05/22/2008
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Is it just me?

I've just come to realization today that I visit this website for ideas so often cuz I found a lot of people posted really nice stuff and asking the same questions I want answers for, and I'd just take their answers. I only asked for opinions and ideas from my sis and you girls, my fellow brides to be, and I'd ocassionally ask maybe 3 close friends...

I didn't think much of it, but today I realized that I don't want to include anyone in my wedding planning other than those few. I can't be that snobby that I think they're not worthy enough to be involved, can I? I dunno, maybe I just want to do it alone (with fiance too of course) knowing that in putting in more effort, it'd be more special to us... or maybe it's because I just want it to be as surprising an event as possible, so that people get to see the final result without knowing how indecisive and confused I was.

So, is it just me or there are some of you who likes to keep your wedding planning hush hush from your friends and depend more on the people on this website??

That being said, I want to thank all you girls who posted all your ideas! I know that I've been selfish cuz all I do is ask questions and steal ideas, so hopefully I'd be able to contribute and share my ideas soon!
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fabulousmrsklein
 |  Aurora, IL, USA  |  05/23/2008  | 
I keep a lot of the details from my girls, I just want them to be surprised and it helps me from ever boring anyone to death :)
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kimmyb
 |   |  05/23/2008  | 
I run things past my fiance, my mom, and my two sisters and that's it. I also use the website freely for ideas and things. I think for me I just want it to be a surprise on the big day. If everyone knows what my dress looks like, and all the details, it's not going to be such a surprising event. My fiance and I have a few little surprises for the day that no one else knows about too!
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jeffandcarissa
 |  Kitchener, ON, Canada  |  05/23/2008  | 
i want to keep it a secret but when someone asks about the wedding i cant help but blab away, telling everything
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JoyfulSong
 |  Ottawa, ON, Canada  |  05/23/2008  | 
My best friend just got married last month, and we were engaged at the same time.  We have taken opposite stances with telling people details.  

My friend was just like you.  In the end, I felt left out and unneeded because she did everything herself.  I thought this meant that when she was married, she would "disappear into that black hole that marreid people go, never to return".  I was very hurt by this.

Because of this, I have been open with people when they ask.  I will do things like send out general notices of dress shopping times, and anyone who wants to come is allowed to.  I'm counting on people forgetting what I tell them!  But, there have been things that I am not telling anyone.  Teehee!
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princess320842
 |  Columbia, MO, USA  |  05/29/2008  | 
I think it is easier to get honest opinions from this site and I do want most of the wedding to be a surprise.  Also my girls and I do not share the same taste in decor, flowers, etc so I don't want to offend them my not taking the suggestions.
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