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Out of town guests at rehearsal? So many ?'s

Most of our guests are traveling from out of town. I mean Sparky's family is local but alot of his friends live at least an hour away and all of my friends and family are coming from at least six hours away.

Sooooo... the Friday night before or Saturday wedding has to be hosted right? I don't dare leave my dearest friends and family to fend for themselves in the mostly desolate area we live in.

What to do to feed a large number of people? And not blow a ton of cash? The Mr has already volunteered to cook but... Where to do it? How to transition from the actual rehearsal?
And really...who should be at the actual rehearsal?
Is it proper to ask my father's parents to come even tho there's no unity ceremony or anything of the like just because they're in town? I would kind of want it to be a surprise for them...

The plan is to have rooms available for discount right at the resort/country club we're having the reception at... on top of the block of room the Mr and I and the bridal parties will be renting So that's where we assume most of our out of town guests will stay that Friday night.
There's no way to do the rehearsal there too. It's just too expensive.
But what if we do decide to get married right there on the grounds at the resort? Is it totally tacky to do our ceremony rehearsal and then leave for the food?
And we should invite everyone who's in town to come eat right? I mean it's just tasteless not to I think.

Hmmmmmm...

thats a tough one...i can def see why u feel the need to entertain them...but in all honesty girl i dont really think ur obligated..after all that night u should be preparing for ur big day the next day, not stressing over whether or not imur guest are entertained....now it would be a very nice gesture of u, but dont feel obligated...i went to a cousins wedding 8 hours away from me and i was not exlecting no pre wedding entertainment or feeding, and to be honest i didnt stay at the hotel where she booked a block of rooms, i stayed somewhere else cheaper (times were very tough). u dont maybe have someones house where u could host a dinner, or maybe a resturant nearby? i dont think everyone needs to go to ur rehearsal, just u and sparky, and who ever else has something specific to do that theyd need a lil rehearsal....goodluck with it gurl, and dont stress it too much :)

I'm thinking that we might just host a bbq at the park down the road after the rehearsal.
We'd probably try to do the rehearsal early, like 3? So that way we can get cooking and what not by like 4:30.
Then I can and who ever else wants to can leave whenever. If people want to stay and party they'd be welcome to till the park closed at sunset (around 9 in the summer round here) and there'd be playground equipment for the kids.
Is that tacky?
Of course we'd be at the whims of the weather...But if we really wanted to, we could rent a hall. The fire halls around here are abundant and cheap. And most of them have bbq pits or grills and full kitchens.
Again I'm thinking BBQ type food...I don't think anyone would object to that, do you?

Rehearsal dinners are typically pretty casual these days, and I've been to a few BBQ rehearsal dinners myself. We had a great time! Usually the wedding party and their significant others and both sets of parents are invited. Out of town guests are usually not expecting to be at the rehearsal or to be entertained the night before the wedding. The BBQ would be a less expensive way to include them if you wanted to. You could do a "meet for cocktails" hour after the rehearsal dinner if you wanted to get everyone together for a nightcap before getting a good nights sleep before the big day!