Wedding Cake

Cake Schmake!

I originally asked my one BM to make my wedding cake as she loves doing that kind of stuff and it would be practically free!

Over the course of my engagment she has become pregnant and due with her 2nd child 2 or 3 weeks before my wedding.

A few weeks ago she lost the baby.

I feel now, she is going to become pregnant for my wedding (which is fine) but she has had 1 baby out of 3 pregnancies. I worry she will be on bedrest or not even be able to travel for my wedding as she is high risk.

Her son is also my 1 ring bearer.

Then the subject of transporting my wedding cake almost 2 hours to my wedding venue.

I suggested she come up a few days before the wedding to make it at my place and she didn't think that it was needed.

I also said that it HAS TO, HAS TO BE NUT FREE!

She came back at me and said "how can you even garentee anything from a factory would be nut free" ??? My thoughts exactly...how would any of the Nut Allergic people in the world even survive!

I don't know what to do and how to tell her that i'm stressed about this. She is already making cupcakes (from what I hear from my other BM) for the weekend that we are going BM dress shopping. Also a few weeks later she is making the cake for my Jack & Jill.

I don't want to hurt her feelings but this is not just coming from only me. It is our wedding and I can't been super stressed about something as easy as a cake.

Any suggestions out there?

Thanks!



ps...here is a pic. of the cake I want, but instead of blue flowers I want hot pink (my wedding colour) and then silver stems; not gold!