teetersfam07's Red wedding


07/08/2007
how many of you
I just want to know this. How many of you are seriously having to pay for all of your wedding yourself, with no help to hardly no help from family. I mean seriously! Robert and I have to pay for nearly everything ourselves, plus pay rent, plus pay utilities, plus deal with stupid stuff at work with them threatening our hours, and all that. I mean my dad will pay for the caterer, or so he says, which will be nearly 450, and my mom is paying for the honeymoon which is 140, but we are paying for our decorations, chapel, reception, cake, dress, tux, ring bearers tux, my sisters dress (she bought mine so i am buying hers), flower girls dress, accesseries, rings, flowers, and all the other stuff I have forgotten to mention. I mean its hard to do. We live paycheck by paycheck, and its hard to save for it. We spend nonstop on the wedding and our bills. Its discouraging. I just want some encouragement. I mean even though my mom and dad said they were going to pay, we dont expect them to because they let us down so much. So basically we are doing it ourselves. Not only that but we get paid on Mondays, and by Tuesday after we pay our wedding expences and bills, we have absolutely no money. Maybe we rushed in putting our wedding so soon. I know we can do it, but still its discouraging right now because of the money situation. I just wish our family would be more into the wedding like they were when my brother got married and roberts brother got married. EVERYONE was willing to help, but I guess since we are already married and now we are having our wedding no noe cares. I just hate it right now. I dont care, we are having our special day and its not getting canceled for anything. We got a lot of the expences out of the way. I just hope everyone will get into the spirit soon. Its killing me.
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nichole2617
 |  Germantown, OH, United states  |  07/08/2007
We are in the same boat. This is my second marriage so my family is out of the question. His family is helping some but I dont like to depend on them.  Everything will work out. you still have a while until your wedding. Dont stress so much that you dont enjoy the planning.
beckyandtom
 |  -, United states  |  07/09/2007
I know girl. We are fortunate to be having my parents helping, but with that help came demands, like you have to invite blah blah and blah, and have to have a sit down dinner at $20 a head or more. So I know what you mean! Just think of this- all those monetary gifts that come with a wedding! And a lot of time you are not required to pay everything until the end of the wedding (after you open cards).
howardswife2be
 |  Dardanelle, AR, United states  |  09/06/2007
We also paying for everything, and I have been researching every avenue to keep the cost down. We both have been married before and howard doesnt want to be married in a church and I do not wish to get married in las vegas again! We both love the outdoors so we decided on an outside wedding. Nice to see that you two are getting married again, very special.. Julie
Tonya
 |  Reston, VA, United states  |  09/11/2007
We're getting married in April and also don't have any help. So we're paying everything plus a honeymoon in Hawaii with our taxes. If your thinking how, I have to planned everything on a $10,000 budget, if that!
sharpbella83
 |  Chicago, IL, United states  |  10/10/2007
So, my dad is a complete dead beat... I haven't spoken to him in 5 years.  There was no way I was letting my mom pay for any of it, even though she insists. However it is very hard to do it! Jay and I (my fiance)  have set a very strict budget and so far are way under (THANK GOD!!) Just hang in there, and it will work!
naomijoy
 |  Vancouver, BC, Canada  |  12/12/2007
Dave and I are paying for EVERYTHING our selves too! Including the honeymoon and catering at the reception as well as everything else you listed...absolutely everything and we just bought a condo and making payments on that wow...just killing us. I totally know where your coming from... the no money thing makes it very stressful! hopefully my dad will throw in a coupla grand or something :S
alybrand
 |  Seattle, WA, United states  |  12/29/2007
I know your wedding is coming up, but there are ways that I have found to keep the cost down and still have a beautiful wedding. Like renting out a park in my town is about $16 a day... you could make your own beautiful floral arrangements out of daisy's and red roses or whatever - that's cheap, the new wedding cake idea seems to be a bunch of cupcakes displayed instead, for music stick an ipod into a sound system instead of a dj and have a friend maintain it. For a honeymoon go to a nice hotel a couple hours away in a town you like and save for a nice honeymoon on a different date... i hope any of that helps and congrats on YOUR big day.
Third to be Engaged
 |  Calgary, AB, Canada  |  01/14/2008
Are you kidding me?  How dare you complain that your family isn't paying for enough.  I'd love to have someone offer to pay for the catering and my honeymoon!  My fiance and I are paying for 100% of our wedding because that's just life.  People don't pay for their children's weddings anymore.  My other engaged friends, also paying for their own.  My mother paid for her own, and so did her mother.  Get over yourself and stop being so selfish.  You sound like a spoiled brat.  Your parents have all the same expenses you do.
jj1220
 |  Pittsburgh, PA, United states  |  01/30/2008
Sorry but I am going to have to agree with Third to be Engaged..... You sound like a spoiled brat. You should take it as a gift that they are paying some things, not complaining. This is YOUR wedding, not theirs. How dare you.
littlelady93
 |  Belleville, IL, United states  |  02/12/2008
You are not alone...We are paying for most of everything. My parents are paying for half the cost for the reception hall and alcohol/bartender. I know they aren't rich and knew from the beginning that we would have to pay for it ourselves.
soon2Bmrsmikej
 |  Austin, TX, United states  |  04/18/2008
like many of the other ladys said it is very hard to do when your funds are limited, we had to get second jobs and just have that money go into a seperated account (wedding account).
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