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10/13/2008
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Does anyone have bridesmaids in another COUNTRY?
(see my previous post ranting about not being able to have a bridesman to completely understand)

Anyway, I'm one bridesmaid short. Originally, I was going to have Chris sister as the 4th bridesmaid, but I've since decided that I don't want his family in my side of the bridal party because I felt like I was supposed to have her there, instead of wanting her there. I never asked her, and I don't intend to. There's also my sister who I could ask, but would really rather not. We're not close, we rarely speak or see each other and I'm not a bridesmaid in her wedding in June & I'm absolutely fine with that.

I don't have many close girlfriends. I can count on one hand the number of female friends that have ever truly meant anything to me. I've lost contact with most of my girlfriends throughout my life for one reason or another. I only have 3 that have genuinely stuck with me through EVERYTHING, and one who's still pretty new but I know will probably turn out to be something lifelong. However, one of those first mentioned 3 lives over 4,000 miles away in Aberdeen, Scotland. She's already said she'll do everything she possibly can to attend, so I know there's a more than likely chance she's coming. But, I've been reluctant to ask her because of the distance. I don't know how it would work with us being an ocean apart. I'd like her to be involved etc. the way the other girls are, but that's just not really possible. I know she can get a dress without a problem- They sell Mori Lee in one of the bridal stores in Aberdeen. I'm just worried about the distance making things difficult etc.

Anyway, do you have out of state, or overseas bridesmaids? How are you coordinating everything with them? Has it been one hell of a challenge, or is it almost like there's no distance between you? How are you planning to include them in the planning etc?
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vintagebabe
 |  Albany, NY, United states  |  10/13/2008
My MOH is out of state... flying in from Texas.

I think it would be awesome if your friend from Scotland could be in your wedding. I think it's worth asking her!!!

It's so refreshing seeing someone who doesn't want to stuff people in their wedding just for the sake of having bodies... but knows that wedding attendants are the people special to you, who are literally "standing up" for you in support of your marriage. I definetely wouldn't have his sister if she isn't close to you.
heavensbest
 |  Elk grove, CA, United states  |  10/13/2008
My sister is in Germany. It's really hard because I want to include her in everything but I really don't know if she will be able to make it at all. Her husband is in the Air Force but she is retired from the miltary. The only thing that would stop her from being here is money. It would be very expensive for her to come to the states. So being taht she will not be able to be my bridesmaid or even attend I will not replace her. She is my sister and I love her dearly but she is not replaceable. I will just have to be 1 bridesmaid short.
ladybugg
 |  (null), United states  |  10/13/2008
I have 1 bridesmaid living in Trinidad. She's my FH's cousin. I've never met her before. But, I think he only asked me to include her in the female side because his mom was pressuring him to ask. As far as planning, I don't intend to include her because she will not be here until 1 week before our wedding.

Since there is no David's Bridal in Trinidad (at least not that I know of), she sent me her measurements which coincidentally happen to be almost the same as my MOH's. So, she was able to try her dress when I went to order them. Hopefully, the dress will need minimal to no alterations because I won't be able to exchange it at David's bridal for a smaller size nor will I have much time to get it altered.
irishpocahontas
 |  Cork, Cork, Ireland  |  10/14/2008
Yip, my bridesmaid lives in New York I live in Ireland, and the other 2 who live 10 mins away from me may as well live in Australia and one of them is my sister........LOL
irishpocahontas
 |  Cork, Cork, Ireland  |  10/14/2008
Ok.....never answered the question!! I bought the dresses in the states and got her measurements and sent her the dress and shoes I bought. I sent her and the other 2 a choice of 3 or 4 dresses and they all picked the same shoes and dresses - so all Id to do was get their measurements and order. There has been no prob whatsoever, shes on email all the time to me re the wedding, I got her dress and shoes shipped seperately to her and she will bring them to Mexico with her. I am having my bachelorette (hen) party in Cancun when we get there and Im not having a bridal shower so there is not much else to get her involved in. I talk almost daily to her anyway by email so its been plain sailing, she actually did more for me than the other 2 who live 10 mins away from me, as she accepted packages and stuff for me in NY when I bought stuff and she shipped it to me and I reimbursed her.......honestly I wouldnt let the distance put you off at all. If you want to ask her you should, it might be more of an incentive for her to go if she knew you wanted her to be a part of your day. Im not saying she wouldnt go anyway but you know what I mean!!
im2babyblue4u
 |  Mobile, AL, United states  |  10/14/2008
My MOH and 1 of my bridesmaids are in Virginia (and my parents too!!) because that's where I'm from, but now I live in Alabama with my fiance, which is where he's from.  I'm not gonna say it's not hard having them so far away, because honestly it is...but it's not impossible to make it work!!  It's mainly just hard not being able to go dress shopping all together or doing DIY projects together and what not...but there's no way that I would have anybody else in their place!!  My MOH and I have been best friends since the 1st day of kindergarten so there's no way that anyone else would be my MOH instead, and the other bridesmaid in VA I've know since about the 3rd or 4th grade, so they're both very important people in my life.  The main issue of course is coordinating their dresses...and I'm not entirely sure that I want any of the ones that they could easily get from David's Bridal...so if anyone is making it harder than it's me lol!!  But we'll see about the dresses cause they haven't tried any on yet, but if there is a certain style that we all agree on and they don't have that particular style at a bridal shop near them, then I'll just get their measurements and order all of the dresses at the same time.  So really that's the only main issue, everything else is more just me wishing I could see them more often and do all the "wedding planning stuff" together!!
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