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pretty depressed right now!!!

Keep your head up girl! Tou're marrying the man of your dreams, sure you're going through a hard time right now and I am so so deeply sorry about the death of your brother and I know sometimes it may seem unbarable dealing with school and planning your wedding but it's all going to work out. I don't know if this amounts much to you, but I want you to know you're in my prayers :)

Don't feel sad hun. Things will get better just take your time. You got so much on your plate and that's understandable. I'm so sorry about your brother's death....it's never an easy thing to deal with but over time you'll feel better.  I know postpartum depression can happen after having a baby and you should talk to your doctor about it.  If you need to take a little break from school, take a semester off or take lesser classes. The last thing you want is to feel burned out from everything. Keep your head up.  I'll be praying for you

So sorry to hear this sweetie! I could only imagine that after having your son and the loss of your brother n law that you might be going through postpartum( I'm not a doctor of any kind) but I remember after I had my son and I was going through my own personal issues that I was sad all the time,cried alot, fought all the time with FH and some friends. I realized that I suffered from depression and went to go see my dr. He put me on a med and I did a total physical.

I also made alil time for myself. I read alot. Stay strong sweetie. Grieving is a very emotional ride. I know your FH is probably trying to understand it himself. I pray that things start getting better for you at this time of trying.

When you think about giving up just remember what kept you going in the first place.....read inspirational messages or even pick up a novel that always soothes me....exercise helps with stress as well....think happy thoughts and continue to strive 4 the best...it too shall past!!!!!

Sorry I miss read your post. I agree with sweetlatina 100%!

So sorry about your loss!! Losing someone that you are close to (especially that close) is such a hard, hard thing!!! I just lost my grandpa recently and feeling depressed is totally a normal response...

I agree with the other girls that things will work themselves out, you may just need to take some time for yourself instead of worrying about all of the other stuff (school in particular!)...take a break, start a new hobby (or go back to an old one), and definitely talk to a doctor! I was diagnosed with sever Lupus three years ago and even though I did have a great support group, who knows where I would be now if it wasn't for meds! You don't always even have to stay on them, they might just help for the time being until you get back on your feet!!!!

Keep your chin up!

Aw I'm sorry to hear this!! And arguing all the time is NOT fun. Sounds like you've had a pretty eventful couple of years and wedding planning must be adding to your plate too. I hope your fh can understand you at this time.. I really hope it doesn't damage your relationship too much.

Remember all the blessings that you DO have, and try to surprise your fh with a little bit of love or a kind word 'out of the blue' (even if you don't feel like it). Tell him how much he means to you, or how you really appreciate having him in your life... it might just heal some things! Sometimes spreading some love & joy can BOUNCE back at you!!

You're doing well, lovely! Keep up the good work and let us know how things go!!

I can relate a lot, I'm moving also, and my fh was laid off and is actively looking for a job and we have no idea what is going to happen.  I try and look at it like this.  This is one of those "for worse" times and if you and your man can get through this, you can do anything. The worst part is that stigma that it is suppose to be the happiest time of your life.  I think it's that way for very few people.  Weddings are incredibly hard on your body.  I know time is short, but three times a day, take a step back and take 5 deep deep breaths and let some of that nervous/bad energy out and relax your shoulders. Try some quick stretching too!

It sounds like you may have some pretty bad depression, add stress to that and it is not pretty. Honestly, I think you need to see someone. People are so against therapy but I think its a Godsend!
You suffered trauma after giving birth, you may of had postpartum depression mixed with the loss of your brother. That can tear a person down and fast. Postpartum  can last a long time and have ever lasting effects. I had it and in the end it resulted in me having anxiety and panic attacks (still get them to this day) Your body changes so much due to hormones and it can change some women drastically.
Your brothers passing was trauma and a trauma can make the postpartum  so much worse. I hope you go an see someone and even possibly get on some form of medication (if you believe in that sort of thing. Not all women do and thats ok!) to help you through out the process of getting married, being in school and being a Mom.
I can not stress enough to go see someone. You will be amazed how talking to someone outside the box or even your comfort zone can help you. I hope you can get some help sweetie.