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What Wedding Traditions Do You Hate???

All of them lol. Ok that's a stretch but I inherently do not like to do what other people tell me I have to do. LOL

But the ones I don't really like: bouquet toss, garter toss, father/daughter dance, first dance, mother/son dance, cake cutting. I am compromising on alot of what i don't like, but I'm doing one dance as a parent dedication - and not just mark and I - we can all dance with our parents who are there so our guests don't have to watch 5 different dances.. we are cutting the cake.. but i bought a pretty serving set to make that ok LOL

OMG!!!!! STOP IT with the picture, LOL.... That picture is hilarious!!!!

The money dance was on our list to not do. He wasn't to keen on having another man pin money on me. LOL

These are the other ones I thought about:

1. Attire: Making sure that the attire will be a classy look that when you open your pictures 10-20 years later it still looks classy.
2.  Long drawn out ceremonies! I hate when we go to a ceremony and it takes forever with  a church packed full of people like sardines and it's HOT in there. I made sure that we didn't overly crowd our guests and make sure the ceremony was simple and cut short at about 20 minutes.
3. Buffet style dinners:  Make sure to have food that is everlasting and not skimpy. There's ways of doing it so that all guests would enjoy. I hate going to receptions and there is NO FOOD! They run out before you get up there. Example: 50 pieces of chicken for 100 guests????  HUH????
4.  Mothers (In-laws) included: Don't over dress the bride. I've seen a mother come to the church with a 2 ft hat on that covered about 4 seats in the pew and she wore a floor length mink coat in September. Colors of the wedding was coral and brown, the mother wore magenta dress and matching shoes!!!!
5.  Not to much alcohol served at the reception. Good to have the tickets for drinks issued to regulate the intake of alcohol.

Wow, it goes on and on....

most of them but the garter toss is definitely up there along with the entire list of first dances....enough already!!! lol

I hate a lot of them...but were keeping most. I am cutting out the gift opening (I hate ppl watch me open my gifts). I want to cut out the cake cutting....its so stupid...we have cupcakes too,,,maybe we will just feed each other a mini cupcake lol and call it a day. I also dont like the bouquet toss and garter toss.....ew but we are doing them anyways. Damn traditions haha

I hate the garter toss!  Not doing it, too embarrassing.
Also dislike the bouquet toss, no one is really into it any more. I think that is an "old maid" tradition.

I like the cutting the cake one just but not crazy about feeding each other and HATE the cake smashed in the face thing.

I guess I'm the only one that still likes the first dance. :(

I also dislike most wedding ceremony readings, that's why we wrote our own. :)

Oh there are so many...we are not doing:
garter toss, although I will be wearing one, lol, it is far too pretty to toss away.  
Also not doing the bouquet toss, I get a free one from my florist and will likely just give it to my sister, as I do not believer our 35 yr old single friends want to be 'singled' out for all to see.  
No cake cutting either, there will just 'all of a sudden' be cake to eat, and darn tasty cake too :)  
We are doing a first dance, mostly only because I love our chosen song, and it ties to the ceremony.  
For the 'other bridal party dances', we are going to do a Father & Daughter dance, but ALL the fathers and daughters that are at the wedding will be invited to the dance floor (I will have to switch out half way, because my sister will be there too, we have to share dad :)) and the same for the Mother & Son dance, all the Mothers & Sons will be invited to the dance floor.
I just want a big, fun party, and not have to worry about 'scripted' things taking place.  I think we make our own traditions these days :)

I don't HATE any of them really... just think some are unnecessary and seriously outdated.

NOT to be included in our wedding is :
-garter toss : I just don't get it.
-bouquet toss: I'd rather not single out the few single friends I have.
-Father 'giving me away': He's already done it once before...not necessary twice haha
-Cake: we prefer pies and cupcakes and funnel cake! I don't think anyone will care whether or not we take a second to feed some to eachother.
-Large wedding party: I think as you get older, you realize that it really comes down to a select few people who have always been there for you. Younger brides will understand this only after they've been married a few years and barely talk to half the ppl who stood up for them.
-Ring bearer/flower girls: meh
-Speeches: as a guest, I often find this part boring. Of course funny speeches are fun but they're usually few and far between.
-Alternatives to glass clinking: I've read about so many cheesy ways for guests to get the couple to kiss.  I don't know about you brides, but no one will have to be asking me to kiss my man that day !! The times when I'm NOT will be rare :)
-Long ceremonies: I agree w Rhonda- boorrrrring
-Same 'ol chicken dances: Music is a huge part of our daily lives... songs played at our wedding will reflect US.

The list can go on and on... Needless to say, we're taking a less than traditional route. And I can't wait! It's the 'different' weddings the guests love and remember.

We will be doing the first dance (you're not the only one, vicenta!), but we're thinking of making it a non-traditional one (not sure how yet).  We will also be doing the father/daughter dance and the mother/son dance.  My father and I will be dancing to the same song we danced to at every one of my life's milestones, so it has meaning :) We aren't doing the bouquet toss and definitely not doing the chicken dance... or the macarena or YMCA for that matter... haha!  We are going to (politely) ask the best man and maid of honour to keep the speeches short.  Knowing them, I'm sure they'll be hilarious speeches!

I hate a lot of the traditional things. Mostly the garter toss (embarrassed much?) traditional classic music for ceremony, blusher veils, dancing (which is why we have eliminated dancing and are having a cruise instead), bouquet toss (we are doing this for an awesome photo, so I decided to get all ladies to do it and its for good luck), speeches (we are doing very short and sweet toasts with free champagne, so it should keep the guests occupied for this part, I will just say thank you everyone for being here and that is it! then we can eat!)

A lot of the traditions are old and outdated, that is why I guess they are traditions. I really like to see new ideas for weddings and I can guarantee that mine will be talked about for a while.

I too have a few traditions that I don't like and don't want to have at our wedding.

1. would be a traditional wedding cake. I wouldn't say that I hate this one, I just don't think that you absolutely "have" to have one. We've opted for cupcakes and surprise..... my mother in law to be is kinda upset about this one! Oh well.

2. I don't want to have a vail.... no reason really , I just really don't want one.

3. clinking of the glasses to get the bride and groom to kiss.... grrrr.... that one drives me nuts.

I'm sure there are more, these are just a few off the top of my head.