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I now have an ex-bridesmaid. To fully appreciate the reasoning for me replacing my bridesmaid you have to hear the story from the beginning.
Let's go back to May of last year. I asked my friend to be my bridesmaid. I gave her a list of bridesmaid duties (according to the knot). She read through them, and had no problem with any of them. She was super excited for about two weeks. We went dress shopping in June. She was kind of excited. She had just broken up with her boyfriend who was planning to propose. So I figured I'd give her some space. After all it's not fun helping plan a wedding when you no longer are planning a wedding too. I refrained from talking about the wedding for a few months.
When we picked up the dress in October she showed no enthusiasm at all. We went to Michael's after picking up her dress. She had agreed to come along to help shop for my DIY projects. She spent the whole time aloof. I had to ask her the same questions over and over again. She spent the majority of the time searching for pieces to make a necklace she had decided to make after we got there. I was so disappointed in her lack of interest. I figured this is normal. She's not excited because the wedding is so far away.
Fast forward to November. When I call her she rarely answers. When she does answer I try to bring her up to speed on wedding planning. She immediately changes the subject. In January I find out from her facebook that she is moving. Of course I called her to find out what's going on. She tells me she might be moving to Texas, but she wasn't sure yet. I told her to let me know as soon as she knew. I also told her that my wedding dress would be arriving any day. I told her hopefully it would arrive before she moved so she could help me try it on, and see it in person since she didn't go dress shopping with me. I found out from her facebook later that week that she wasn't moving. Seriously she couldn't call to tell me??? I called her to give her my support since she was going to be without her boyfriend while he was almost a thousand miles away for work. I told her we should have a double date before he leaves. I find out mid January from her facebook that her boyfriend is on his way down to Texas. Now I'm starting to get irritated by her lack of communication.
I called her to tell her my dress was going to be at the shop the next day. It'd be here sometime that week because they were shipping it to me. My dress came in a few days later so I called her. She didn't answer. The next day she called me, but only because she needed directions to my college that she was transferring to. I gave her step by step directions directly to the college, to the parking lot she needed to be in, to the door she needed to go to, and to the office she needed to be at. Once she made it to her destination I mentioned my dress. She told me she would call me back. She called me back later to whine about her day of registration. After a period of silence I brought up my dress, and once again she told me she'd have to call me back. She never called me back. I called the next day, but she didn't answer. Finally I gave up on having her help me try my dress on. I had a friend help me try my dress on. I was beside myself. My bridesmaid showed no interest in helping me try my dress on. Nor did she care about seeing it! I showed her the pictures online. She didn't ask who helped me try it on. All she said was oh it's pretty. Then she changed the subject as I tried to tell her I needed to lose weight to fit into it better. This was the last straw!
I sent her a message on facebook since she wasn't answering her phone. I asked her very nicely if she still wanted to be a bridesmaid. She said yea why wouldn't I? I sent a message back saying," Well, I've noticed that you haven't been very excited or interested in anything wedding related since you and Jared broke up. I know you are really busy. I know you have a lot on your mind. So I've been thinking about this for awhile. I figured it'd be better if you were a gift attendant. You can still wear the dress to the wedding. I just think it'd fit your schedule better as you wouldn't have any responsibility except showing up on the wedding day. I know it's crappy, but I think it's in the best of both of our interest." Of course my now ex-bridesmaid threw a fit like a baby, and told me to forget about it. I could have my bridesmaid dress back, because that was the biggest load of horse shit she had ever heard. I had tried being civil, but I had had it! We should of been talking about this over the phone not over facebook! So I explained to her why I didn't want her to be my bridesmaid anymore with all of the things listed above included. She claimed I never asked her to help! Then she said besides your wedding isn't until August.
OMG! I can't believe she said that! I have waited since March of last year for my dress to get here, and she didn't even understand why I wanted to try it on so soon! Seriously?!!?!?!?!? So I gave her a list of the things that need to be done before the wedding. There is a lot of stuff that has to be done before the wedding! When she messaged me back she didn't even acknowledge the list of things that she needed to do before the wedding. I am so glad I replaced her! My other friends and my fiance were telling me they figured this would happen. They couldn't understand how I didn't see how self absorbed my now ex-bridesmaid is. Obviously I do now! She's even playing the "I'm the victim" game now!