even my mom is frikin giving me a hard time so...