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A vent and a question

This is a pretty long vent so if you could help me out and just answer the question skip ahead :)

So now we are only 70 days away, (4 days away from my HUGE test) and now is the time that people start to cause problems. WTF? FH and his BM have been arguing. His BM has known that he was the BM for over a year. FH wants to have his bachelor party the end of next month (the same time I'm having mine) and he wants to go to Atlantic city for it. All his groomsmen and friends that are attending are psyched about it. Well his best man hasn't been working (cause he was going to school and now he wants a break) and now he's telling FH that he thinks they should do something else that is cheaper. FH said no, this is what he wants and everyone else is already set on going to Atlantic City. Behind his back the best man goes and starts telling people they are going to Pennsylvania (for who knows what). Everyone gets upset with FH and starts calling to ask what is going on. Who does that?! FH called him up and said it's not your bachelor party it's mine and if you can't spend the weekend there why not just come for a night then. His best man then says "oh, well to be honest with you, if that's how it's gonna be then I'm not going to go at all". Really??? I told FH that he needs to figure out what's going on with him because if he's complaining that he has no money how is he going to afford the tux rental (which is like $150 or so). His best man said he's probably going to have to ask his mother for the money!! He's 24, really?!?!?! I really can't believe people. Now FH is thinking of telling him just to come as a guest so he doesn't have to worry about it and I'm thinking that if he tells him to come as a guest he just isn't going to come at all. It's really sad and horrible.

Then to top it off we sent out the invitations this week. I already had 4 people (on FH side) saying that they weren't coming (when they've been telling us for MONTHS that they were so excited and that they were coming). I really wouldn't care so much it just kinda sucks and I feel bad for FH because most of the people coming to the wedding are for me and my family, and his family is really small and now people are saying they don't think they can make it. I wanted his family to be there and support him like mine is, and I can't believe how petty and shady his family is (basically no one gets along and once one person finds out someone else is going they decide they don't want to go, etc. etc.). I just really don't understand how his family can't just be there for him and put their differences aside for one day. I am so thankful and feel blessed for my family.


HERE'S THE QUESTION :)
So if I have a bunch of people all of a sudden say they can't make it (I originally was way over and cut the list down and now have people saying they can't make it) how do I fill in those spots. Do I just send out invitations to people that i originally was going to invite but cut them so I could fit close family and friends into the count? What are you doing, what do you recommend? Thanks for the help as always!!

P.S. Please wish me luck ladies on my exam on Tuesday and Wednesday I need all the luck/help/prayers I can get. 7 years of schooling comes down to this!!! **Fingers crossed**