Blog #1 - Those other sites... - UNPREDICTABLEBRIDE's Black Wedding by Color Blog

So, I have been registered with a few other "wedding" sites. I have to say the people I have run into on there are pretty awful. The forums are mainly loaded with rude and negative comments that in no way will help a bride! Time and time again someone will ask for an "opinion" and get such nasty feed back, then will be TOLD "Don't ask an opinion if you do not want to hear what others have to say!" I will agree with that, however there is a thing called class. Try using it sometime. I have seen brides ripped to shreds on some of these sites because of their values, religious beliefs etc. I have seen them call members ungrateful stuck up brats because they want to voice an opinion about THEIR wedding even though their parents may be paying for it.. This is still their day. How dare anyone be so rude and disrespectful to another person ever? I just do not understand it at all. These sites are meant to be helpful, not a place to add even more stress!

With that said:
I am so happy that I have found WBC! This site is like a breath of fresh air! I have been here only a day and a half and already have had nothing but positive people and respectful comments! The people I have come across have been SO helpful! I thank you all for that. I have found my "wedding site" home! WBC!

You are all wonderful!

I am so glad you like it here it is an awesome supportive site I am sorry about your other experience. Like you said we all need a place where we can voice our opinions and vent our fustrations without being judged.

That is so cool! Doesn't that feel good to know this? WBC is #1 and I've been married for 2 months now and can't stay away. Yaayyyy, good job ladies!
From: The Budget Queen!

I'm glad you feel much better about WBC! The ladies here are honest, but like you said, the key is having tact. No one deserves to be shredded for their style/taste in things. So, welcome again to this site & I'm glad you're here :)

I'm so glad I found this site as well. I've feel so much love here and everyone's ideas are great!!!!!

I went to "The knot" to ask a question about my bridal party (when I was having a REALLY hard time with a family member) Just to get some other opinions. And I was in tears as to the rude comments I got back. They called my Fiance rude names for being on my side about the situation. Called me hurtful names, etc. It was so horrible. They made fun of how I was posting the comments, since I as new and didn't get the hang of things to quick. I think 1 out of the 30 comments I got were nice. I feel sorry for the FH of all those brides. I tried emailing the blog supervisor but nothing!

The knot was the big one for me as well..just AWFUL people there! When I canceled my membership to that site I told them exactly why..here is what I wrote (copied & pasted)

I would like my account/membership deleted.
Not because of a canceled wedding but due to the fact the brides that sit on your forums are cruel, mean and most are heartless. I can not believe how childish and juvenile 88% of these members are in your forums. They attack others ideas and styles. I do not want to have any part of this.
Your site itself is wonderful and offers so much, the community forums however have made me leave.
Thank you

Thats what I should of done. I think I still have my account. Maybe I'll do that now. If they get enough complaints maybe they'll do something, But unlikley

I'm with you! I love love LOVE this site. Everyone is so helpful and nice and respectful. Joining this site is the best thing I could have done!

I love that group hug animation too LOL

MORE HUGS FOR THE BEST WEDDING SITE ON THE NET!!!

Now if they only offered a wedding web page here as well *sigh*

I was on The Knot and Brides.Com.

On the Knot, I asked one simple question about how I could seat my husband's bitterly divorced parents at the ceremony. Instead of helpful comments, I got a slew of remarks attacking me for my age (I was only 18 at the time), all in the vein of, "if you aren't smart enough to figure out how to seat them yourself, then you aren't old enough to be getting married! Come back after you've GROWN UP!" I took down my profile immediately.

On Brides... Brides started out wonderful. I loved those girls, and got so close to many of them. And then it changed. One poster, auntofthebride, kept stirring trouble. She was a flat out wicked old witch, and when one person posted to tell everyone that she needed to cool it, AOTB posted sarcastically, "dear (user). Take a chill pill." Then another member got her sh*t-stirring husband to join, just to post nasty smartass remarks. This is how I ended that membership, copy and pasted from my profile (censored):

"I was once a Brides.Com regular, but I have gradually become less active over the last few months.

I have grown tired of the constant catty sh*t-slinging going on. It seems there is a group of posters who do nothing but instigate and antagonize everyone. It is sad to me that someone would go as far as to bring their spouse on the boards to sling sh*t along with them. It is sad to me that new brides can't come here and enjoy the boards the way I used to. Instead, some brides are picked out to be favorites and the rest are criticized to the core until they just quit coming here.

To those who made my experience here a good one, I thank you dearly for those memories. To the rest of you, I hope you can one day find better things to do than sit around antagonizing other people on an Internet forum.

I would say goodbye, but I said goodbye to the Brides.Com I loved a long time ago."

I'm glad to have found a place where people are supportive, and glad that you have, too!

I know exactly of who you are speaking of on Brides. I am on there as well but have found myself here and only wanting to be here.

In one forum I did an introduction and wrote a little about myself and my Fiance. In it I called him my pain in my a**.. HE IS! I have a dry sense of humor and apparently no one there appreciated it! I have 4 children and we have been together 9 years almost..If I want to call him my pain in the a** I can! lol

I also agree that new brides there seem non existent on both sites! There are members in there that were married in 2004 and still being overpowering Bridezillas! Meanwhile the new posters can barely get a reply or advice..when they do they are attacked!

* I will say this though..after falling so much in love with this place, I may be one of those members hahaha!*