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06/04/2009
  the shoes I want them to wear the type of shoes she'd rather have the girls dresses. hers is the one on the right.    |
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BM: Should I keep fighting on the principal of it or give in?
So, saturday we got the girls dresses sorted out. One of them asked about shoes and I said I had a pair in mind that I'd like them to wear. I told them I'd email it to them later that night when I got home because they didn't have them in the store. I emailed it to them and while the other 2 girls were okay about them- they thought the price was a bit steep but other than that, they liked them- the third one (the same one I've written about before b/c I couldn't ever get a hold of her) felt the need to throw a total hissy fit over everything about them. The style was wrong, the color was wrong, the heel was too low, the price was too high and she didn't see why they can't wear silver shoes, or pick their own. From the moment I even mentioned they were navy blue to match the dresses and before she even saw them she's been throwing a fit about the shoes- she simply doesn't want navy blue shoes and doesn't see why she needs to wear them. Now, up until this point I've been really laid back about the bridesmaids- I let them pick their own dresses (i simply specified a color, length, fabric & designer so that they were somewhat matching) because nothing I found was ever good enough for her, I'm not asking them to buy their jewelry, wraps, or handbags (I'm getting them wraps & handbags & I asked that if they already have some jewelry that isn't overly flashy, I'd prefer it if they wore that rather than going out and spending the money for something new) and I'm leaving their hair and makeup up to their discretion- I'm not forcing them to have it professionally done, or done in a style I dictate. The ONLY thing I've specifically asked for, is these particular shoes. I've even asked her to find a pair of navy blue shoes that she likes as a compromise and then we'll let the other two girls make the decision which ones to wear, but even that's too much to ask for. She wants silver or pink shoes. She's pissed that I'm considering silver or pink for myself and that I won't let her wear them. We've been going back and forth for the past week about it- I don't want silver, I don't want strappy sandals, and I don't want anything higher than a 2 inch heel on them (since they're all taller than me anyway, and I don't want to look teensy in comparison to them, but I don't want to have to wear skyscraper heels either). She refuses to bend to even see where I'm coming from or why I want them. The cost isn't even the issue- even with buying the shoes I'd want them to have, they're still within the $250 budget they set for themselves. I don't want to fall out with her about it... she's been my best friend since I was 8 years old, but I don't understand why she's being such a bitch about everything either when I've tried to bend to keep every one happy. I've tried to appeal to her better nature, I've pointed out to her that while she may not agree, the other two girls don't have a problem with it, and that when she gets married she can make the decisions about her maids & she can do whatever she wants then, but this is my wedding and I'd really like them to be in those particular shoes. I've talked to my FH & my family about it- my dad thinks I should just let it go & tell the girls to wear silver strappy sandals (like she wants), FH thinks she needs to suck it up and stop being a spoiled brat & my mother thinks she needs her ass kicked from here to next week (in a verbal sense anyway!) and do as she's asked since I've been very compromising with her, and I've tried to make her happy. And then there's me... I'm torn. I don't know whether just to give it up and let her get her own way [again] or keep fighting this because I really want the girls in navy blue shoes & I'm annoyed at the principal of it all. What do you reckon?? Tell her to suck it up & deal with it, or bend & let the girls wear silver so that I don't have to deal with this petty shit any longer? |
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06/04/2009
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Wedding Dress
the perfect reception dress...but it's way out of the budget!
I think my quest for the perfect reception dress is even more important than my quest for the perfect wedding dress... TBH- I don't even really care about my ceremony gown. I'm not all that keen on it, and I only got it because it was cheap, long & something everyone could agree upon. So, because of that I want to find a reception dress that's a real stunner/head turner that takes everyone's breath away. Something that's a bit more dramatic & over the top since my ceremony gown is so conservative. It also MUST BE SHORT!! I'm not into long gowns much- i like maxi dresses, but not when it comes to dancing etc. I've looked *everywhere* i've been to the local malls repeatedly, I've looked at bridesmaids dresses, I've looked at short wedding gowns, and nothing catches me or holds my attention for very long. The problem with a lot of the dresses at the mall & the bridesmaids dress is that they're just too plain.... there's no glitz, no glam, nothing that makes me stand out anymore than my maids, except the fact that mine's ivory. And then scouting through the alfred angelo site, I found it... the perfect dress and everything that I've been thinking of. It's dramatic, it's sexy, it's gorgeous. And it has a $1000 price tag. I cannot justify paying nearly 10 times the amount I spent on my ceremony gown, just for my reception dress. But omg, it's gorgeous. it's to die for. it's brilliant. it's perfection in fabric. But where the hell am I going to find it for $200 or less? Screw this stupid budget! I want my dream dress!!! I tried on over 150 ceremony gowns and never got this feeling... and now that I have it, I can't afford it. I'm so sad. I can't even find a knockoff of it on lightinthebox.com! |
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06/02/2009
  taken at the Zoo today @ a Kenny Chesney concert when we first started dating in '07. driving down rainbow row in Charleston celebrating our 6 month anniversary (we just wanted an excuse to go out for a fancy dinner. lol) FH & our "honorary bridesman" (aka. best friend) a little tipsy @ new years eve okay.. very tipsy @ new years eve. lol. tipsy or not though, this is how we are anyway!        |
Wedding Photography
I just realized, I've never posted a photo of us!
So, I just realized, I've NEVER posted a photo of FH & I, or even a photo of him on his own before. We were asked a couple of days ago to go out and get some pictures of ourselves together to be used at the engagement party since we never bothered getting engagement photos done & we still don't have a photographer sorted out. While we were out and about today at the Zoo I grabbed him & made him pose for a picture. I honestly think this might be the best photo we've even taken! It's nearly impossible to get him to smile for photos and I love that he's actually being genuine in it. It's just such an "us" photo- we're never seen without our sunglasses on & we forever live in polo shirts & tank tops. haha. I think this is the photo we're posting up for the engagement party & the one we'll put in the photo mat for the guests to sign at the wedding unless one of my photography student friends wants to mess around and get some photos for us. The rest of the photos I have of us aren't really posed. They're just us being us. Most people think they're ridiculous or tacky, but I think you've got to actually know us personally to see the funny side of them, or think they're cute. I love our photos, even though we don't have many of them. He swears he's never been photographed so much in his entire life in comparison to the past 2 years! lol. (don't tell him, but he's in for several more years of excessive amounts of photos... especially when we have kids!) anyway, there ya go. you've finally got to see a photo of FH. lol. |
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05/30/2009
  bridesmaids Emily's Dress Melissa's Dress Becca's Dress     |
Bridesmaids
Got their dresses ordered today!!
I'm so happy- we finally got the girls dresses sorted out today. As I mentioned in a previous entry, I was having a hard time pinning down one of the girls, but she got there (Even if she was nearly an hour late arriving- thats okay though, we were all late today) and got her dress picked out almost instantly. I'm a little disappointed though. The dress shop we were at, really wasn't helpful- I've read nothing but great reviews about them and they were great on the phone when I called to ask about the cost of the dresses & to find out if I needed an appointment. When we got there, the girl at the entrance snapped our faces off because we didn't have an appointment- well, sorry we didn't but we weren't told we needed one. The person I spoke to said it would be fine if we just showed up. I just snapped back that if she didn't want our money that was fine, we'd go elsewhere. That got her to make sure there was an assistant available for us. The assistant we got was just as snappy and bitchy as the first girl we talked to. I think it made her even worse because we really wouldn't even bother responding to her bitchy replies. They had a really disappointing selection of samples- only about 3 different styles of the short chiffon dresses. I didn't believe her when she said they didn't have ANY catalogues of the dresses- she was simply too lazy to go in the back and look for one. After asking her for the 100th time, she finally found one, but claimed we couldn't order any of the dresses they didn't have samples of. I called bullshit on it, and caught her out. She also wouldn't let the girls only pay a deposit on the dress like we'd been told on the phone- instead they had to pay the costs outright which wasn't terrible. (the dresses were $130 & $150) but it was something we hadn't anticipated. After we left, we all agreed that we won't be having the alterations done there. We'll take the dresses & have them altered at the tailor's I'm taking my wedding dress to instead. We don't want to have to deal with them anymore than we have to. They said to give about 6-12 weeks for shipping... hopefully they were right! |
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05/28/2009
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I've got my pink shoes!!
How awesome are these?!
How totally hot are these pink shoes? When I was hanging out with one of my bridesmaids last night, she reminded me that she had a pair of pink pumps- I'd completely forgotten about them & how totally enamored I'd been when she first got them. She was insisting about wearing them herself at the wedding, when I pointed out that they'll be wearing navy blue shoes to match their dresses. I wanted to wear pink ones because I'm the bride and well hey... I just can. haha. She got a bit miffed for a moment and then I pointed out to her that I don't have my something borrowed yet, so her shoes would be perfect. She laughed and said she didn't think they'd fit because she's about a size bigger than me but I was welcome to try them. So- there we go. I have my pink shoes now! And my something borrowed. haha. I'm intent on making them work- I'll stuff the toe, use insoles & heel grips if I have to, but dammit- I'm wearing them!! I've been dying for an excuse to borrow them from her since she first got them. However, if they don't work I'm considering getting the white pair- they're about a half inch higher than I was hoping for and they're about $100, but good god they're gorgeous. (what can I say, I'm an ed hardy whore... only second to coach!) |
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05/25/2009
  things that are inspiring me |
Engagement Soiree
trying to elaborate on a theme??
I'm so excited. We've finally got our date figured out for the engagement party- June 27th. We're having it at my FMIL's friends house which is apparently GORGEOUS. I haven't seen it yet, but everyone goes on about how amazing it is, and how brilliant her parties are. We've decided that we'll invite about 50 people & we've gotta have our guestlist sorted by wednesday when we sit down with the friend to hash out all the little details. We've decided upon a color scheme & an inspiration theme- we're using white, dark & light blue & yellow with a preppy, Hamptons garden party type of theme. So, seersucker, vintage nautical, stripes, flowers, bbq & finger foods, cocktails, lemonade, cupcakes, sundresses, hats... ...any other ideas? edit: OMG!!! I swear, i think FH & his friends are trying to give me a heartattack. I'm having a hard enough time with the fact that there'll be a full pig on a spit at the party and now they're talking about either coming dressed as old-time plantation owners (ie. colonel sanders w/ the white suit) or miami vice!! can't they just wear a nice pair of pressed khaki's and a button down shirt?! |
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05/22/2009
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DIY Wedding
Free Templates & DIY Tutorials
I'm not sure if anyone else uses Google Reader, but I use mine religiously to keep up with the hundreds of wedding blogs I look at daily. Whenever I see a free template or a cute DIY project I'll add it to my shared page so that I can find it easily later on if I should need it. Anyway, there's about 3 pages of downloadable free templates & diy tutorials on there at the moment and since I'm feeling lazy & I don't want to sit and write links to each one, I'm going to direct you over to the shared page so that you can look through them. Hope they'll help or inspire someone else! (I also repost some of these on my blogger page- Sapphyre) Lexi's Shared Page |
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05/22/2009
  Nina this was the selection of dresses I gave the girls so they could each pick a different one.   |
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should all the BM's shoes match?
I'm a bit undecided & I need your help! I asked my girls to each pick out their own dress so long as it was within the guidelines I specified (mori lee, knee to tea length, midnight colored chiffon) however, I never thought about their shoes! Originally, I was going to let them wear whatever gold shoes they wanted, but now that our wedding's changed a bit since i originally told them to pick their dresses, I'm wondering if they should all wear the same shoes? I couldn't decide between having them in silver or gold since neither color is being used as an accent color in our wedding, I'm looking for pink shoes for myself, and even though our main colors are ivory & navy blue, I didn't think they'd want to wear ivory shoes when the rest of their dresses are navy w/out any ivory on them. So that leaves me with navy blue.. And many navy blue shoes are quite gorgeous, but I'm wondering if it'll be too unmatching to have them all in different shoes, jewelry etc. My mother thinks I should make them wear whatever shoes I want, so long as they're all the same to add to the cohesive look of the bridal party. If I did that, they'd all have the shoes I posted in the picture. I don't *think* they'd have any problems with the Nina ones as they're less than $100, and they're a low enough heel that they shouldn't be in too much pain (I'm actually looking at getting the same ones, but having mine dyed) and they're a whole lot nicer than the pair I was originally looking at. I know that 2 of the 3 girls will put up with just about anything I ask of them, but I don't want them to feel like I'm being demanding, taking them for granted or being bridezilla... Should I let them pick their own shoes instead? What are you girls doing about your BM's shoes? |
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05/22/2009
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Bad Bridesmaid: Am I Being Fair?
FH & I are disagreeing on one of my maids. He says I'm being too nice to her about it all, I think I'm being pretty harsh & I'm scared she'll get upset with me. She's been in the bridal party since we first started planning 2 years ago. She's also been one of my best friends since I was 8 years old. I can't imagine not having her at the wedding, preferably standing up there with me. However, anytime I bring up getting her dress she sort of shrugs me off, and gives me some line about how she's busy this week, or she's broke. Okay, fair enough... But she's had 2 years to save up!! I have 3 BM's- 1's already ordered her dress (she lives out of town) and the other one is planning on getting hers next saturday. I've called the problem maid 4 times in the past 2 weeks to ask if she got next saturday off from work so that we can get her dress sorted when the other one gets hers. There's never any answer. I even went to the restaurant she works at for dinner so that I could non-chalantly drop it into conversation that I'd been trying to get a hold of her. I've tried bringing it up to her that I feel as though she doesn't want to be in the wedding and she claims that's not the case at all- she's just struggling to make ends meet. (join the club sweetheart- we all are. at least she still has the money to go out drinking every weekend, and snowboarding out of state during the winter) I've told her that it's okay if she doesn't want to do it, I won't be mad but she needs to let me know since we're about 4 and a half months out and I need things to start getting done. I've explained to her that I really can't wait much longer for her to order her dress, and that I'm a bit annoyed that she hasn't been able to save up $200 over the past 2 years to cover the cost of the dress & shoes. I even let her pick her own dress because she kept complaining that she didn't like any of the dresses I was choosing! Tonight I called and left her a message asking her to call me back and let me know about next Saturday. I also said that if I didn't hear from her about it, then I'd assume that she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid anymore and I'll just find someone else if she'd be happier coming as a guest but I can't keep trying to buy her time when she's not being responsible about her position and she's not being honest with me. I said that it wasn't something I wanted to do, but at this point I need a yes or no answer by the end of the week and I really don't want to fall out with her about it since I do consider her my best friend. FH thinks I'm being way too soft on her. He thinks that she's holding out and giving us the money excuse in the hope that we'll say "oh well, it's okay honey. I'll buy the dress & shoes for you and you can pay me back." Which means we'd never see the money and she didn't have to pay for any of it. He also thinks that I should've just left the message saying something along the lines of "I've been trying to get you for nearly 2 weeks and when you don't answer the phone I have no other option but to ask you to step down from your responsibilities as a bridesmaid. Please call me to discuss it, and I hope we can work things out." and then there's my mother who keeps telling me to let her call the BM's mom and talk to her about it... i didn't realize we were still 10 years old. heh. so, who's right? Should I have just said to her "thats it, out the door" or was I right to give her another week & an ultimatum? |
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05/21/2009
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would this look okay shortened?
I've been desperately looking for a reception dress- preferably under $100 (considering I only paid $130 for my gown!!) and everything I like is waaaaay out of the price range I want to pay. I'm hitting the mall again tomorrow to see if there's anything I've missed on the sale racks but in the meantime, i figured I'd browse through the internet. I stumbled across these two dresses at JC Penny- both are really cute and along the lines of what I'm looking for... except, I want the dress to be short. Whatever reception dress I buy, I'm planning on wearing it for the After party & the 2nd reception in England so I want it to be something comfortable and easy to move in. What do you think the long one would look like if I had it shortened to about knee length? Do you think it would make it look cheap & tacky or do you think it could retain the elegant but sexy look of the gown? If I went with the short one, I'd ask the seamstress to remove the straps and add some reinforcement through the bodice so that I could wear it strapless without worrying about it falling down. Spaghetti straps are so unflattering on me. |
sapphire2009
| 3 | years since wedding |
Lexi
Oct 2009
Raleigh,
North Carolina,
United States
Lake Johnson Waterfront Center
Lake Johnson Waterfront Center
OrganicExposurePhoto.com
Blue
Navy & Ivory. Semi-formal. Outdoor Ceremony. Cocktail Reception. Modern. Contemporary. Urban. Downtown. Cross Culture. British. American.
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For those who may be slightly confused by the recent blog posts- I've decided to leave my husband for reasons that are outlined in the blog. I believe that everything happens for a reason and every event in life is to teach us something. Good luck to all the brides on the site and best wishes.
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