Wedding Dress - I Knew it Would Come Back to Haunt Me. - SARAHDARLING's Black Wedding by Color Blog

A while ago I posted about not being sure if I loved my dress. Ultimately I decided to suck it up, get over it and it's a pretty dress so what was my problem?

Well, I took it in for alterations a couple weeks ago and went for my second fitting today and I almost left the store in tears. I finally realized that this is 100% not my dream dress. I guess I was hoping in the back of my mind that through alterations it would magically transform to the image I have in my head...but that just didn't happen. It's a pretty dress, but I just don't feel very pretty in it. It just feels like a big white dress. FH obviously hasn't seen it but he is trying his hardest to assure me that it'll be gorgeous and I am trying so hard to believe him.

It's totally my fault that this happened. I jumped the gun and got the first dress that I liked, not one that I loved. And I know that it's just a dress and I only wear it for one day, it's just that I have this image in my head and know that feeling that I want to feel and I know that on my wedding day I won't look or feel that way. And this has produced the "I want my mommy" effect.

Should I go tomorrow and see if I can find a dress or is it too late because my dress is already being altered and I just need to get over it? Am I being crazy? I feel crazy. Am I being selfish? I feel selfish.

awwww!!! what's up with us 2010 brides on changing dresses?! lol :)

It'll be okay sweety! I went through the same process. I bought a dress that I LIKED, and wasn't 100% in love with, and ended up buying a totally different one about 3 weeks ago! Its not too late! I'm also getting married in april, I ordered my dress 3 weeks ago and it'll be here 3/15/2010. I say get the dress you Love! You only have this one day, and you deserve to get what you want :p

And if you can't get the dress you want, I agree with your FH, your gonna look gorgeous and glamorous in any dress, and all that TRULY matters, is your marrying your other half! Stay positive girl!

Oh hun! I can completely sympathize with you. I originally bought an A-line dress that I really love a lot,but I always had my heart set on a trumpet style dress. Check out my blog, but ultimately I had the dress I bought (that I do love a lot) altered into a trumpet style. I haven't gotten it back yet, but I am very hopeful. (And it only cost me $65). Wish me luck.
Whatever you decide you will be beautiful! Goodluck and let me know how it goes.... :)

I don't for one second want to make it sound like I am diminishing the importance of this, and it is so important to FEEL beautiful on your day, but you look STUNNING in your original dress (ie the one on Pg 1 of blog) and I think it is in keeping with your vintage feel... Don't get me wrong, if you have the money, I say go with your heart, but if the cash is not there to back it up, then i know you will knock his socks off for certain in the original dress.

You're not selfish sweetie. This is your day and you are supposed to feel like a million bucks. Chances are good that if you keep the dress you bought, you will feel like a million bucks when your FH sees you and you take his breath away. I looked at your first dress and you look gorgeous. That being saig, anyone and everyone can tell you that you look gorgeous, but if you don't feel it, that's not cool. I think you gotta do what you gotta do to feel beautiful and everything you want to feel.

I think you should look around, you can always sell the dress you bought. At the end of the day, this is one day you are allowed to be, feel and be treated like an absolute princess. If the one have have isn't your princess dress, go get it :)

I decided not to look for another dress because my poor little brain cannot handle that process again! lol If you are up to it and if you have the financial resources, I say do what makes you happy, although I'm sure the dress looks beautiful on you. If you halt the alterations, you can always try to sell the first dress on preownedweddingdresses.com. I think all brides second guess themselves along the way. You should go with your gut instinct.

Awww, so sorry you are having DWS (dress withdrawl symptom) :) Your gown that you chose looks really pretty on you but only you know what feels right. Maybe you could try to sale current gown then purchase the gown of your dreams. You have enough time. You could post it on this site, bravobride.com, craigslist or ebay.

Best wishes sweetie and don't worry you will be a beautiful bride!

Thank you ladies. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I'm not sure if anyone really realizes how much I truly appreciate the support I get from all of you. My mom, FMIL and sister all live over an hour away and I get no support from my bridesmaids so I really have been alone throughout this entire process (other than FH who tries his hardest to keep me sane). You girls said exactly what I needed to hear. I haven't decided what to do yet. I emailed my mom last night so I'm waiting to hear what she has to say about all this. It's definitely not in our budget to get another dress so I'm really just hoping for a fairy godmother at this point! But thank you for your comments and compliments, I am much calmer after reading them and will probably come back to this post next time I start to feel anxious again.

No prob that's what your WBC sister's are here for! As gorgeousbride posted once...we are honorary bridesmaids for each other. :) I've been married for 5 months now and still can not get away from this site because it is such a happy place. :o)

Its a beautiful dress, but if you don't "love" it, Id say go look for a new dress. Is there any way where you bought it would take it back if you bought a higher priced dress? Im assuming its too late, but who knows, maybe they could do something for you if you talked to them?!?!?!

If not, then try to sell it, its beautiful, so Im sure you'd have no problem doing it. You definately need to feel beautiful on your wedding day.

Your not being selfish or crazy at all!!!!! Id do the same exact thing!!!! Good luck and let us know how it goes!!!

I bought a dress back in May, by July i knew it wasn't my dream dress, but it was too late to return it. Now it's Dec and I've decided to suck up the $650 loss and get my $1100 dream dress.

You will look amazing in any dress, however, the photos will last forever and you don't want to look at them remembering the dress that wasn't your favorite, you want to remember the love and joyfulness of the day. That is why I'M buying my dress #2

just wanted to let you girls know that i am sticking with my original dress. i got it back from alterations a couple days ago and am pretty happy with it. i just posted pics of the entire outfit if you'd like to take a look. thank you all for your supportive comments, they made me feel so much better about the whole crappy situation!