Happy New Years Ladies! 2013 is here and I will be in Maui Hawaii next year for our 15th Anni...
FH and I hadn't planned on having a "honeymoon". I was going to take off of work, but we haven't really talked about going somewhere. We are paying for the majority of the wedding ourselves, so this means that a lot of our money is tied up with that--not to mention it is slightly more expensive than we had originally planned. My sister owns a timeshare, so she has offered to let us use it anywhere we want. Well here is where it gets a little tricky. I had a friend pass away a few years back and everytime her dad is in town, we always have dinner. He also owns a timeshare. Last year after he found out about our engagement he offered his timeshare. Well over Christmas FH and I were having dinner with him and he mentioned that he was going to get us a timeshare and was working it out so we could go for a week. So this whole time we had "sort of" planned on him doing something--we were pretty sure we couldn't say no because this would be his gift to us and he will never be able to do it for his daughter. I get an email from him earlier today saying that he has already reserved a 2 suites in St. Maarten for us and for him and whoever he brings and let him know if we are interested. We of course would have to pay the airfare. My sis was married in St. Maarten but FH and I had to get back to work so we didn't really get a chance to explore that much.
Here are a few of my concerns:
1) We need to sit down to decide if we can actually afford to go.
2) I don't want to feel obligated to hang out with him everyday. It's nice that he did this, but it is our honeymoon. I don't mind the occassional dinner, but I just have a feeling he may want to hang out a bit more.
3) I don't want to hurt his feelings, since basically he did this for us, for our wedding. So what if we don't necessarily want to go to St. Maarten.
4) I know he should have asked us first and if we had a particular location in mind, but this is just how he is. He's not being rude or anything so please don't take it like that.
I just don't know how to tactfully say...Thanks for doing this for us--but we don't want to see you everyday. I don't want to sound harsh but at the same time we would like to do some things on our own, ya know? What would you do?