Bridesmaids - no wedding shower... - SAMANTHATHEPITBULL's Red Wedding by Color Blog

so i know i shouldn't be greedy, but it just kinda bums me out that no one is throwing me a bridal shower. i know if i really wanted one, i should told someone. but i really feel they shoulda just done it. i swear all of my bridesmaids have the easiest jobs ever. the only thing i have asked them to do is go pick out dresses, and now pick them up. one of 5 has offered to help me. and i am not saying that i need any help. everyone is so busy, (especially with the holidays) and live kinda far away-but really? it would be nice for an offer every once in a while even. we even had to throw our own bachelor and bachelorette parties. like make, address and send out the invites. and plan most things. i see everyones shower info and updates and it just kinda sucks. one of those wedding time only things that i feel like i am missing out on. then last week my mom even gave me a gift from victoria's secret, saying that was my shower gift. am i being totally ridiculous and selfish? i don't know, but i figured i could bitch here and if anyone, you guys would understand. sorry for the bitchfest, but needed to get it off my chest. thanks for listening!

im sorry honey!! can you maybe hint to them now and be like "hey guys do I need to set anytime aside for a bridal shower in the next couple weeks?? or sdo you maybe have another close friend or family member who may do it last minute? I would like to do something for you cause I feel so bad... can I maybe send you a wedding gift or anything??

I agree with makeupdiva87. Just ask and see what they say.

Your not being selfish or ridiculous! Its something most bridesmaids do for the bride! I would hint at it like makeupdiva said!

I'm not gonna lie....I'm a little worried about not getting one either. But at the end of the day, just say something (its okay to do that). Good luck and if they STILL don't throw you one...You can come to Austin and we will have one TOGETHER! LOL

lol if you guys do that Ill send gifts!!

I'm not having a bridal shower either.... we don't have the money for an extra expense... but I feel the same way you do. I've told my bridesmaids about my situation and none shown any sympathy. I would've thought maybe they would wana surprise me and throw me one but I guess I'll live without it. I feel so selfish and horrible for thinking the way I do. I guess I'll get over it. I know how you feel.

I totally understand. I would've never had one if I didnt speak up! My bridesmaids had absolutely nothing to do with it, as far as planning. I was told that by tradition your sister or futer sis in law is suppose to host it?? Not sure if that's true but thats what the FMIL said so she and my FSIL did all of it! :) Honestly you gotta say something! Bridesmaids usually just think i get a dress & thats it. They dont know whats expected of them unless the bride tells them. I email all my bridesmaids whenever something comes up, like hair makeup etc, and then I send them pictures of finished DIY projects when I'm done to get their opinions. Just so they feel involved. Oh & tell your Mom thank you for the gift but you will be having a shower & she still has to come! :)

I agree with the other girls. I would hint to them, even if its just out for drinks.

Im having uninvolved bridesmaids issues too, while they are at least throwing the shower they are head in the clouds about everything else except one.

Either way back to your shower, you should have one even if you throw it yourself. Any one can throw it mom, sister, close friends FH. I've even done a few for coworkers.

It doesnt have to expensive just some light food, decor (go to dollar store) and you can even send an evite

Jst say you wanted to celebrate with your close friends efore the bog day. if nothing else the extra gifts are worth throwing something

Hi girls!
Thank you so much for all of your support. I really needed the kick to say something. I'll hint first and see what they say. I have no sisters or future sister in laws, so no goes there either. I just feel like it's too late now. The wedding is just over a month away, and with the holidays, I'm sure not many people would make it anyways. It just sucks. But thank you guys so much for your support, you are all soooo sweet! And I'd say hell yes we'd have one together if we were closer!!!

Are you they are not throwing you a SURPRISE one right before the wedding? I know your wedding is 29 days away, but anything can happen from now till then. Let's try to stay optimistic.

If you REALLY think they are not throwing one....start hinting.....

They are your friends, right? Ask them then.
What's the worst thing that could happen? If they say, you know what, we don't have time/money/desire to do it, then you know for sure that these people shouldn't be your BMs, right? It's all for the best, you have to know that they have your back on your wedding day. That's the bottomline of being a MOH/BM, I think.

awe, I'm sorry! That sucks.Maybe you should have just flat out told people you would have liked one.
I get a shower put on my my local ladies club (old ladies) and the whole community comes. The joys of living in the country where your FH's grandparents have spent all their young adult life. LOL.

I hope your bridesmaids put one on for you, they are def fun! :)

I already know I won't be having a bridal shower..hehehe 1) Everyone is living to far apart 2) I am only having two bridesmaids both sisters. We will have a day at the spa a few days before the wedding an get the works. For gifts I will have a gift table at the reception.

Wow, great article, I really appreciate your thought process and having it explained properly, thank you!

Wow, great article, I really appreciate your thought process and having it explained properly, thank you!

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