Bridesmaids

Sister!!!!!!

no way---you had your date planned first...she should respect you in enough to not rain on your parade.  Good for you for sticking up for yourself.  Why can't she pick October or NOvember to have her wedding?

I know how you feel!!  It sounds like she just wanted in on the wedding action and is trying to take the fun and job out of it for you. My best friend decided in January that her and her bf of only a few months were going to get married...in July..a MONTH before our wedding..and I am to be the MOH. We have been planning our wedding for a year now and now all of a sudden she's going to get married (for the second time, her divorce was final last June) Because this is all last minute it even ended up having to be moved to June this year because they didn't have any openings when she wanted. I've already had to tell her to back off stealing some of our wedding ideas. But you are 100% in the right here! You need to let her know that you have been planning your wedding for X long and these are your dates and she'll just have to work around that if she wants to get married this year! Maybe you could buy her a calendar and write all you dates for you wedding stuff in it for her lol

Sounds like my life last year...my fiance and I have been dating for 4 1/2 years. My best friend was dating a guy for a little over a year and my sister's divorce was just finalized for about 2 months and (she was dating a guy for a year) and she got engaged to her boyfriend of a year. Hopefully you're following this it's confusing I know just wanted to give you the background a little.

Best friend gets engaged in January 2007, sister gets engaged in February 2007, we get engaged in May 2007- so I am now in 2 weddings for 2008 (maid of honor in sister's wedding in August 2008 and bridesmaid in best friend's wedding in September 2008) so instead of having my wedding thrown in there and trying to figure out dates- fiance and I decide to wait to get married until May 2009....even though we had been together LONGER than best friend and her boyfriend at the time and my sister and her boyfriend at the time...BUT they both got engaged first...so it only seemed fair to me that we got engaged last so we should wait for them to decide what date they wanted to get married and then pick a date..

I think your sister and you are going to have enough to plan with YOUR wedding this year (also she should think of your parents!) I wanted to make sure guests from my sister's wedding didn't have to pick which wedding they could make it to (alot are from out of town-so they wouldn't be able to come two months in a row and whatnot) anyways just a lot to think about...if it's not set in stone, I would talk to her about it. Is it going to kill her to wait another year? Also being a bridesmaid isn't cheap..I should know I've had to be one 7 fricken times..you shouldn't have to buy 2 bridesmaid dresses, shoes, hair styles, etc the same year as YOUR wedding...ugh...I feel for ya girl! Let us know how this turns out! Your sister is being such a think for herselfer (Dane Cook lol)

Your sister needs a punch in the face. *laughs*

I think you need to sit down with her and have a real heart to heart. Let her know that you are so excited that she is engaged and getting married. Then let her know that as excited as you are for her, you have been planning your wedding for a while now and already have a few things organized & want to be able to give her wedding the proper attention it deserves. Ask her if she thinks her wedding will get the attention it deserves if it is mere weeks after her sister's wedding. You want her wedding to be just as special. And then, let her know that there is no way you are changing around your dates for her because you've had this stuff planned for a while. She needs to understand that SHE needs to give a little, not you or this will become effing bride wars.

You are 100% justified to be a little pissed off, I think.

I'm lucky that my brother is being so understanding. J and his lady, S have been together longer than us, so we were waiting for them to get engaged first. It wasn't happening, so D proposed to me. A few weeks before us, S's best friend got engaged. So, J was like "eff! If I propose now, it will look like I was forced into it. I also can't get married the same year as my sister." To make matters worst for poor J, our older brother is getting married this summer. *laughs* My brother is an unselfish angel.

Hopefully, your sister will gain a little maturity and understanding? *fingers crossed*