05/31/2008
interracial
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Interracial Weddings
Love has no color

I noticed that there are alot of interracial couples on here.
yea for us!
Im so glad we live in a time where it isn't taboo like pre 70's i guess

have any of you had any negative experiences because you are a mixed couple?

we have, my FH is mexican and caucasian but he looks mostly caucasian
we were in the grocery store and there was a caucasian couple behind us, the man wispered to his wife that his parents would kill him if her ever brought home a black girl. i was sooo hurt. But i guess one incident in 6 years is nothing compared to if we were together pre 70's

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marta12's Blue wedding
marta12
 |  Chicago, IL, USA  |  05/31/2008  | 
Mixed love over here...

I lost count on our negative encounters. Mostly its staring (some types of people more than others).

I recently posted my email address on theknot when requesting some information and someone went out of their way to create a fake email adress (specifically deragatory toward us) and said some crazy things about us being together...some of it very racist...

we've been together for so long (10 years) I just let it roll off my shoulder these days. haters will be haters.
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Timsgirl
 |  Stoney creek, ON, Canada  |  05/31/2008  | 
I am not in an interracial relatinship but i think that your opening line is correct love has no colour and its not the 70s anymore. Don't let people get to you love is beautiful no matter what colour it is :)
futuremrsmayes's Purple wedding
futuremrsmayes
 |  Oklahoma city, OK, USA  |  06/01/2008  | 
Oh My!!
I know how you feel! Even though i am marrying somebody from my own race, i have dated out of my race before and have delt with the same thing!! And the worst thing about it is that most of these people consider themselves "christians".  ALL LOVE IS BEAUTIFUL!!...Believe me a change is coming YES WE CAN!!
mochabrown's Chocolate wedding
mochabrown
 |  Atlanta, GA, USA  |  06/01/2008  | 
I totally feel you all on that. My FI is white and I'm Somalian. We have been together for a while and I can't count the number of exchanges when have received...plus his own grandmother isn't coming to our wedding because she doesn't think we should "mixed". But I'm so happy that we are in a truly loving and strong relationship with loving family and friends that whatever other people think or say doesn't really MATTER.
pinkylv's Blue wedding
pinkylv
 |  Ajax, ON, Canada  |  06/01/2008  | 
Nick is French Canadian and my parents are from Jamaica (I'm a 1st gen Canadian).  I haven't had any remarks made to my face (knock on wood), but we do get looks.  i never thought I would end up with a Caucasian guy, but it just happened, and my parents love him, and that's all that matters.  His family is OK with it too...Nick has always been down with the swirl.
chineyelovesrickey's Purple wedding
chineyelovesrickey
 |  Los angeles, CA, USA  |  06/01/2008  | 
NO FREAKIN' WAY!!!
I know it is 2008, but racism is still here and isn't going to go away anytime soon.
I am sorry that you experienced that and that person is very IGNORANT.
katuska's Red wedding
katuska
 |  London, London, city of, United kingdom  |  06/02/2008  | 
We're a mixed couple, too! I am white, my FI is black and we've got a beautiful caramel girl who's 4! We do get a lot of stares too and some nasty comments, funny enough mainly from black girls. My FI has been branded a sellout soo many times! I don't mean to upset anyone here but this is my own experience. But after 5 years together I couldn't care less.
dirtymartini's Green wedding
dirtymartini
 |  Stockton, CA, USA  |  06/02/2008  | 
i'm filipino-american and fh is black... uuummm, very rarely do we get comments to our face or within "earshot", i'm thinkin probably b/c fh is 6'3 and 250 lbs??? hahaha  

ok all joking aside - i never really thought about interracial couples as being anything out of the ordinary - maybe b/c i've lived in san fran and l.a. - but my family (even older generations) has always been open and been involved and married interracially, inter-faith, inter-everything...

it's wierd but the only "oh i know he's not with HER" comment i've heard was from a group of black girls at a bar in l.a... to which fh responded with - "and your attitude is why y'all here alone..."

but i'd say 98% of the time, it's all good =)

marta is right - haters will be haters - all we can do is be the best person we can be
mekana's Blue wedding
mekana
 |  Alhambra, CA, USA  |  06/03/2008  | 
Thats horrible. Some people are just ignorant so we should consider the source.

I haven't experienced anything really bad myself, but what I have I just laugh off. Usually we get dirty looks and sometime small comments from those of our own races. He's Puerto Rican and Filipino but looks mostly Latino and I am Japanese and Mexican but lost mostly Asian and even Caucasian because of my skin color. Everywhere we go Latina girls give me dirty looks or Asian guys give him dirty looks. But like I said, it's not that bad. I just ignore it.
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Tam
 |  New york, NY, USA  |  06/03/2008  | 
I just wanted to say...dont let people ruin your day. You can let people know how you feel without "stooping" to their level when they have offended (you). Truthfully, I have dated outside of my race but also was on the other side of the fence with being judgemental when I saw a black man with a woman of another race. Mostly because it was hard for me as a black woman to find a good black man....this was not out of raw predjudice but  just bitterness. Anyway, I am wayyyyyy older now and I can honestly say that there is someone out there for everyone....it is a matter of if you will open your heart and close your eyes to find them. Good luck to you and you are very beautiful and will make a beautiful bride. Be sure to post pics when your day is over.
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futuremrsmayes
 |   |  06/04/2008  | 
I just wanted to comment on what TAM said:

I totally disagree with that comment that "good black men are hard to find" I think it is just crap. I know alot a good black men out there, and just because you see a black man with a women of another race doesn't mean he is a "good man."

I am an African American women, and i have never looked crossways at anyone who is dating "outside race."All of this type attitudes just proves that america is still dealing with racism, and that it is going to take along time for us the fully overcome with persona that has stigmatized our nation.
irishpocahontas's Purple wedding
irishpocahontas
 |  Cork, Cork, Ireland  |  07/01/2008  | 
I think that racist attitude is such horrible bulls**t - I dated guys of other races and you know what I always get attitude from women mainly it all boils down to their insecurity. If people were secure and happy they wouldnt even see the color being an issue. Its when they are insecure and miserable they want everyone else to be too. Im sure this is very appealing and attractive lol no wonder most of them are single
lhaltim's Chocolate wedding
lhaltim
 |  Mt. laurel, NJ, USA  |  07/17/2008  | 
My fiance is black and I'm mexican/arabian and we've been together for five years. It's funny because we don't see color, we in fact embrace our cultures. For example, sometimes we find ourselves having both soul and mexican food for dinner lol.  Where we live, you don't see many interracial couples so we do get a lot of stares and a lot of "Aww, you guys are gonna have some beautiful babies."
tigrrl74's Red wedding
tigrrl74
 |  Singapore, Singapore  |  07/24/2008  | 
ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? did this really happen???

okay, so i'm a filipino and my h2b is caucasian, from the UK. we have never encountered odd looks. his parents didn't bat an eyelash and are in fact overjoyed. and everyone seems to be convinced we'll have gorgeous kids someday.

the worst comment i ever got was from a fellow-filipino who did not realize i was filipino as well. she intimated in tagalog to her friends: "is that his girlfriend? i can take her anytime. she's fat and i'm far sexier."

funny thing about haters. it's not how different you are that makes them upset. it's the fact that you are actually HAPPY. somehow that just drives people nuts.

whatevs. people like dumping their issues on other people. you don't have to take any of their garbage. you are very pretty and you make him happy and i know you'll have gorgeous kids someday. :)
swoopey's Red wedding
swoopey
 |  Tokyo, Parvan, Japan  |  08/25/2008  | 
My sweetheart is white and I am black and we don't currently reside in the USA and haven't experience any racism for being a mixed couple.  However, I did notice a lot of staring from both black and white people when we visited my family in Alabama.  I don't mind though, we are a beautiful couple and people usually stare at things unfamiliar.  

Anyway, good for you and your family :) and congratulations on your marriage!
mellsbells's Purple wedding
mellsbells
 |  Springfield, IL, USA  |  01/29/2010  | 
I'm a white girl planning to marry a black guy, and we definitely get some looks.  We've been lucky that our families have accepted our relationship; in fact, it's been amazing to watch him interact with my grandmothers and my nephew.
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Velour
 |  Bronx, NY, USA  |  03/15/2010  | 
I'm a young Black woman of Caribbean heritage; my hubby (who I married this year) is White. I live in a liberal, multicultural city, but some Black men stare at us and a few young ones in the street have made rude comments. One time a really old Black man glared at us. Some old White women have given us the evil eye, and some of the younger White women give me challenging, up and down looks and reactions, and even pose nearby to see if my guy will pay attention to them...lol. Most people who react at all smile at us, though. Anyway, how others feel about our relationship it is their problem. My relationship isn't their business. Their thoughts or feelings aren't my business, so I won't be living my life based on that. My hubby and I are happy and in love, so I don't let other people's personal issues get in the way of it.
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