vsquared1011's Blue wedding


04/12/2008
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Bridesmaids
DRAMA
I'm going to kind of just rant and rave here for a bit, but this is something I'm really struggling with and I'm not sure what to do...

About 2 months ago, my best friend of 13 years and I had a huge argument and are no longer on speaking terms and never will be again :(

There will be 5 groomsmen and I want an equal number of bridesmaids, so I am really having a hard time filling the positions. My cousin who is 15 will be one of them and my fiance's brother's wife will be another, but those are my only for sures. Here's who I'm thinking though:

Friend A-families have been friends since before we were both born, but we have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING in common...my mom thinks that I should have her in the wedding.

Friend B-we were great friends growing up, but have really lost touch since we have been in college. We have been chatting about once a month the past few months, but I don't want her to think that I'm just having her because I have no one else.

Friend C-good friend the first couple years of college, but we only see each other every couple of months now and don't have much in common any more.


I am not really close with anyone, so I'm not sure who I should have as my MOH...I had always just planned on it being my best friend who is no longer :(

I don't want who ever I pick to feel like I picked them just because I had no one else. Any advice?
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fabulousmrsklein
 |  Chicago, IL, United states  |  04/12/2008
I was in sort of the same situation my best friend and I had a HUGE falling out right as I was asking the girls to be in the wedding... I really feel like you should go for uneven numbers rather then ask girls just to have the numbers, I am having more girls then guys and I might just have all the guys already standing up there while the ladies walk down alone
kjk2009
 |  Toronto, ON, Canada  |  04/12/2008
Maybe this is the perfect time to ask for her forgivness and show her how much she means to you by asking her to be in the wedding. If, of course, you want to repair the friendship. If not, I'd agree..go with uneven numbers. I was really dead set against having uneven numbers - now we do, but we're both really  happy with our BM's and GM selection. Good luck!
reidxrichards
 |  Antigonish, NS, Canada  |  04/13/2008
I agree with the uneven numbers, I had a huge fight with my best friend of 14 years this year, she was my planned MoH for a long time. Things change, people change in the end you are the only one you always have to please.
chirawan
 |  New york, NY, United states  |  04/13/2008
Nothing wrong with having uneven numbers. And..you don't need a MOH. You could just call all of them bridesmaids without giving one that "special" title.
misslexy03
 |  Suring, WI, United states  |  04/15/2008
I am having an uneven number in my wedding since I have twin sisters and I dont feel right choosing one over the other as the maid of honor so I am having both of them walk with the best man. I also had one of my bridesmaids tell me that she didnt think that she could come so I asked someone else and well now she can come and I dont have the heart to tell her that I replaced her so I am starting out with two maids of honor and one best man and ending with two bridesmaids and one groomsman!!! The guys are loving it!!!
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