This is superwoman74's Blue Wedding!

So, It's been forever and a day since I've been on WBC. I've been a little busy planning the wedding, which is in about six weeks. I sent out my invitations a couple weeks ago and wanted to share the final product with everyone.

I made 130 invitations and it was no easy task. Infact it took hours to design, cut, print, glue and assemble. I bought the envelopes, invitation pocket and paper from PaperSource.com. My girlfriend has a machine that cut out the monogram so she graciously offered her services. She also lent me a cutter that cut all of the paper.

I'm happy that we saved a fortune on our invitations and I love them. I have also got rave reviews from my friends.

Happy planning girls!

My FH wants to go to Hawaii or the Caribbean and I want to go to Greece and we haven't yet decided were we'll end up. Before we got engaged Kevin said that he wanted to go to Hawaii for his honeymoon. Anyways, I'm not totally sold on the idea, because it seems a little too "popular." Don't get me wrong, I think Hawaii sounds amazing and beautiful, but I don't think that I want to go for our honeymoon.

My dream honeymoon includes going to Santorini, Mykonos and Athens. The beaches look spectacular and the scenery beautiful. I figure that we could go to Santorini and Mykonos for a little over a week then head back to Athens for a couple days and see all the sights.

I haven't planned this out, but I have a vague idea that we would get a great villa, sleep in, work on baby making :) and do a couple tours. The main purpose for the first week is to relax, enjoy and be a couple. Week two would include more adventure and lots of sightseeing.

I don't think that the Caribbean, Mexico or Hawaii can compare. I would love for our honeymoon to be off the chart and I think that this is what Greece can offer. I would love to go to South Africa, but we're not loaded and can't afford a $30,000 vaycay. I wish we could!

So, my questions to the brides out there are: 1) What are your thoughts about our choices? 2) Where are you going for your honeymoon? 3) How do we reach a compromise if we have to make one?

Yesterday was my first bridal show as an engaged chick and it was a lot of fun. I went with my FH and he was great. He didn't rush me and he held all the bags. My groomzilla is very useful and I'm learning ways to use his enthusiam for the good and we're now working much better together. As a matter of fact, I think that I'm going to lay off calling him "groomzilla." Yesterday he told me that he doesn't want to be groomszilla, he just wants to feel included and part of the process. I was touched! He's such a teddy bear sometimes.

Anyways, yesterday we spent some time looking at invitations. The average price was $7-$12/invite. We're not Trumps and are not interested in spending loads of money for invitations, but I would like the invites to be classy and look expensive, but I don't want to spend a fortune. I don't mind doing a little hard work and assembling with my girls so I'm hoping I can cut down on the cost.

I am going with a Tiffany theme (I had no idea this was such a popular colour, but I'm glad it is, because so many of you girls have such amazing ideas) and I found these invites, but I don't know where I can get them. If anyone has any leads, please let me know.

Much appreciated!

I have a few ideas of songs I would like to play. Here are my thoughts...

Garter Toss Song:
Groove Me.............................................Guy
Kiss........................................................Prince
Let's Get it On.......................................Marvin Gaye
Rub You the Right Way...................... Johnny Gill


Bridal Bouquet Toss Song:
Proud Mary............................................Tina Turner


Father Daugther Dance:
Isn't She Lovely.....................................Stevie Wonder


Our First Dance:
All My Life...............................................K-Ci & JoJo
Somebody For Me................................Heavy D & The Boyz

If anyone has any other suggestions, please feel free to pass them along.

I have done event planning for a couple years and I love it. I love it so much that when helping my sister plan her wedding I decided that I wanted to do it for a living. So, I decided that I would be a wedding planner and thus projectwed.ca was created.

Although I know how to do it myself, I think that in the very near future I will begin looking to hire a wedding planner for the wedding day who shares my penchant for perfection.

If anyone is on the fence about hiring a planner vs. not hiring a planner, you can certainly benefit from hiring a planner! It will cost you a couple bucks, but a good planner can probably save you more money than what she will charge for her services. If you life in the GTA and want a planner for the day of the wedding, check out my website for a list of packages - www.projectwed.ca

Happy planning ladies!

This is yet another one of my burning questions. Should I take my FH's last name or should I hyphenate or should I keep my own name?

At first he didn't care if I took his name or not, but since talking to the wife of one of his best friends, he wants me to take his name. He has good points, i.e. I should have the same last name as our children-to-be; tradition; it means something to him.

As you can see I have a pretty big dilemma. When he asked me for my thoughts, I said that I wanted to keep my name, however if he was insistent, I would change my name. The reason I said what I said was because I didn’t know what to say and I wanted to be fair. At the same point, I am not interested in changing over all of my documents and erasing the name I connect with the most. I truly care about his feelings and want to make him happy, but I don't want to sacrifice own my happiness.

In theory I guess that I can hyphenate my name, but I don't like the way it looks. I have a long last name and he has a short last name and I don't think that it looks aesthetically pleasing. Maybe I shouldn't be concerned with the cosmetics...

I have noticed that a great majority of my friends have taken their husbands names and a few others have hyphenated. There are of course a few who have kept their maiden names. It's not that I have a high powered job where my name is my brand, but I like my name and I don't think that it’s necessary to change the contents of my entire wallet to let strangers know that we're husband and wife.

Please share your thoughts/perspectives. I feel as though I need a better reason to either go for the change or remain the same.

My sister had cally lillies and they were beautiful and I really liked them, but I don't think that I want to copy her style. Also, I don't want to spend a fortune on flowers. So, I thought that maybe I would do something kinda/sorta Caribbean and do a feather-like carnival themed centrepiece. Thoughts???

My FH and I have been together for a little over four years and we got engaged in March while in Jamaica on vacation. It was a beautiful proposal and we started planning our wedding the night we got engaged. Needless to say, we are both excited to be getting married. Once we returned from vacation planning was kicked into gear and we secured a venue and a church within a month. We're doing pretty well for planning, except he appears to be taking control. I'm glad that he's interesed, but I don't want him to be THAT interested.

In addition to always talking about the wedding and the food and the flowers and the number of guests (he keeps increasing the #s) he keeps harassing me about my dress! I draw the line there! I hope that he likes what I choose, but my dress is my choice and it represents me - not us! He suggested that I take along some people that I don't think have earned the right to be part of this decision. Dress shopping is something I have every intention of sharing with those near and dear to me.

Don't get me wrong, I don't want to choose a dress that he would hate and I will take his suggestions into consideration, but I am the one wearing the dress and it is my wedding day as much as it is his and I think that I should feel like a superstar on my wedding day.

Anyways, I wanted to start looking for dresses soon, because I want to buy it before the winter begins so as not to dress shop in the winter, but he thinks that I should wait until after the bridal shows because he wants to see what's out there before I look. It feels like he's trying to control everything and it's severely pissing me off and ruining this experience. We have argued about this very thing a few times in the past couple months and I was curious to know if anyone else is going through this foolishness or perhaps I'm being oversensitive and ridiculous.

Please let me know your thoughts and if you have any suggestions on how to correct this, please let me know. To help prove a point I have suggested that he come dress shopping with me, I have even told him to go ahead and pick the dress. Today I pulled the final stop and suggested eloping to avoid future fighting and get it over dresses, guest numbers, food, etc... Go figure he said "no" to eloping because he wants to have his wedding day.

My question is: how do I get groomzilla to back off and take back my tiara?