Have you and your spouse agreed to not wear wedding rings? Do you trust each other enough and have that level of comfort in one another?
If it’s because of cost or the dangers that metal rings can possess, I’ve got news for you: you can still wear a wedding ring, it just won’t be made out of silver or gold.
Not wearing wedding rings is actually becoming a trend that a lot of people are doing. In these times, money is tight, and the economy isn’t looking to get back on track anytime soon.
What Professionals Shouldn’t Wear a Ring on the Job?
Believe it or not, there are some professions that simply just shouldn’t wear rings. Yes, a wedding ring is a symbol that should never be taken off, but safety is more important. And this does all come down to safety.
- Electricians: Working with a highly conductive ring in an electrical area is seriously not a good idea. Whether you want to keep your ring on or not, it’s arguably the most dangerous profession to keep a metal ring on.
- Carpenters: There are so many different ways you can endure ring avulsion here, and apart from that, you’re working with power tools, open electrical panels (or you’re at least around them), and plenty of hazards that you really don’t want to get your ring stuck on.
- Mechanics: Ever been under the hood of a car? Your engine is one of the most treacherous areas to get your finger stuck in. While the engine might be off and moving parts disabled, ring avulsion could be a huge problem here.
If you want to see a complete list of all the professions that really shouldn’t be wearing metal rings, we have a post on them here.
Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Wear Your Ring
You know we’re all about silicone rings here, so I implore you to do your own independent research to verify all of this if you wish.
Metal rings have become outdated because of many reasons, one of those being price, but that’s not the only thing wrong here. There are a few good reasons that you shouldn’t wear your metal wedding ring.
- Some Women Find Married Men More Attractive: It’s messed up, it’s not okay, and for some of us, it ends up being tempting. You can find evidence of this online all over the place: some women (notice I am not generalizing here) just love married men. Why put that target on your finger for everyone to see?
- It’s a Telltale: It gives a lot away. It immediately gives someone a preconceived notion of you. I was once interviewing a man for a job, and noticed his wedding ring. When we talked about his work hours, he threw out the phrase, and I kid you not, “Happy wife, happy life,” like it was some sacred creed to live by. I could see the words coming out of him before he even mentioned it by how much he was toying with the ring during the interview.
- Robbery Risks: Gold is expensive, and if you look at any graph online, it’s always getting pricier. In case you haven’t noticed, we’ve been on a downward spiral in the economy since 2008, and what happens when the economy tanks? Robberies are more likely to happen. You don’t need $400.00 of gold on your finger to make you stand out. Nobody is going to rob you over silicone.
- Circulatory Problems: Apart from the societal issues, you also run a risk of damaging your circulation in your hands. This is a long-term problem that also takes a long time to have happen to you, but if you’re wearing a ring and not thinking about it for years on end, it could happen to you.
- Ring Avulsion: This is the biggest problem facing anyone wearing a metal ring, and it’s something that doesn’t just go away, it has to be dealt with via surgery (if you’re lucky). Ring avulsion basically pops your finger out of place, except unlike the ball and socket joint on your shoulder, your finger just stays out of place. It takes micro surgery to fix it, and even then, there’s a very high chance that you could lose your finger.
When Should You Stop Wearing Your Ring?
If it’s causing you any harm whatsoever, you should not be wearing it. It’s a nice symbol of unity, but it’s not worth potentially losing a finger over. Even when ring avulsion isn’t a problem, you could still be affecting your blood flow and damaging nerves, just like we mentioned before.
You should stop wearing your ring when it hurts, or it’s abnormally difficult to take off. I know that the symbolism is important, but that’s all the more reason that you should look to get a silicone ring instead.
Sizing a silicone ring is simple (we even have a guide on it), and it expands with your hangs to take ring avulsion and other issues off the table.
Last but not least, if it’s just generally bothering you. This goes for gold and/or silicone – if the ring is bothersome and makes your finger irritated, just take it off. Some people try a dozen ring materials before they ever decide on one that works, or just decide not to wear them at all.
What to do if Your Spouse Isn’t Okay With Silicone Rings
We have guides on silicone rings for men and for women. If your spouse isn’t on board with you, if they really have their hearts set on a traditional metal ring, there is something you can do about it.
Many companies understand that this is a common issue as silicone rings gain traction. They’re still not beloved by everyone, and that’s totally okay. To each their own. Brands are putting out two-packs or four-packs that include a mix of silicone rings, and matching tungsten carbide rings.
It’s not gold, true, but relationships are about compromise. They can still get the feel of a metal band without having to commit to expensive gold. We gave our reasons earlier for why gold isn’t the best material for a ring, which you know well, but the cost compared to tungsten carbide is insane.
Price wise, you’re looking at roughly the same price as a high-grade silicone like Enso and Qalo rings use. It’s not going to run you a ton of money if you want to get a silicone for yourself, and a tungsten for your spouse. Just be sure they’re okay with it first.
The one thing to keep in mind, since this is the most popular hybrid option, is that tungsten carbide is tough and won’t break or crack, but it is prone to surface scratching.
More often than not, men are okay with this fact, but it might be a harder sell on your bride-to-be if it’s going to look a bit aged after the first year. Thankfully, tungsten does retain its coloration for an extremely long time.
Is It Okay to Wear a Wedding Ring After a Spouse Has Departed?
This is really up to the individual at the end of the day. This is just a bit of friendly advice that doesn’t have anything to do with silicone, it’s not anti-gold, it’s just some advice.
If you can look at your ring while it’s on your finger, no matter what it’s made out of, and smile because it makes you remember your loved one and think of good memories, then by all means keep it on. You know the risks and the potential problems already, so it just comes down to how it’s making you feel.
Many people will remove their wedding ring after their spouse has died within about three months. During bereavement, it’s easy to forget that it’s even on, especially after you’ve been wearing it for years on end. However, it can serve as a painful reminder in earlier stages of grief.
Do what feels right for you. Silicone, gold, palladium – whatever it is, keep it on or put it in a safe jewelry box so it doesn’t get lost. Nobody can judge you for keeping it on; nobody can judge you for taking it off. It’s not their issue to go through.
It All Depends
It depends on what your partner is comfortable with, what profession you work in, and whether or not there’s a reason to not wear a wedding ring.
At the end of the day, silicone bands expand with your fingers, don’t conduct electricity, can be the best alternative for those of you who don’t want to wear traditional metal bands.